I have dated my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years, but I know he is going to be very upset if I tell him the bad news! I don't know what to do. I have been on bc for 2 years and never had any problems, my bf and I have been rocky for a month, and because I have been upset and under stress, I forgot to take some of my bc pills last month. Now, I feel like this is all my fault and he is going to kill me... wait! not just him, everyone! My mom, my dad, my family, everyone is going to be so upset at me, because I let it happen. But, I swear, I want kids, but not right now. I am going to school and working full-time. I can barely support myself, what am I going to do with a kid? I want to have an abortion or give it up for adoption, but I have huge doubts. I am sad, angry, freaked-out, scared, excited, shocked! WTF? I don't want a kid, why am I excited? Why am I having doubts about abortion? What are the odds that I might not get pregnant later in life if I have an abortion? What should I do? HELP!
2006-10-26 09:17:03 · 16 answers · asked by Kiki 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Go talk to someone at planned parenthood or other type of place for assistance before making any decisions you might regret. Tell your boyfriend and your parents what has happened as well. There will be angry for being stupid, but hopefully there will be understanding and help while you make your decision.
2006-10-26 09:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by lady01love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I'm form Argentina. I know that you are passing through a hard time, I have already passed through the same experience. But hear to what I have to tell you from a humble perspective. God knows why, but it's finally your responsibility and as a mature person you are (or whatever) you should accept the conclusions for the act you did. I don't know if you have any religion, anyway it does not matter. If you abort you are getting away your responsibility, you don't just run away from your problems, you face them. And also, if you abort, you KILL A ******* HUMAN BEING, its not just an experiment, or even a plant. Giving the baby in adoption is leaving him to a doomed life, trust me.
Think that there's people in much worst conditions than you, people who have to work in harsh conditions, raise 4 kids, study to escape being a ignorant with almost no possibilities, live with another 6 relatives in a 4 by 4m house, and even they have that terrible life, they are not defeated by inconvenient.
Please, reflect what you are going to do.
Good luck!
Gonzalo
2006-10-26 09:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first of all... ABORTION isnt the answer to ur problem... talk to ur bf first and to ur family.. then to ur parents! If things get out of hand then decide for urself... u can go for an adoption ( this atleast is much better than abortion )
About ur other question regarding having a baby in the future if in case u abort this one, well there is only a little chance for you "not" to have a baby again.... I mean if your womb will be cleaned thoroughly after the abortion ( i think by D&C ) then ur reproduction will be back to normal. Just be aware that having an abortion has many complication.
2006-10-26 09:25:00 · answer #3 · answered by xzotiqbish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what your going though. I felt the same way when I got pregnant. Please take my advise, any decision that you make please make it for yourself. Don't let anyone make you something you don't want to do. Sit down with your boyfriend and talk to him. I know u might be scared but u may never know he could be very exicted about this. I know it's hard right now but thing will get better. Your decision will affect you in the long run. I thought about having an abortion but then I know I would've regret it, and having your baby and putting it for adoption is even harder. The bond you and your baby will have will make it a lot harder to give it up when you have him, and who to tell a year down the line you might want them back. I can't make the decision for you because you know you best, but please, please make sure what ever choice you make, you made it, not your bf, not mommy or daddy or your family. I too was on birth control and I got pregnant. I'm glad I had my son and @ the time I was in school with no job, but he here and I'm happy that I had him and we are getting by. He's the only reason why I live now, God gave him to me for a reason and maybe he gave u your baby for a reason too. Just think about please and don't make any fast choice to please your family or because your scraed of what they might say. Turst I've heard it all and I got the third degree but he here and they love him. If u don't mind I would like to know what your chioce is when u make. Goodluck
2006-10-26 09:37:00 · answer #4 · answered by Nessa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would everyone be angry at you? you would be bringing a child into the world! making a life! its a great thing! if you really really feel that you cannt take care of your child, do not get an abortion. give it up for adoption so a couple wanting to start a family can have their wish come true. a life is started a conception, so having an abortion would be murdering a living being. honestly though, you will regret putting your baby up for adoption because later, when you want to have kids and you start having them, you will realize how much you love them and would do anything for them. talk to your parents, boyfriend, and everyone who would "be mad" at you. chances are, they will be happy that you told them earlier. try to make the right decision with you baby.
2006-10-26 09:25:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you decide, don't even consider abortion. This child is your flesh and blood. It will haunt you for the rest of your life. You have some tough decissions to make. It may help to have a family meeting and put all your cards on the table. After the initial shock of what has happenned is subsided more than likely you will have more support than you thought you would get. The thought of your parents becoming grandparents might turn things into a more pleasant discussion. I hope the best for you.
2006-10-26 09:27:25 · answer #6 · answered by normy in garden city 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sure you talk to someone you trust. The safest and closest person to you. If they are a good friend, they will not judge too much or get angry. If things are rocky with your boyfriend, he may not be the first one to talk to, I suppose. But hopefully he is not the angry, mean type... Your decision is the important decision. It sounds like neither of you really want to raise a child now. Planned Parenthood or similar clinic shoud have a counselor to talk to (for free I think) who will not push you into any decision. They are there to help a pregnant woman figure out what will work for herself.
2006-10-26 09:31:59 · answer #7 · answered by deaccumulator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first calm down. i will not say whether you should or should not have an abortion that is your right to decide. usually an abortion is quite safe and doesn't compromise chances latter on. If you don't want an abortion, you can always leave the child in front of a fire station or hospital and they'll take care of the rest.
2006-10-26 09:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by christigmc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen bringing a child into the world is a wonderful miracle dont get an abortion its nto the babies fault and that baby can do many things maybe he will find a cure for cancer or do something to save soeones life just whatever you do dont get an abortion have it if you cant handle it put it up for adoption so it will live a giood life jsut watever you do dont get an abortion please
2006-10-26 10:07:19 · answer #9 · answered by a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are under 20 then you should aboart. It isn't worth the stress on your body. It isn't safe of some one that young to give birth to a baby because there bodies aren't developed and ready.
2006-10-26 10:03:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋