I started having sex with my homeboy knowing that he had a girlfriend at the time. We had a ongoing bootycall relationship for 2 years - - ended up taking a trip to Vegas and did a Britney Spears (got married). I kicked him out because he was trying to go back and forth between us, so he went back to stay with his girlfriend but we continued having sex and of course I got pregnant. Now I am pregnant by my husband who lives with his girlfriend.
The girlfriend has been with him longer and this will be the 2nd baby he has had with another woman while being with her - - not to ignore the fact that he also got married to another woman (me) while they were still living together and in a relationship.
So who is dumber the girlfriend or the wife?
2006-10-26 09:47:49 · 52 answers · asked by mentalchallenge 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're both idiots. Shame on you for having sex and marrying a man who was already involved and shame on her for being stupid enough to stick around through it all. Sounds like the only smart person in this situation is him, he might be scum but hes having his cake and eating it to.
2006-10-26 09:52:18 · answer #1 · answered by miss m 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well..it's obvious you already know the answer to your own question..You are..The wife..You knowingly had a relationship with a man that was already in a relationship, what's worst you married the guy..AND you continued to sleep with him after the marriage failed, now pregnant...
It has also come to my conclusion that you, the girlfriend, and this guy definitely have some unresolved issues going on with yourselves..and you all probably deserve each other. What's worst..you are now pregnant bringing a child into this mess. Do you honestly think it's fair to this child, is it fair to have this child involved in this circus of what you call a relationship/life?
It's reasons why some guys do what they do because of dumb women like yourself and the girlfriend. I wouldn't blame the guy, you guys have created a perfect world for him. He has the best of both worlds, you all have a paradise for him.
Where is your self respect, your love for yourself, and what about your health, you know there's a disease that's claiming more lives than any one can imagine..It's called HIV/AIDS...
Perhaps the three of you should sit down and think about just being on big happy family. As for the child..I would say why not just have the child up for adoption. I'm sure the child would have a better chance than be raised by people without a clue...
2006-10-26 10:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter? You selfishly brought a child into your adult mess.
What comes around goes around and your getting yours now.
So if you are not as dumb as the other person, you'll feel better about it? You've got problems.
The 3 of you deserve eachother and I think you should all live together, give up the child to a caring and non self-centered responsible couple that can't have kids and stop making other people victims of your irresponsibility.
And lastly tell the loser guy that's involved in this mess to get a vasectomy or use a condom.
2006-10-26 09:55:11 · answer #3 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No ones that good. Why do you both stay with this guy. I mean you know he's living with his girlfriend that was with him when you were seeing him behind her back. Didn't you think that if he cheated on her with you he'd do the same thing to you? The guy seems to have it made cause he married you and doesn't live with you but his girlfriend. And your allowing him to do this plus still having s** with him. Open your eyes. Who's the stupid one here. I'd say the girlfriend and the wife. Your husbands a jerk.
2006-10-26 11:06:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-05 06:31:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, he is playing you both. I get the attraction part and that you probably love him (or something like that) but ask your self a question: can you get better? Do you deserve better? Of course you do.
I can also see that your are torn because you are expecting his child, so you should be very firm with him. You can not raise a child and in an emotionally healthy enviroment like that.
You need to make a decison. It is not a question who is dumber it's a question of who is smarter.
2006-10-26 09:54:16 · answer #6 · answered by Jojo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about dumb, but you're definately in the worse situation.
You're pregant; she's not. You'll either have to raise the child yourself or find an alternative solution. And in some states, the husband has to approve of an abortion...if he doesn't agree, then you'll be stuck.
You'll also be the one going to court for custody and alimony. And if you didn't get a prenup, he's entitled to what you have.
2006-10-26 09:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Including the boyfriend/husband, the correct answer would be all three. Get a clue! Or are you trying for a slot on Jerry Springer?
2006-10-26 09:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by lowerbearville 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
At this point, I would say the wife. She went into the relationship knowing he was a cheat and then did not protect herself from getting pregnant.
2006-10-26 09:50:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Both of you lack intelligence but I cannot judge you because I was in the same boat. I dated a guy who went home to MO to visit and one day called me to tell me he was married. I was crushed, but then again our relationship wasn't very functional to begin with. When he came back to town (we were in the military at the time) he still wanted to talk to me and I fell for it. His wife was still in MO and didn't want to come to GA where he was (it really is a mixed up story) but basically we still messed around. I was dumb because I still wanted to be with a guy who I really didn't love and I didn't have the self-esteem enough to let him go and move on with my life. My advice to you would be to dump the guy permanently and move on. Let him see his kid if he asks but you should move on with your life and try to find a man who RESPECTS you and knows the definition of COMMITMENT. God bless!
2006-10-26 10:12:47 · answer #10 · answered by danikatspecial 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋