OK. We are a gay couple.
I am 21 and he is 32, yeah i know the age difference probably plays a role in this somewhere.
I have done things in the past to make him not trust me.(lieing)
We broke up recently and I moved away for a few days, he thinks I fooled around, but the fact is I didn't.
I just wanted him back in my life.
I love him.
He is always going throught the cookies on the computer to see what i have been doing or talking to, the fact is I have never cheated and would never cheat on him.
I love him with all my heart.
He on the other hand has cheated on someone before but not on me.
Should I be worried that he is wanting someone else?
He doesn't show me affection hardly ever anymore, it takes a crow bar to get him to say I love you - without me saying it first. I mean what do I do?
How do I get through to him?
How can I fix my mistakes?
How can I get him to trust me?
Does he love me?
Does he want me?
or does he want someone else?
2006-10-26 11:36:26 · 9 answers · asked by matthewkeithsmart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first, if their is no trust then that is not much of a relationship.
second, if he is going through the cookies and everything, then it sounds like he is kida possesive and that is definatly not a good or healthy relationship.
to get through to him, just tell him how you feel. if he dosen't understand that you love him then maybe he will never really get it that you do.
you can never really fix your mistake of lying, but you can regain his trust by not doing it again and being honest
i can't tell if he loves you r not because i don't know both of you and i don't want to say difinitivly yes or no, cuz i could be wrong, but from what you said, i think he cares for you, but maybe not in love anymore
i really wish you two the best of luck, but if you guys can't get over the trust and insecurities issues, then it might be time to seperate for a while and if you were meant to be then you guys will realize it when you are apart.
good luck and i hope things work out!
2006-10-26 11:45:02 · answer #1 · answered by Stacey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you not asking him these questions? The one most important thing in a marriage is honesty and being able to talk to one another. You should be able to sit down and talk to him and both of you get your feelings out in the open.
You are playing with fire here asking perfect strangers to tell you what to do. They do not know you or your husband. They could care less if they give you the right direction to take or not. So, if one say leave him are you going to do it? And, how would a perfect stranger on Yahoo Answers know if he wants someone else? Please, grow up a little bit with this and use your head!
You need to step back and realize that you have made mistakes. He needs to step back and realize the same. Marriage is a two way street. It will not work one way. You can not fix your mistakes, you can learn by them. If you don't learn by them then you are living with blinders on.
TALK! If it boils down to the fact he will never trust you again, then the best thing may be to move on. But you better not move on unless you have owned up to everything that it took to make it wrong. Otherwise you will make the same mistake again.
2006-10-26 18:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it's just hard for him to trust you again! Give him time and reassure him that you made a mistake by lying and not being honest but, you are being faithful... Let him know about some of you're own insecurities. I think you're only thinking that he wants someone else because maybe you have thought about being with someone else (at least that's what they say) or it could be that maybe he was with someone when you were split up and he feels guilty. Just let him know that you will prove that you can be trusted but, if he can't let the mistake go and move on and try to pursue a healthy relationship then maybe there just isn't one left to salvage anymore.
2006-10-26 18:48:45 · answer #3 · answered by mrsross 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of that relationship and move on that is the best way to get him to trust you. Stop looking a guys and find a mice girl that will love you and give you the affection you are looking for. It will never work with a man there will always be a ? of trust. He does not want you anymore. I even dough he loves you. You were just a play toy. Sorry and GOOD LUCK
2006-10-26 18:43:03 · answer #4 · answered by Andrew B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't sound like you can fix your mistakes. He's lost trust in you & it doesn't sound like he's willing to try to trust you again. You need to come to terms with the fact that it's time to move on. Sorry, I know that is not what you want to hear.
2006-10-26 18:39:52 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like hes super paranoid about you cheating, (even though you havent) because hes done that in the past....Id just see how things go..if he doesnt change soon , move on...its better to start over with someone new ,than to be a doormat. best wishes!
2006-10-26 18:45:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
would you really like to know what is wrong with your relatinship? It is wrong. This is God's way of telling you that you are disobeying him and he doesnt approve.
2006-10-26 18:39:35 · answer #7 · answered by *Heather* 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
he's only nailing you. he'll always be only nailing you.
don't get stuck with a baby he won't acknowledge.
2006-10-26 18:41:18 · answer #8 · answered by nobudE 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
why do you write something like that
2006-10-26 18:38:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋