had a husband that got arrested and convicted of a drug felony stayed and waited for them mine has a year in jail to do i love him but he didnt consider how his actions affected me and his daughter should i stand by him or run
2006-10-26 10:30:32 · 13 answers · asked by angela s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he said hes sorry he got in an accident in 1999 and has a anurism in his back and changed a precription for pain medication he also failed his drug screen when they sentenced him had 3 types of pain medication and only 1 was perscribed to him
2006-10-26 10:48:15 · update #1
used different drugs since he was 12 stopped 3 years ago all but the pain pills
2006-10-26 10:49:30 · update #2
he said he needs help i guess he wants to take the first step
2006-10-26 14:31:37 · update #3
ok, jail time implies that this isn't recreational fun. now that he's incarcerated, what's his plan next? more of the same?....definitely time to walk on. But, if he's making the effort to change.....and you still love him and want him in your life....give it a shot. Just be advised, you need to be able to walk if things go south though.
2006-10-26 10:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by no_wait_hes_spartacus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your getting all kinds of advice Honey, aren't you? He's been into this for quite a long time, hasn't he. Most States have a drug program for those that want it.
Ask and yee shall find. See if your has a drug program, if it has he has to want it. It may be for, say a year, then during that year he would have to take many drug tests (pee in the bottle type of thingy) every time he fails, he adds to the time. He will reach an end where they'll say "no more" and put him back inside so, it would be up to him. There would be other stipulations also like working, half way house,etc.
In some States, like Nevada, the District Attorneys office has a program for spouses to help them get a divorce on the States time. Some others may have this, they also have a help program for the family. I personally know some women that have saved their children and gone forward to productive lives but, without their conniving spouse that ended up doing time.
He sounds like a loser, more than likely he's into drugs big time and doesn't want to stop, he's a career druggie.
2006-10-26 18:05:00 · answer #2 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person really loves another person.
1. They would not put them in this situation to begin with
2. he is arrested for drugs he has already put that first in his life before you and his daughter. and needs to get help for that first before he can even give you what you need or put you guys first.
3. he wouldn't ask you to put your life on hold for a year for him.
4. He meant to do it. He just didn't mean to get caught.
5. I understand you love him but did he love you enough not to put you in this situation.
6. You are a human being. you need love and affection, human touch and contact- that is to much to ask of you to go without for a year.
7. You should think about moving on to person who would not even think about putting you in this situation in the first place.
8. you can meet people on a chat line 621-4444. it's free for women. they uaually tell you about themselves and what they are looking for and their interest so you can find someone that might have the same goals or wants as you. Be careful though for liars, take your time and don't rush, and always meet in a public place for safety and never give your home number.(just in case) I give my cell or i call them and hit *69 first. Most people understand it's for a womans safety if they don't them move on to the next. There are alot of really nice men out their that have manner, respect, and are just looking for a nice woman to share time together.
it's a start and it will help you keep your mind off of him.
2006-10-26 17:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by ANGELA P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea how you feel about him so it would be hard for me to tell you whether to stay or leave. His actions was wrong since it has affected you and your daughter and I don't agree with this. But then again only you can decide whether to wait for him or run.
2006-10-26 17:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drugs inevitably lead to violence, often deadly. Why put yourself and your daughter at risk like that? I would say run. I wouldn't necessarily say this for any situation in which a husband is in jail, but in this case, staying with him means playing with fire FOR LIFE.
2006-10-26 17:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by James L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can not make that type of decision for you that would be up to you do what you think is best because you are the one that has to live with the situation
2006-10-26 17:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by mr. Bob 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just ask yourself one question? Is this the future that I want for myself and my child? Think long and hard, because your decision will effect you and your child forever. I hope things work out well for you and the decision you make is the right one. Just pray about.
2006-10-26 17:37:59 · answer #7 · answered by luvmykids2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's acceptable to you to be married to a convict who doesn't give a damn about you or your daughter - then stay. What's acceptable varies from person to person. It would be absolutely unacceptable to me.
2006-10-26 17:33:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if u love him--stand by him
if u don't love him--run
remember---we are all only human---and we all make mistakes
as long has he learns from the mistake and doesn't let it happen again
2006-10-26 17:32:08 · answer #9 · answered by sunbun 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We do not know him, so it would be unfair to say. The choice is yours. Do what is best for you and your child.
2006-10-26 17:31:46 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋