Husbands, do your wives deny you sex more than they say yes and how do you deal with it?

Question

I have sex with my wife twice a month, so I have to be self reliant.

Answer 1

my husband getsSEX when ever he wants it. usually three to four times a week and sometimes more.

Answer 2

I average once a month, so your one up on me. She'll give me a "hand" now and then, which helps, but I'm still trying to figure out how to deal with this. I to am self reliant most of the time, rather not be, but sometimes I guess we don't have a choice. I've tried a lot of things, talking about it doesn't seem to help, only puts her off more, I think she then feels obligated then and is not into it. I've gotten angry and resentful and kind of shut her out, that really helps a lot. I'm starting to think that if a you want to get some, you have to go back to the days that you were first dating and constantly kiss *** and give her want she wants all of the time to get what you want some of the time.

Answer 3

Yes, my wife denies me s_x. About 6 six years ago I thought I had a problem getting it up, and I went to the doctor and they prescribed a pump, but she refused to assist me with it.
She told me it was my problem not hers, and I went back to the doctor he told me that if she did not participate that the pump would do no good.
How do I deal with it? You probably know the answer already, but I have to look elsewhere. She knows it I think, but she tells me just to bring the paycheck home.
It may not be the right thing to do, but I am not going to go another 8 years without it.
Unless a person has been there and done that, then they do not want I am talking about or understand.
This may not be the answer you are looking for, but at least it is a honest answer.

Answer 4

Ok lets just say i know how you feel yet i am the wife in the marriage. My hubby will tell me no and we can only have sex when he thinks its ok when he is not "tired" makes me want to kill him. Before we got married it was hey lets do this all the time after we got married he said and i quote "We dont need to have sex as much anymore because we are married" !!!!!!! What the F*** I was like we should be having it more because we are married damn it lol ok sorry that ended up being a little bit of a rant.

Answer 5

That is a problem that many married men have. Either find a way to get her to be more giving, become 'self reliant' or end it and find another.

Answer 6

Everyone operates with NEEDS & WANTS. The trick is to be fair about it.

If you are fullfillinging her wants and she's not filling your wants, then you are out of balance and you need to balance things.

If that means pulling back on the romance or curbing her spending then thats equally fair. There is generous and then there is being taken advantage of. Fair is fair.

Would you let me spend your money and demand romance?
Be honest, you let her spend your half of your shared money because she does stuff including sex. If she is not doing as much for you why should you allow her to still take the same from you?

Like I said fair is fair.

Answer 7

I am in your shoes. I only have sex with my husband about twice a month. It drives me CRAZY. I too am self reliant.

Answer 8

This is very common. Yes somtimes the wife wants it more than the man but that is the exception not the rule.

This is why many men cheat.

Answer 9

I feel bad sometimes I work 6-7 days a week and my hubby works 6 days a week midnights so when we are home together i am usually exhausted!

Answer 10

twice a month...oh my my husband gets it sometimes twice a day...

i couldn't go that long with it...and i sure as hell won't be self reliant...that to me is boring...

Answer 11

My wife rarely denies me sex. I rarely deny her. We just have to wait until the kids go to sleep.