how do you get through....?

Question

I have been told by the doctor that i am depressed something i thought would never happen to me.
I am at a very low point, i still life my life everyday e.g work etc... Everyone thinks i am fine as i put a front on. i struggle to show my emoition and feelings. I have really bad days, it got to the stage of i was considering killing myself, tablets bought i found myself sitting at a bridge. known i needed help i phoned my friend she spoke to me and stopped me.this friend make me go and see the doctor!

i know i would not do anything to myself but it still doesnt stop me thinkin about it! Im lucky to have 2-3 very close friends who i can phone and will stop me. 2day is a bad day.

What i want to know is how do you deal with it and get through this?

Please honest and geniue answers thanks. x

The doctor has asked me if i wanted to go on pills, i wasnt to sure about going on them, so i decided to say no and the moment but it is open for me to go back to get them.
As for the question do i drink, i dont actually drink that often i would be lucky if i have 5 drinks a month.
Thankyou all for your answer they really do help me, and any advice would be great. i know i am not alone and this helps me see and understand it more.
As i say any help/advice would be good to see how you get through?
Thanks x

Answer 1

You know deep down that eventually with help this will pass & that is another reason you dont harm yourself. You also have friends & family that you dont want to hurt by doing something silly. Also if your like me you may be a bit nosey & wonder what might happen when your not around. How do I know this? I have had depression for many many years and I too put on this happy front. Your not sure why you feel like you do - you just do. The worst thing anyone can do is fuss you or tell you to "pull yourself together". I know. However, with the right help for you, be it counselling (& there are some fantastic counsellers out there) or drugs, it is nothing to be ashamed of. In this world we live in everyone expects so much from each other & themselves, and sometimes it is impractical. Please dont loose hope, you can either treat & get through it - or treat, live with & control it as I do. Your not alone & your NOT being stupid. It will get better....go to your Dr & if your not happy with his/her response....see another. Some Drs are better at helping those with
depr ession than others
there is a Dr there I promise.
I hope this helps, just remember you are unique & people should be privilaged to know you - you are worthy of being happy.
Janice

Answer 2

Depression is a horrid thing and a very dark place to live in hon. I do not normally tell people to get anti depressants but it is an option. What you need to find out is if this is a chemical imbalance or a *mental* problem. One can be helped with pills and the other can get you past the dark places.

My partner is on them as she needs to be because of imbalances. Don't be afraid to ask the doctor exactly what s/he thinks and don't be afraid to snort at him/her too.

But if you are experiencing such swings I think you should reconsider the meds, at least for a bit. If you are really skeptical about them try St. John's wort. Some people are allergic to this though so pay attention to how and what you are feeling after taking one or two.
I had a friend who did real well on that too.

Answer 3

Okay so first up I hope your doctor is taking this seriously - if he isn't insist on seeing someone else sharpish. However when you feel like this, you don't feel like having a scrap with a doctor so it may help to ask a friend to go with you or phone on your behalf as an advocate - it's my experience that you only get anywere with medics if you're super assertive.

Also know that depression is often a chemical imbalance so don't beat yourself up about it and a short course of anti-depressants may help.

Second - take it one step at a time - one second at a time if needs be.

Third - be kind to yourself. Try and plan some stuff for each day that is a distraction to stop you going round and round in your head - go to the flicks, see an exhibition, explore your home town as if you were a tourist etc. And plan a treat for yourself each day - doesn't have to be anything fancy - a nice bubble bath, a home facial some scented candles etc

Fourth - remind yourself of what you have going for you - you obviously have friends who care at the very least

This will pass - in the meantime hang on in there :-)

Answer 4

By the sound of it you have bi-polar syndrome which is the modern name for being a manic-depressive. Everyone is different some people just get over it, some can do it with counselling and some need medication again varying amounts. My wife has been on medication for about 20 years and until this year she was fine but she is bad again and we are changing the medication. What I am trying to say is that there is no general answer. Go and seek advise from a psychiatrist. It is a very common condition so they are all experienced and try whatever he or she suggests until you get it right. It will come right eventually.

Answer 5

Many people who are depressed dont want to have to take tablets because they feel they will be looked upon as freaks who need medication . But this is not the case at all ,doctors will only advise pills if they think they will help in the situation,at least try them for a little while u may find that they help.
Also enjoy the little things in life,a sunny day in autum, company of friends , blowing bubbles in your drink{always cheers me up}
and always laugh, theres noyhing like a good giggle with your friends{ besides laughing releases hormones that help keep you happy}and theres nothing wrong with being sad once in a while every one is at some stage
hop eyou have abetter day 2morrow
Love Joyhope

Answer 6

Hi, ive had depression on and off for years, sometimes its triggered by something, like when my dad died, other times it just descends on me like a dark blanket, smothering me.

Ive come close to killing myself too, but imagine how much pain and anguish it will cause to the people who love you, so please dont.

You could try therapy, not everyone finds it helpfull, but a lot of people do, so its worth a try.

You dont say whether the doc has prescribed anything, if he has, please be aware that it will take a few weeks to kick in, so dont expect miricles.

A lot of people say tablets arent the answer, but if they can lift your mood a bit, and make day to day living a bit more bearable, it can help.

If you dont fancy therapy, try the samaritans. They are non-judgemental, offer advice, and best of all will just listen, and sometimes just having a rant and letting it all out can help so much.

You are not alone in this, dpression is a serious problem that lots of people have been through, I know what its like to feel so low you feel there is no point in life, but there is life after depression, it can take a while, but there is a happier future for you, it just takes time.

You are very lucky to have a few friends who you can rely on, lean on them as much as you need, thats what friends are for. Never feel you are annoying them or interrupting their life, they would not want you to think that, so make sure you talk to them as much as you need to. After all, you would be there for them, wouldnt you.

I hope you get well soon, big hugs and gentle kisses,

lozz xx

Answer 7

Take your anti-depressants, and find a good counselor you can talk to. Don't be ashamed, depression is caused by a chemical imbalance, therefore it's a physical ailment, just like other health problems, like arthritis or diabetes. Try to go for a daily 30 minute walk, that helps too. Don't take herbal supplements for depression if you are taking a prescription for it, this can be really bad for you and make you sick. Ask your Dr. for an anti-depressant with the least amount of side effects. Good Luck to you!

Answer 8

go and visit a hypnotist, i am not joking, i went earlier in the year when i had had enough of everybody and everything. i wanted to cry all the time and my anger inside was unbelievable.believe me i had been through a lot in my life. i had had to deal with a relationship break up/being a single parent and still keep a job/ no family support because my ex husband managed to turn my family against me for nearly two years/found a new partner and sold my house (which was mine and my child's security)to start a new life with him/his mother got jealous and caused such trouble so as to get her son back for herself/at the same time i was going through a divorce. get the jist?
i tried it when i didn't know what else to do as i didn't want to take pills and all i can say is it worked for me!!! try it

Answer 9

i think you should go back and visit your doctor and ask to be referred for counselling. i know your friends are brilliant but can you be totally honest with them or do you find yourself holding things back cos you don't want to hurt/scare them with your thoughts? a trained councellor will listen and help you to help yourself without ramming advice down your throat. i know you said no to medication but maybe it would be a good thing to start you on the road back to being your normal, happy self. taking meds for 3 - 6 months is far better than saying no and then doing something that ends your life. hope you feel better soon.

Answer 10

hasn't your doctor prescribed antidepressants for you? i too have had depression twice .the second time was 5 years ago,i saw a psychiatrist and he prescribed the pills ,unfortunately they didn't work ,then i saw my GP and he gave me different ones that did work ,i must be honest they dint work straight away ,they took 8 weeks to kick in .its been a long struggle ,but be live me there Isa light at the end of the tunnel,please see some one a.s.a.p