Married to a good man who is employed, father of my kids, sensitive most of the time
The other man is an ex boyfriend who is self employed, ex-convict who treated me well, knew me well attentive to me
2006-10-26 09:57:04 · 22 answers · asked by T baby1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stick with your husband and family and learn to honor your vows.
2006-10-26 10:00:24 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, two things.
1) You are married to a wonderful man and you sound like you two have a wonderful thing going, I don't see any reason why you should fall for the other. As much you would like to believe you are in love with the other man, I don't know if it really is love, or if it's former feelings.
2) There's a reason you broke up with your ex. I don't think it would be a wise idea to possibly revisit those old times. Maybe this man has changed for the better, but you now have an obligation to your family and husband. If he treated you very well, maybe he can find someone else that he will be able to treat well.
I don't mean to come across as mean or aggressive. I just think that you'd be going down a wrong road if you go towards your ex. The ex was your past, but your husband is your past, present, and future, and he is your certainty.
2006-10-26 10:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by ravensfan172003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have been married for a long amount of years to your husband, your marriage might be in a rut. Maybe your hubby might be to tired from work, to give you the attention you need. The attention the other gives you fills the void there is between you and your man. You once love your husband. Find out what's missing in your relationship, and try to work things out, to see if the marriage can be salvaged. Communication is very important for you to have with him. Tell him what you need. There's always room for improvement. Work, children and all the responsibility's of married life can put a damper on any marriage. Think about it twice before you do anything foolish. You have those children to think about too. Don't throw away your marriage for something that, did not last anyway in the past. What you have with your husband is more secure.
2006-10-26 10:23:56 · answer #3 · answered by Inda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how you want to deal with all this. Nature gives us the desire to enjoy both security and promiscuity. Some of us enjoy both, while others draw a line between one and the other. The answer for each of us is within ourselves, where the beliefs and values of society or others may not be valid. If you can do as you please without hurting the two men or your children and are ok with it, then who is anyone else to judge? If you can't then make a choice and decide to be happy with whatever you choose. If you still can't figure it out, maybe try a little weed to bring some enlightened perspective to your thinking.
2006-10-26 10:07:28 · answer #4 · answered by seattlego 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say do what you think is best for you and the kids , I do know what is like to be in love with ex-boyfriend, my first love has been back in life after 23 years we are going to stay friends he in Iraq, I will not have sex with him he knows this he is married, yes i love him and he loves me but we are friends that all we can be. If we had sex i would never trust him . Yes I am married, so i hope this helps you.
2006-10-26 10:36:48 · answer #5 · answered by Krissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is easy.... Convict versus good man--
If you go with the convict - once the newness is gone -you will really know how much you screwed up. You think it is fun now. It would be a tragic mistake to leave your husband. No relationship is perfect. just sounds like you are bored. Don't screw it up...
2006-10-26 10:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by Tank 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why leave your husband for an ex-convict? You guys wont ever get anything with his record. I would just stay with your husband, honor your marriage. Why give up everything for an ex? EX's are for a reason ya know?
2006-10-26 10:02:47 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Dump the ex-boyfriend.....You are married and need to take care of your husband and children. Focus on what's important. Your Family!!!
2006-10-26 10:09:01 · answer #8 · answered by jdelcoiro@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that u should stayed married to your husband. Leave your ex alone. He sounds like trouble
2006-10-26 10:08:13 · answer #9 · answered by DIANE C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you crazy hes da father of your kids and supports you...and what da otha ones an ex convict and un employed....THINK ABOUT IT....but anyways i say you just tell him da truth cuz he deserves better than you! and if you love him and your children at all you need to tell him....
2006-10-26 10:08:16 · answer #10 · answered by lilnaychulita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them both how you feel. Maybe your husband will want nothing else to do with you and then your decision will be simple. Anything else is selfish and believe me you wouldn't want it done to you.
Word of caution, men who mess with married womand can't be trusted.
2006-10-26 10:27:40 · answer #11 · answered by LovingFather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋