I am 30 years old... my parent got separated since i was 1 years old.. My father got married with another women.. from whom he brought 2 boys and 1 girl... I had a chance to see the 2 boy before when i was 5 years old.. but the girl wasn't born then yet.. the first time i saw her is when she was 10 years old... and i was 16 at that time... during that period we loved each other so much... it was crazy.. Then i haven't see her again till last year.. where i found out that she was engaged... i was happy for her... although when she told me about her fiancé.. I didn't find him suitable.. but anyway.. i didn't want to get involved.. and for me i was just trying to find out more of her personality and her character.. she came and visited me during my vacation and my family at our beach house for about a month... along with my other 2 brothers .. however my brothers had to leave most of the time because of their work.. at that time i had the chance to sit together and talk about many things.
2006-10-26 09:23:35 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
.. her life, my life..etc
During that period we found a lot of things in common .. Actually I was soo amazed with the way she thinks and deal in life.. we were soo much attached to each other.. missing each other, calling each other.. whenever we are together we keep holding each others hand.. hugging each other like we are dating.. and I feel like I want to hold her and kiss her and do all kind of things.. but not and NEVER sexual.. sometimes my feelings towards gets so strong that I keep thinking whether is it sexual or not.. but every time I think of it sexually I find it very very creepy… after we saw each other for a month I had to leave back to where I work.. which is very far away from where she lives.. and when I contacted her last week I found out that she stopped her engagement thinking that her fiancé wasn’t the right person for her… I don know.. I just been struggling with my feelings all the time.. and I didn’t know whether it was ok to think of her this way.. or not
2006-10-26 09:24:23 · update #1
i am sorry, probably i should have make it clearer...she is my HALF-SISTER from my father side!!!
2006-10-26 09:35:38 · update #2
If I read you correctly, she's not your step-sister, she's your HALF-SISTER, because you have one parent in common. If she were actually your step-sister, meaning you have no common parent, I would have no issues with the way you feel.
You two may end up being the best of friends for life, but since it appears that she is your half-sister, these feelings are not appropriate and will only lead to trouble. You need to limit the time you spend with her, find other women to spend time with until you've gotten past needing to re-experience the feelings you had when you were a teen and she was a child. I might even go so far as to suggest you seek professional help to sort out your feelings.
2006-10-26 09:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by pessimoptimist 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what I got from the situation was that she is your half sister. Which is considered incest. A actual step sister on the other hand is not.
Now, I guess you can look at it a multitude of ways, one of which is that animals who are related have sex & create animal babies all of time & that in all actuality doesn't hurt anyone. But we are people. And unfortunetly there could be reprecutions down the line when you go to have children as "inbreeding" blood lines creates deformity's.
Honestly my friend, it is your life, you do with it how you please, but think of this from a logical not just emotional stand point. If you were to actually culminate a relationship with her, what would the end result be? How will your family feel? What happens if things don't work out? Are you willing to adopt & not have children of your own?
It is human nature to be attracted to others & it is only society that determines what is acceptable & what is not.
What you need to figure out is how you truly feel--AND MOST IMPORTANTLY--does she feel the same way? Are you willing to basically be disowned from your family if you are misinterpreting the situation?
I wish you all of the luck! Sounds like you need it! Heather
2006-10-26 09:35:12 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this girl your step-sister or your half-sister? If you share the same father, you cannot have an intimate relationship with her. If you have different fathers and mothers then there is no blood between you and technically it's okay.
Even if you're not blood related, it's an issue because you're family. And if you do get involved and it doesn't work out it could get really messy.
My suggestion is that you get out there and date women your age and look for someone who is more available to you.
2006-10-26 09:32:16 · answer #3 · answered by coffeytalk.com 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess I'm confused if she is you half sister or step sister. If she is your half sister, I was raised to believe that incest was a sin.....you will have to study God's law to decipher what to do!
The first time that the Bible prohibits incest occurs during Moses’ lifetime (see Leviticus 20:11 and the following verses for an example). Prior to that time it was not a written law, so it is reasonable to assume that such marital relationships were accepted (but not endorsed) from Adam’s time until then. For example, Abraham (a man who followed God faithfully) married a half sister (see Genesis 20:12), something that was prohibited 400 years later (see Leviticus 20:17 and Deuteronomy 27:22).
2006-10-26 09:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by Buff 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well u are blood and thats a little wierd. but u know what nothing in this world is normal ne more. U are an adult, and u and she can make ur own decisions but if i do the math right she is 26 and may want to wait since she thinks that he wasnt the one. i dont know what to say except that u are both adults. Good Luck
2006-10-26 09:28:10 · answer #5 · answered by CrystalRose 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is completely OK to have these feelings...she isn't your blood relation. You should just tell her how you feel and take it from there. If she says shs isn't interested move on, you don't live close to her and it sounds like you don't run into her often.
2006-10-26 09:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by WHAT82 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had the same situation with my step-brother, we almost married. Since the two of you are not blood related, there is nothing wrong with it. Love is hard to find so go for it!
2006-10-26 09:28:23 · answer #7 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
do nothg,be ur sista keeper n move on wit ur own life.leave her alone to leave her life cos ur step ll lead u to doom that u ll live to regret.do remove the idea from ur mind,ok.best of luck.gv her brotherly love
2006-10-26 09:39:18 · answer #8 · answered by ebonny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buddy, she's 50% your sister. It's cool to be close, give advice, all that, but... sounds a bit creepy, sexual or not.
2006-10-26 09:26:20 · answer #9 · answered by canadamoose22 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
GET YOUSELF SOME PROFESIONAL HELP RIGHT AWAY THIS HAS GOT TOO STOP IMMEDIATELLY AL OF THIS RAMBLING ONN ONN ON, IS JUST SO GODAM SICKENING FOR GODS SAKE THIS IS YOUR, STEP SISTER, YOU NEED TO MOVE FAR AWAY FROM THIS HALF BAKED ASSORTED MESS IMMEDIATELY HIT THE HIGHWAYS AND DONT CONTACT HER EVER AGAIIN AND SEEK PROFESIONAL HELP, YOU NEED IT, FAST.
2006-10-26 09:28:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋