If she wasn't when you got married but gained after kids....I know it sounds harsh but I wonder...even if you still love her can you still be sexually attracted to her....??????????
2006-10-26 09:19:42 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
how funny that some female is calling me unsensitive...that's crazy!!! I'm not that at all and fyi I am fat from having kids...i was just wondering what people thought about it...isn't that what this platform is for in part???? Don't be so mean huh, we're all just people...I have a wonderful husband who always tells me I'm sexy and beutiful but I wonder if he can really feel that way toward me....chill out!!!!!!!
2006-10-26 09:25:17 · update #1
I AM THE WIFE YOU GUYS--IT ISN'T A HUSBAND ASKING--i guess i should've asked differntly---this is my hang up---i have a great husband and I'm trying to loose the weight but it's a long road! it just inhibits me from really enjoying our sex life...so i wanted to know if there are men out there who still find their sex life fulfilling even if there wife is overweight?????
2006-10-26 09:40:50 · update #2
Men are visual creatures. If a woman gains 100 pounds after marriage, then the atraction would go in decline. There is no doubt about it. You need to feel atracted to your significant other and taking care of yoru self and you health shows your spouse that you care.
Good luck
2006-10-26 09:24:11 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Yes you can, as long as the weight gain is not a sign of other deeper problems. Often times, excessive weight gain (or weight loss) are just symptoms of more serious issues with a relationship. If the personality has not changed, just the package is "matured" to a less than trim look, then its nothing to worry about.
We all gain weight as we age, but it seems some people have more of a complex about it than others.
2006-10-26 09:28:58 · answer #2 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love my wife for the sense humor she hits me with everyday, for the way she cares about evry person and animal she encounters, the way she makes the old guy at grocery smile when she says " how are you today handsome", the way she always stops to talk with the mentally handycapped bagboy, the way she makes me stop and pick up every abondonned cat, dog, or (insert animal here) we run across and take it to the SPCA, the dumb things she says, the way she can laugh at herself........Fat?, dont know, never taken time to notice, all I can say is that at 42 years old, 2 kids, things may not be exactly where they once were, but she is the sexiest woman in the world and cant wait to get home.
2006-10-26 09:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
It is a rare man indeed who would not be bothered by this.
There are some saying we men have about women and why you put off being married as long as possible.
#1 After marriage/kids she will lose her sex drive
#2" " she will gain weight.
This is a mans nightmare.
2006-10-26 09:46:58 · answer #4 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to assume you are talking about yourself.
When women gain weight, they have a tendency to lose their self-esteem. A strong self-esteem is one of the most attractive traits a person can have. It is very relevant that your self-esteem has dropped given the fact that you are concerned about your husband loving you because of your weight. He might have zero issues with it, but it looks like you do.
I suggest trying to boost your own self-confidence and work on getting the weight off and you won't have to worry about it.
2006-10-26 09:27:09 · answer #5 · answered by Gonzo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel as man the best wife should be fat,she will makes you feel her beside you encourage you to eat,attarct you at home,makes you feel active all the time(ask me),without fat woman the life will be nothing like a garden without red roses.
2006-10-26 09:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by salah T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no complaints from my Hubby. I am over weight.( 3 kids will do that to you) I am not at the wieght I was when we got married. However, I lost a bit last yr and he was a bit upset that certain parts I had lost the wieght at. =) Loves me either way. And thats the way it should be.
2006-10-26 09:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes...but the concern becomes regarding their health. When I met my husband he weighed 190 pounds at 5'8 - now he weighs 220. We've been married a year. I think he's adorable but I worry about his health. He is trying to eat better and exercise more so he is on the right path.
2006-10-26 09:25:02 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My hubby claimed he liked me even more after I put on some pounds. Obviously he wasn't lying he left me for a BIG girl. He liked the weight but not the attitude and responsibility so you know you never can tell. Trust me if it bugs him he WILL let you know
2006-10-26 09:23:27 · answer #9 · answered by platinumhen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When women have children some don't lose all the weight they gained. remember who got her pregnant in the first place.
I suppose you took wedding vows don't that count for anything?
She is the same person you married, she's had your children
and you ask a question like this.how insensitive can one human being get?By the way is she happy with YOU?
2006-10-26 09:32:04 · answer #10 · answered by poetrygirl on line 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋