PLEASE help me this isnt a joke or though its sounds like one?

Question

hi last night i was handcuffed to a bed by my mate as a joke but then later was found by a drunken 18 year old woman i dont go out with, but is the mate of my girlfriend, THIS IS NO WORD OF A LIE AND A SERCIOUS QUESTION. she just jumped on me and undressed my jeans and then felt me up with my boxers on, i was saying get off me stop it but she just said be quiet and closed the door and put loud music on. Anyway next thing i new it she had got her hand in my boxers doing hand motions with it( im not going into detail as i could get reported for adult content even though this is sercious) and then she stoped, then took a pic on my mobile of her tongue next to my privates and she sent it to my girlfriend. and then left me in the room with my lower body naked.

I HAVE NOW GOT NO GIRLFRIEND AND EVERYONE HATES ME, i didnt do anything, how the fcuk can i sort this out?

answering the second question I DIDNT LET HER I TRIED KICKING HER AND THAT BUT IT DIDNT WORK, SHE WAS FAT AND HEIVY, OOOO AND I WAS FCUKING HANDCUFFED U *****.

Answer 1

1. Go to the police.

2. You were assaulted.

3. You will be embarrassed.

4. The police will laugh at you.

5. Tell the police you have the proof and may have to show the picture to them.

6. Either do this, or give up and go for counseling.....you were assaulted, and you may have a difficult time ever trusting a woman again if you don't get help.......
7. Or find a good person of the clergy that you could discuss this with, and make sure he's not gay!

8. Find the courage to discuss this with your "mate", and find out how he can help.

9. Make sure the girl knows you're considering legal action against her....but just who are your witnesses....were you drunk at the time.....and who the heck put handcuffs on you.

10. What lessons did you learn about yourself and then about handcuffs.........

11. Now don't be ashamed of yourself....if this is true, you were a victim the same way girls are abused, and raped.

12. Take care of yourself, because you can sort this out....those who can't help you are not your friends.....and don't try revenge as you will only get in more trouble.

Perhaps your girlfriend may understand, but she won't understand why you were handcuffed to your bed by your mate......something still sounds fishy!

Answer 2

If this is not a Joke then I will be deadly serious.

If you are serious, very very serious and you want your girl friend back.

As a Male fantasy and if you were not in serious relationship- this may sound a great experience to a lot of people (men mostly)

Question I would ask- what would response be- if the tables were turned and this question was posted by a girl

You may not have be expecting an answer like this

But my friend - if you did not consent to this act, then you where sexually assaulted and you should go to the police-

You even have photographic evidence- that would soon sort the ***** out- and if your mate confirms he hand cuffed you to bed- you have a case

Maybe I am over reacting?

Answer 3

If this is a serious question than you need to go to the police. Turn the situation around. If you had done this to her it would automatically be reported to the police as assault, the police would arrest you, question you for hours and then throw you in a ploice cell for hours. This girl had no right to do what she did to you. It is sexual assault as you said you were telling her to stop and she didn't. This was not a mutual sexual exchange and therefore she has broken the law. Go to the police and report her and try and get hold of the video evidence. Anyway you have nothing to lose with that friendship and once your girlfriend knows what is going on she will hopefully get back together with you, especially if you have a strong relationship. I think also you should tell your friends boyfriend. Dont worry it will sort itself out, and I am a great believer that the truth will eventually come out,and believe me what goes around, comes around.

Answer 4

This sounds tricky and im sorry for that happening to you. I cant say its happened to me, but i can imagine it not being nice if your already involved. It sounds like your mates were in on the whole "joke" and so was the woman! If you didnt know her, how did she know your gf's number to send the pic? Sounds like your mates told her about your gf , name etc. Your mates should back you up and tell your gf that they were fooling around. they dont sound like real mates if they did this to you and your gf has left you for THEIR fault! This isnt your fault. Try and talk to your gf and tell them the whole story that it was your mates who handcuffed you to the bed! I know if I was in her shoes it does look bad. But thats the only thing you can do. If she doesnt listen to you, im afraid it seems like she wasnt that interested in you and making this work between you to. If she ignores you, Id forget her and find someone else. You say everyone hates you. Whos everyone? Yours mates? They shouldnt hate you YOU DID NOTHING WRONG!! Also i think you should report this incident. It is classed as sexual assault. If it was the other way around the man would get in so much trouble, so why not for the woman?! Alos, why were you in your boxers? hope you get things sorted take care x

Answer 5

Yes,I agree threaten this girl with the police if she doesn't tell your girlfriend that she set you up.If she does tell your girlfriend the truth it's up to you whether you choose to go further with a complaint to the police,but at least you may get your girlfriend back.I'd also make this girl admit in front of some of your friends in order that people are aware of the things she is capable of doing.What a complete ***** she is,I normally stick up for the women,but am aware that these things do actually happen to men,so try to be fair in my opinions.Good luck I hope you get her, big time.

Answer 6

seriously i would phone the police.
Who the hell does this big fat ***** think she is to do that to you have you tried talking to your girlfriend again?? she will be very upset but it is worth a try.
I can't really give you any more advice apart from i think you should punch this girl in the mouth if the police wont do anything.
If this had been the other way around then you would be in serious trouble with the police.
GRRRRRR i will kill her for you if you like babes.
Anyway best of luck n take care xx

Answer 7

And why pray tell is a 17 yr old male letting his mate handcuff him to a bed???!! Mmmm??? That's the bit I'd like to hear more about!!!!
A guy is ok with his mate handcuffing him to a bed, but is NOT ok with a woman giving him a w.ank!!
Are you sure he didn't take you in the closet too, maybe it's time you came out of there hun!

Answer 8

I agree totally with 'may I help you' comments - If this had happened the other way round (man on woman) there would be a lot more serious answers to go with your serious question. You sound stressed out, understandably, by this. Report her, give the police the picture, tell them it was non consential and let the police turn up to question her. Good luck.

Answer 9

meet up with your girlfriend and tell her everything in details
Honesty is what counts in a relationship and eventhough she might not believe you at first, then don't give up and she will end up trusting you again. Plus your mates can actually help you on the situation, no??
How did you put yourself in this situation is one thing, you sorting it out for the people you care, that's another.
Good luck and track that woman down, and get her back.

Answer 10

Wow, I'm not sure you can sort it out. All you can do is plead your case to your girlfriend. Is your face in the picture, tell your girlfriend to look at your face and hopefully she'll be able to tell how distressed you were. I know I would want to get revenge on that stupid little twit. Keep your mobile phone camera handy, try to think of a way to get her in compromising position and snap a pic of her. Threaten to publish it all over the Internet if she doesn't come clean and tell your girlfriend and everyone else the truth.