I'm asking this question twice because when I first asked (can you still love your wife if she's fat) a lot of people thought I was a guy asking and found it unsensitive...
I have a great husband who tells me I'm sexy and beutiful several times a day...I love him and I've gained weight after having four kids...I'm trying to get back in shape but it's a long road...I feel bad that I've gained wieght and worry my husband isn't still attracted to me even though he always inciates sex....just wanted some honest feed back from husbands...
2006-10-26 09:45:05 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
someone asked if my husband needs to loose lbs...he has gained wieght to (not much) but he's more sexy to me then ever because I love him so much his size doesnt matter....
2006-10-26 10:13:23 · update #1
I just wanted to say kudos to you.... you've had four kids, that's a lot of work! Of course your body has gone through a lot, but even if you are overweight, you can still be sexy. It's the way you carry yourself, wear clothes that flatter your shape, and it's the confidence in yourself. Don't feel bad about gaining weight, feel proud about yourself.... your husband should be proud of you too!
2006-10-26 09:55:05 · answer #1 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I still love the wife. There should still be more to marriage than sex and the sex has not changed. The reason you may need to lose wieght is to feel better about yourself. This will help you and he willl like it too. But he loves you the way you are for you not your size. Are you near the size of your mother? Most turn out this way and he should have expected than when he met your family. Just, like you said a long road, try and lose some wieght so that you feel better for you. Sounds more like your insecurity than his. You did not mention if he needs to do the same.
2006-10-26 10:02:14 · answer #2 · answered by ronnny 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but the wife and I haven't had sex in 11 years! Not because either of us are rejecting the other, but because of her physical condition and pain. But, before her physical disabilities took over her body we had plenty of sex and we both were satisfied. Giving to each other, just like young children (teenagers) who wanted to try everything from the top of the head down to the bottoms of the feet. Learning where and what got the other risen to satisfaction and then more of it. I was the man, even before I got married to several other woman. I never had to worry about sleeping alone. If this one was busy I could call another. Believe me, I am not lying to you, or myself. I had no thoughts about cheating on my wife until recently when a female, 12 years to my youth, started out as a friendly relationship and developing further. She feeling guilty ended the relationship. Now, my interest has been driven to the choose of another. I must explain though. The relationship between the wife and I has become more of a brother and sister relationship. I had no thoughts of cheating on her. I am waiting for her to start receiving her SSI and then we will become singles again. Remaining with a relationship as a brother and sister who love each other and will receive help when needed. What do you think about that relationship? Answer your questions as you asked?
2016-03-28 08:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly does love you then that will keep him with you. It's not all about sex you know, despite the rumours about rampant men. The improtant part is keeping the relationship alive, doing the fun things and sharing stuff together that made you both want each other in the first place. Good luck with the weght loss and just focus on making him see that you are the sexiest woman he'll ever get.
2006-10-26 09:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by scotslad60 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course men would like their wives to look 21 with no body fat and curves everywhere but that's not reality. I love mine with all of my heart and even though she's about 15-20 pounds heavier, it makes no difference to me. What I have realized though is that it makes a difference to her; and she's a little insecure about it.
We've begun to work out and really work on getting as fit as possible. She feels very good about the support and that gives her confidence. Your husband is doing all the right things so lighten up, work out regularly and if he wants too, get him to workout with you. Communication is the key; tell him how you feel and if he's a good husband, he'll be supportive. Hang in there and don't worry too much.
2006-10-26 09:50:41 · answer #5 · answered by Ice4444 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Its not her its me. She has voiced concerns but, oh well. It all goes to your attitude. I am so much more concerned with being able to get along than I am the physical that the physical does not really enter the picture. I think we spend far too much energy on appearance and not enough on maintaining good opinions.
Good looks cannot last unless you have special genetics. We all age. Attitude is all important. I'd rather live with an increadibly average looking woman with an exceptional attitude than vice versa. But then that may be why we made it 30 years plus.
Besides she still looks pretty good to me.
2006-10-26 10:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My wife put on quite a bit of weight between when we met and about a year ago, it never bothered me at all, she was still the woman I wanted to make love too just as much as I did at the start.
Sex ofr me was an expression of love for my wife and her physical characteristics were never an issue.
2006-10-26 11:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by Very happily married. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't know why not. my wife isnt overweight, but i couldnt imagine that it would make any difference. i love her and that is just one way that we express it. unless she was so overweight that it seriously hindered her in the process, then i suppose that we would figure something else out, dont worry about it. sounds like your husband loves you. most of the time people say they leave their marrige cause of overweight, they are looking for an excuse! good luck with the weight loss and the marrige!!!
2006-10-26 09:54:44 · answer #8 · answered by mongo862001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I love my wife and love her more after all three of the children were born. I love to have sex with her at all times, I really enjoyed having sex with her when she was pregnant with a big belly, it was like a different woman!
She still wants to loose more weight after our third child (5 mo ago) but I think she looks great and desire her more than ever!
Listen to your husband he means what he says!
2006-10-26 09:50:39 · answer #9 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 9⤊ 0⤋
The thing that makes a woman sexy isnt what she looks like but how she carries herself, a confident, self assured woman that has a healthy sexual appetite is very sexy. Be yourself, enjoy yourself, be adventurous and he will find you irresistable. But hide yourself, tell him evryday that you are overweight, and a guy can lose interest. We see you in our minds eye much different than you would think.
2006-10-26 09:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋