every day, every night,he is in my mind,I even have dreams of him, that we are togeter and so happy. The big problem is that been married for 3 years. my husband is a nice guy and I love him but anyways with my ex I just feelt this passion, that I can't explain, I thougth maybe with the years , I can forget him, but like i just said I been married for 3 and nothing, I still, can get him out of my mind, I don't know that to do.
2006-10-26 10:36:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Same issue happened with me. I still cared for the ex a lot. Thought maybe I even still loved him. For several years into being married.
But when it comes down to it? I'm not the same person I was 8 years ago when we dated. And I'm sure he's not either. And there's a reason it didn't work then. The same reason it would never work now. I realized, how could I still be in love with someone I don't know anymore? I was in love with something that didn't exist.
The question isn't whether or not you still love the other guy. The question is whether or not you love your husband. Don't dump your husband for another guy. Do it because you don't love him. But remember, you made a promise to him.
2006-10-26 10:41:43 · answer #1 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably didn't allow yourself enough time to heal from the pain of your previous relationship before you became seriously involved with your new husband. Obviously it's too late to do that now, but you must stop looking back and get on with your life without that other guy. It is possible to control your thoughts, so do it. Forget your ex because your husband should have a faithful wife in every way.
2006-10-26 13:49:22 · answer #2 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You thought maybe you'd forget him - but did you WANT to forget him?
Have you kept tabs on him - know where he lives, works? Do you talk to your ex or email on a regular basis? If so, why? If not, how do you know he hasn't moved on- moved away and/or gotten married?
Why did the two of you break up in the first place? And, last but not least, why did you marry your husband - for love or convenience?
IMO it sounds as if you might be experiencing the 'grass is greener' situation. My advice is to ask yourself & honestly answer the above questions - then decide where to go from there.
2006-10-26 10:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by crazybouthorses68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell yourself you are going to stop thinking about him right now. And the next time you catch yourself thinking of him, again tell yourself you will not allow such thoughts. Keep repeating this everytime, and also think why he is your ex. It is all mind over matter.
2006-10-26 11:55:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am like you in away. i can not get my ex out of my mind. people tell me that it takes time to get them off your mind try doing something to keep him off your mind. i listen to music go for a walk talk to my friends. i just keep busy so i dont think of him. i have my good days and bad days. i dont know what else to tell you. you could try to read a book. i dont know if i am helping or not sorry for bothering you.
2006-10-26 11:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't stop thinking about my ex. Thinking about how he's a BUM how I'd like to see him suffer in a inhumane way. How he has not seen his kid in nearly 4 years never pays support. ex's are ex's for a REASON let it GO!
2006-10-26 10:39:59 · answer #6 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have in simple terms gotten your self passionate with reference to the subject remember. no longer a sturdy one nevertheless, by way of fact it may desire to at last make you supply up experiencing existence as completely as you may. in case you are able to not will your self far flung from questioning approximately it you are able to evaluate some classes with a therapist.
2016-10-16 10:50:54 · answer #7 · answered by hultman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about the reasons why you divorced him. Think about the fighting the yelling, screaming, the bad things about him...the reason why it didnt work. That should settle that issue.
2006-10-26 10:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by magickitty0621 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for 3yrs you haven't been able to stop thinking about this man?
Why did you break up, just think about that when you start thinking about him.
2006-10-26 15:05:56 · answer #9 · answered by Ant O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋