I'm recently divorced.... and have been living abroad for all this time...
2006-10-26 10:45:55 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do it...you will only regret it if you don't.
I did it a few years ago and on first look i thought oh my god whateva did i see in him, loosing his hair awful....got talking and it was like i had seen him yesterday and nothing has to get romantic again if its not for you.
If i hadnt done it i would still be kicking myself now cos he is now in my life and is the best friend i coiuld eva ask for(but my husband hates him and he hates my husband bad point!!!)
2006-10-26 11:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by sam y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have already established you are single, what about him? As long as he is single, I don't see a problem. I think you should go for it.
Please keep this in mind. Seventeen years is a lot of time. With the passage of time, comes a lot of changes. I am not necessarily referring to aging and all of the things associated with aging. I am referring to personality changes, behavior changes, etc. Be prepared for what you might encounter with this man. Hopefully as a fine wine, you both have only gotten better over the last 17 years. He may not be what you fell in love with for the very first time 17 years ago. You may not be what he fell in love with 17 years ago.
I guess what I am trying to say is, go for it, but go for it with an open mind and absolutely no expectations built up in your mind. You will be better off in the long run.
2006-10-26 11:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by bowtierodz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would converse through email or something of that nature first. I wouldnt rush in to a face to face meeting. After 17 years you guys are differnt people. And if you havent had any contact in that long there is no telling what he has been up to. He could have been in jail for abuse or something.
2006-10-26 10:57:22 · answer #3 · answered by CHOCOLATE_SCORP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There really cant be any harm in meeting in a public place for a chat over dinner, just dont jump in with both feet.
See how the meeting goes and swap phone numbers, i wouldnt swap addresses just yet.
Nice and slow, i bet things are quite different after all these years
2006-10-26 10:49:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my first love after 27 years and we got to know the people we are now and liked what we discovered, however, that special chemistry has always been there between us. We have been living together for nearly 3 years and our love grows stronger everyday. Go for it, what have you got to lose and everything to gain
2006-10-27 03:12:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI, I met up with my first love last September and he asked me back out, at first I wasn't going to, then I thought why not. We got married in May and I haven't looked back. We have both changed and also he's settled down a lot and is happier now than he's ever been.
2006-10-26 11:24:20 · answer #6 · answered by dragon64 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. He may lighten up your life a bit. Just talking doesn't mean you"re commiting yourself to him. If you rediscover a friendship in that person then maybe there could be hope for a relationship and if not then you"ve lost nothing and you will not wonder "what if" for the rest of your life. give it a chance:)
2006-10-26 10:52:43 · answer #7 · answered by Coach ART 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ER why did you two split in the first place? 17 years...neither of you will be the same people as before (Der!) see them as a friend you gotta be curious, i would be. use phone Email etc first in case they are now not what you are looking for. P.S use a condom :-)
2006-10-26 10:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by dogbob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are inclined, then go meet him with an open mind and no preconceived notions or expectations. No harm in catching up with an old friend, right? Then just let nature take its course. Enjoy!
2006-10-26 10:50:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only have sex with him after a nice expsensive dinner. Chances are he ahs been stalking you for all these years and his ready to pounce. So get the dinner first.
2006-10-26 10:48:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋