I was in India for my knee treatment & after surgeroy i requried Theorpy,,The Dr who gave me theropy cared alot of me ,,She and me became good friends...at tht time we felt we are close &care for each other love eachother alot ,,she is younger to me so i used to tell her I am like her elder sis&we had good time.Then i had to come back to States ,,After coming back i starting finding change in her & told her also bt she said ther is nothing like tht bt i get hurted with her behaviour nw i requested to her mail me bt she she did i start now she has stopped ,,we chat for few min ,,i wake till my late ours like 2 or 3 am to chat with her bt from her side she has to sleep in time orshe is busy with pts or family or herTV serials r more imp,Now i feel it was just a small time liking nothing else ,i told her it was good if we could have been just Dr and patient..I dont knw i feel hurted with all this ,,I cant expalin how much i love her care for her I took her like small child.I fell broken
2006-10-26 11:01:01 · 4 answers · asked by koni1975 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She is a doctor and she has busy hours, u too try to drift ur mind in something you would like to do. dont worry everything will be fine.
2006-10-26 19:24:02 · answer #1 · answered by Cool gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dr's are busy people. So what ever little time they have at home they like spending it with their family. She can chat once in a while but don't expect her to do it all the time after all she has a life of their own.
Plus you are giving your self a hard time. Just move on. Its ok. Its life and things happen. Some people come in your life for a reason once the reasoning is over they move on and so should you.
2006-10-26 20:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by Blueberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're taking it too hard on yourself...
Just let it go...
She is a professional and to take care of you and make you feel comfortable is her job.
The way you describe the situation, I think she did a fair job.
But dont get involved with this relationship. You are a nice girl. You felt for her thats great affection itself. You spent nice time .. so just live it till it lasted.
Shes got a family and a life of hers to live.
Besides, think this way that if shes such a nice person imagine all her patients developing a deep friendship with her, calling her often and expecting attention.
As per our Holy Book "Geeta", the reason for all sufferring is "expectations". So dont expect from people, Just do your best and be happy.
I hope you get , what I wish to convey.
2006-10-26 16:34:24 · answer #3 · answered by Frank_walker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts when you have great affection for someone and the person does not seem as much interested in having such a relationsip as you are, but then we have to respect their decisions. I read somewhere that at our low times, we often form great intimacy with our caretakers and helpers and even fellow sufferers and victims. This is just natural. While as a caretaker, this person just tried to be nice to you so that you feel comfortable in India during the time of your therapy. She did not bond with you that much. You were her client/patient, that's it. You have gone back to your homeland and she prefers her family to her patients. I know it is bitter and hurtful that she does nto return or even understands your affections but perhaps that is her way of dealing with coming in contact of so many people who then have to leave her and go on with your lives. She maintains a distance with her patients so she is not hurt when they drift apart. That is her nature. It will take time but move on and restrict your mails and calls to special occasions such as Christmas/New Year/her birthday etc. and do not try to have long chats with her. If she is more comfortable that way, then perhaps you need to find another companion for yourself near you. Some friendships are meant just for a few days to remind you that there are nice people everywhere but you just need to move on.
2006-10-28 00:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋