2 day my dad dug his nails into my arm and climb on top of me then choke me till i throgh up. he was mad beacuse i wouldnt clean my room. i have been struggling with not having a mom and i just dont feel like doing anything anymore. i cant really cocentrate on school and most of the time wish god wouldnt wake me up every morning because i kno that it will just be the same thing. i really want to and my mom said i could live with her but my dad said no she's not able to im 16 i mostly take care of myself i have REAL money and just want her there for ''playing a part'' in my childhood. my dad tried to get my to go out to eat with the family today i didnt want to. is he crazy or what u dont beat up ur child then take he out to eat. anyway sorry this is so long and sorry for anything mispelled.
2006-10-26 12:01:10 · 12 answers · asked by it's HG !! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to report your dad to the police and child services (Department of Family & Child Services.) His rage and violence need to be controlled and you are not going to be able to do that on your own nor should you even try. You need help from the authorities. Do you have a teacher you can talk to about it? They are there to help you in more ways than school work. You need to take care of it right away or the next time your dad could actually kill you. I don't know if your dad's rage has anything to do with your mom, perhaps she left him and he never got over it. I don't know. Whatever it is it's unacceptable. If you are 16 yrs. old I don't know of any state that won't allow you to choose where you live. You have every right to call an attorney (family practice) and just ask him/her if you have the right to choose where you live and what you need to do to move with your mom. If you are in danger and feel your father would harm you more while moving call the police and ask them to come there while you gather your things and escort you to her house. In the meantime try to stay away from dad and don't do anything to rock the boat.
2006-10-26 12:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds abusive, but it is very frustrating to a parent to have a child who will not listen. There probably two sides to this, but you sound very sad. You also sound quite mature, and I would suggest that you compromise and try to work with your dad to try to make your living situation feasible. It will take both of you , but it is worth it. On the other hand, under no circumstances should he hurt you. Try your best to not make waves and to be agreeable and helpful, then see if things change for you. Being able to talk through these issues with your dad or a counselor may also help you both, if you can do this. Maybe you need to be the "grown-up" for a while. Best of luck to you.
2006-10-26 12:11:11 · answer #2 · answered by Nanneke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't treat you in that way, grabbing you around the throat is definately abuse. You made him mad, that is still no excuse. It sounds as though he is under a lot of pressure too, so keeping your room clean would help him a lot. You are 16, your room should be kept clean all the time. I hope he apologises to you and it never happens again. Good luck.
2006-10-26 13:48:59 · answer #3 · answered by jammer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is abuse. You should call another family member, and have that family member to call your mother. If she wants you she can legally take you. I'm actually surprised that you didn't call the authorities on your father for choking you.
2006-10-26 12:09:00 · answer #4 · answered by Ms.Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it's child abuse .. you should tell your mom and/or your school counselor then it will be reported to cps and the police and then you should be allowed to go live with your mom.if he does it again call the police !!! if you have marks on your neck from choking then he can and will be arrested on the spot. good luck
2006-10-26 12:05:27 · answer #5 · answered by evilprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one deserves to be abused find someone to talk to maybe your counselor at school you should be happy and not feel like you dont want to wake up please talk to someone that you trust and get some help before something really bad happens if it is this rough already he may go too far one day i will pray for you and just ask someone for help
2006-10-26 16:09:16 · answer #6 · answered by angel afraid and sad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is abuse!!! Parents are not supposed to do things like that to their children. You need to talk to your school counselor and get out of that bad situation. That is not right at all. Please ask for help, and make sure they understand!
2006-10-26 12:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by Starscape 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one has the right to physically or mentally hurt others. Tell your mom what happened and if she does nothing, please seek out an adult and talk to them about what happened. Maybe a school counsellor or one of your friends parents.
2006-10-26 12:08:14 · answer #8 · answered by Fantasy D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is abuse, seems like ur dad is having a hard time also, your family needs the Lord
2006-10-26 12:05:21 · answer #9 · answered by menguss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sad to hear. who has legal custody of you? if you really cant stand it try to get emancipated. its like disowning your parents.
2006-10-26 12:04:12 · answer #10 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋