Ive been with my partner now 5 years. And we sleep in different rooms. after one year?

Question

Ive put on weight due to my medication.I have a condition in layman terms that is fibromyaliga. it is an autoimmune deseases.He says that he loves me .but im begining to wonder. All i want is to be loved. He is always telling me what to do . cant drink have fun my life is boring spend my life in my room. lost my children because of this. PLEASE HELP AND ADVISE

Answer 1

bless you babe all i can say is dump him,i have fibro amongst other things and the last thin u need is someone bein horrible to u babe specialy as u feel so poorly, you need someone who understands and takes care of you, so kick him out have some you time n wen your ready find a lovin carin man your worth more than that come on big smile xxx

Answer 2

He sounds like a right ar*ehole. It is not your fault you are ill and why are you letting him boss you about. Right you need to get your independence. Firstly if you haven't got a job get one, I know nothing about your illness but if you cannot work try doing some voluntary work. This will help you make friends and get away from HIM. Go to the volunteer bureau or local jobcentre for this. Try starting some classes like art, creative writing, gym etc meet new people. If you want to have a drink have one don't let him boss you about. Get a dog they're great company and you'll meet people walking it. Make more effort to see your existing friends and spend time independently. I'm sorry about your children - but there is light at the end of the tunnel. Take small steps each week say this week I'm gonna do this and do it. get you life back. Why do you sleep in seperate rooms? There is not enough info to give more advice. Also if you feel badly depressed see a doctor some medication might help. Keep postive, don't let him bring you down, look after yourself and start getting some hobbies etc as above. Good luck xx

Answer 3

how have you lost your children? it sounds to me like you are a little depressed. have you spoken to your gp about this? it is really important that you and your partner commuicate. let him know how you feel. sleeping in different rooms does not necessarily make for a doomed relationship. many couples do this for a variety of reasons - such as snoring. i really hope that you guys can work it out. perhaps you can spend a little money on a personal trainer for a couple of months to get your fitness back (even if your medication puts on weight, you should still try to stay fit) which will give you more vitality for life.
you should maybe look at spending more time out of the house. go to the cinema, a college course once a week, or go for a walk to a friends house. try to stay positive.
not drinking is difficult, i understand, but dont let that get you down. many people are unable to drink for a variety of reasons. we all get dealt some kind of personal ailment (physical, or mental) and the way we live through it is what makes us stronger. all the best

Answer 4

Go and speak to your GP. He/she may be able to arrange for counselling or similar help or even a short course of anti depressants to give you the omphh to get back on tract and sort your life out. You sound like you have lots of pressures and problems and youve got a little bogged down with it all. It will all come right in the end - some people just need alittle help in the right direction. Dont give up hope and go see that GP. Best of luck to you xx

Answer 5

Take a serious look at things and decide if hes worth losing your kids over. I wouldnt think so, your kids need you! Apart from anything else...he sounds insensitive to your condition and intolerant of the effect of medication.
I would say dump him and move on....but thats easy for me to say, not so easy to do. I know I have been there!

Answer 6

Your condition is obviously making you feel quite low at the moment - you don't seem to have much self esteem. The first step is to explain to your husband how you feel - your illness must have had an effect on him also. You seem very depressed and I suggest you speak to your doctor who will be able to guide you with either medication, counselling or support groups. Life will get better, but you have to take the first steps. I wish you all the very best for the future.

Answer 7

It must be difficult for both of you. It seems like this disease has taken over including robbing you of happiness. But I think you have probably let this happen. My advise is to take control, start doing things that truly make you happy, don't stay indoors life is too short for us all. Remember it is the way to take yourself that dictates the way others treat you. So when your partner sees that you love yourself any which way, he'll want to come closer. Hope it makes sense. Good luck!

Answer 8

oh thats terrible you poor thing.
it looks more like your partner bringing you down than your condition. but of course you obviously depend on your partner so much and love him
but he isnt showing you love back and your confidence is way down so really its up to you to change your life otherwise 5 years down the line nothing will change except you'll feel even worse.
i'd personally chat with your partner tell him how low you feel and decide on your future together from there

Answer 9

try and move on if its your house kick him out.
your not happy you need to be happy.
i lived with a woman that was a lot like your husband. i thought i loved her. but i got rid after 8 years. and 6 months later i met a woman and we now have 2 young children
and what i feel for her is 100x more then i ever felt for my ex

there is no point living your life if your not happy.
you deserve to be happy.

Answer 10

I've been with my partner for twelve years and for the passed two years we have slept in different rooms. It's great, Nothing better than to have the whole bed to yourself.