2006-10-26 10:01:37 · 47 answers · asked by theresajstephens 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes...and be prepared to get a lawyer.
2006-10-26 10:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The most important advice I could give you. Do what you feel is right. If you want to tell him the truth it would be wise. If you don't want to tell him it will be on your conscience. Also, if someone in his family or your family gets wind of the situation it could turn out much worse. It's best you tell him the truth after all he does deserve to know. Maybe you should seek counseling as well. It could possibly turn your marriage around and he might just forgive you in the process. Most of all explain to him why you had an affair, reassure him that it's over between you and his cousin.
If you still love your husband tell him or let him go. You know he's going to be hurt when you tell him so be prepared for that and you certainly can't blame him for that. You might be surprised if you tell him, he may forgive you. Seriously, do what you think is best from your heart. To be quite honest he deserves the right to know, especially if you love or don't love him. Otherwise, he's going to think nothings wrong until he finds out about your secret. Best of luck!
2006-10-26 10:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to approach a relationship is complete honesty. If you are willing to save your marriage you have to stop the affair and let your husband know that you have acknowledged the mistake that you have made. It will take an awful lot of time to build up that trust again but it is better than him finding out about the affair on his own. Believe me, he will find out. I guess I believe that the most important thing in a marriage is honesty - without this the intimate relationship that marriage was intended for will disintegrate.
Make sure that when you tell him you take responsibility for it and use a lot of I statements. That way the communication will be open.
All the best
2006-10-26 10:06:37 · answer #3 · answered by mumof1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's already bad enough that you are cheating on your husband but with his cousin? Come on..You could have done better than that. I hope there aren't any children involved..AND yes I believe your husband has a right to know. Wouldn't you if the shoes were on the other foot? Think about it...
2006-10-26 10:12:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to end up in divorce court yes. Why would you do this? And why would you want to tell your husband? Have you thought about how your husband and his cousin is going to feel about what you are doing?
Cheating is never good, and is one of the top reasons for divorce in the US.
2006-10-26 10:04:37 · answer #5 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES! You married this man. He deserves to know that you are no longer in it for real. It's not fair to him.
It's better that you tell him and get a semi-peaceful divorce then it would be for the other man or his cousin to tell him and have the divorce be messier than necessary.
Besides, if you tell him AND you still love him, maybe he's gullible enough to go for therapy and the belief that this won't happen again.
2006-10-26 10:03:02 · answer #6 · answered by Esma 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because you are commiting Adultry, tell him or divorce him, because this shows me you don't love your husband any more, tell him nicely, and having an affair with someone else's husband dosen't help either, if you don't want a riot to happen, then I suggest you divorce your poor husband and not tell him, or stay with him and forget about it and never cheat on him again!
2006-10-26 10:04:58 · answer #7 · answered by JOLIE69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you should tell him!! He might say he wants a divorce, but that is just something you will have to live with he deserves to know!! , but only tell him if you are going to end it! If your not going to end it then what is really the point of telling him now? I would tell him, but if he says he wnats a divorcce then you will just have to accept his decision! Everything has it's price and sometimes a divorce is the price of an affair!
2006-10-26 10:11:32 · answer #8 · answered by Erica M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I think u should. U have to put yourself in his shoes. and let's say he was having an affair with your cousins wife, how would u feel? and wouldn't u want to know. It may cause a divorce, and it may not. It's a chance u have to take
2006-10-26 10:06:12 · answer #9 · answered by DIANE C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, you know why? this is going to follow you were ever you go and i know you don't want to end up on Maury or Jerry springer because you don't know who the baby is or something even worse. i know it wont look nice and pretty at the end but you will know that you have did something to prevent those type of thoughts.
thank you,
and have a wonderful and bless day.
2006-10-26 10:07:59 · answer #10 · answered by tweety 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should. Because if he finds out or hears it from someone else the outcome would be way worse. If i were him id like to hear it straight from the horses mouth
2006-10-26 11:03:58 · answer #11 · answered by CHOCOLATE_SCORP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋