divorce legalality questions?

Question

i am 17 yrs old and going through a divorce.. Is there anyway to keep this divorce out of court and still make sure i get the financial support i deserve. Also if he has alot of debt in his name (some of which was from the period we where married but i had no knowledge of) How much of it would i be responible for in court. The time we were together, i was in school most of the time, Then only worked a small amount. We were only married a year, and I Didnt want the divorce. How long would i be able to get financial help from him? we are trying to remain friends, i would rather keep things out of court. I just need to be insured whatever money arrangment we come to, he CANT back out. I am trying to get into college, Working Full time and college will be hard, that little extra money would make a big diffrence. He also got the house, i want a legal point of view on what i should do. I am 17 yrs old, and trying to make somthing of my life. please no "your to young to be married" comments.

Answer 1

You have to go to court to get divorced. Sad, but true. Then you guys have to fill out the financial papers stating what debt you guys both owe, and who will be responsible for paying it. There is no way around it, and a judge doesn't care about any finance sob stories. If you guys can't pay, file for bankruptcy. (I had to do that, and i also had to give up my house and new car. But man, was it worth it.) Good luck to you!

Answer 2

Get a divorce of mutual agreement. Which means you won´t need a lawyer, and you two will negotiate everything.
Here is the deal, everything you acquire during the marriage, a house, a car, jewelry, anything must be split by two. This means also the debt, so if he acquired a lot of debt while married with you, you are also liable for it.
If you can reach an agreement where he will take care of his own debt and split fairly your stuff, and you can keep a fair half of what was acquired.
Then just apply for a divorce agreement kit at the Court House and follow the instructions. It also includes alimony stuff.
Good luck! You can still be friends.

Answer 3

Only a judge can grant you a divorce. Don't be naive and irresponsible, there is no other way of doing this but to go throught the court.

WISE UP!

If you are working and you were married only a year, chances are that you won't get any alimony. If there are no kids, he doesn't owe you a dime. Do you think that you are so special that people need to pay for your lazy lifestyle?

Because you are still a minor, the judge may determine that you are not responsible for his debt, If you don;t do this, his creditor can go after you and only a court order can spare you from this.

take responsability for your own actions and mistakes, so stop expecting people to cater to you hand and foot and pretend that things can be your way. Seek legal counsel inmediatly.

It seems like you had "all figured out" in life didn't you? You didn't listened before, it may be wise for you to start listening now.

Do like everybody else, and work and pay your way up to college or join the army... life is not easy get used to it princess!

Sorry, but you are co-dependent, inmature and stupid. STAND ON YOUR FEET and face the consequences of your own decisions. Be mature enough to face the judge, do you think that people are going to give you freely handmedowns forever?

Wake up and smell the cofee... this is what you wanted? Now face reality honey. It's time for a reality check...

Answer 4

If he has a spending problem, and running up debt, exactly how much money are you expecting to get from him? Legally if you want half, that's half of everything including debt. Is the house in your name at all? I'm doubting that's so, but if it is then you should get half the equity. It also depends on the state in which you live as well as to how the laws apply. Only a court can legally grant him a divorce. So you can't NOT go through the courts. Now, you can do this w/out lawyers, but with all the legal mumbo rumbo, its just easier to let them handle it. Talk to a lawyer, you can find many of them who will do your first consultation for free.

Answer 5

It would actually be in YOUR best interest to go to court, to begin with a divorce HAS to go through the court system anyway. Unless you can proove that you are disabled I doubt you will be able to get ANY financial help from him, unless you had children. Most states no longer award alimony for those physically able to gain employment. You will simply have to put your education on the back burner and work fulltime and maybe school part time, he doesn't have to pay for your education. IF you had children the house would probably be awarded to you in court, if you live in a community property state going to court might get you awarded half of what the house is worth if he wants to keep it. Like I said it would be in YOUR best interest to go to court, especially since a decree of divorce has to be presided over by a judge to begin with.

Answer 6

well i think that the 'your too young to be married' thing is kinda too late now anyway.


You need a lawyer, if he is required by the courts to pay you money, then he is bound by law to do this.....but many people find ways out of not paying. It is in writing, but if he is not working, then he can't pay you. You can get Federal Student Aid for college. www.FASA.(net, org, com I do not remember which).

Good thing is you are young and still with plenty of time to make a life for yourself and a good one at that. Keep your chin up and like I said, GET A LAWYER!!!


The person you marry is not the same person you divorce, if you are trying to get money out of him, he will most likely fight you on this.

Answer 7

I live in SC, here the rule is....if you aqcuired it while you were legally married, seperated or not, both parties are responsible for it. I was seperated and divorced once, my husband then bought a brand new truck. My lawyer told me that if he didn't pay, they'd come after me too. It sucks but thats how it is....i imagine its like that most places. You need to find a lawyer...most lawyers give a free one hour session just to give quick advise on what you should do next. Find one and tell him all the details. See what he says and pray. As for you working and going to school, as long as there aren't any kids involved, you shouldn't have an extremely hard time. Do what you gotta do to get back on your feet.

Answer 8

Well, I guess plenty of people tried to tell you, but you didn't listen. I work for 4 attorneys. There is no way to get divorced without going to court! You need to get an attorney so you won't get ripped off! You can put in your divorce papers that HE is to pay your attorney fees. You may or may not get it. Bills that were made while the two of you were married, you may be required to pay half of. Just talk to an attorney, the first visit is free, so you have nothing to loose and you can get all of your questions answered. Best of luck and listen to people next time!! Don't be so hard headed!

Answer 9

My best advice to you is to just let him go. I do think that whatever debts were brought on during the marraiage you and him are responsible for, even though you knew nothing about them. If he backs out of anything he is not worth even keeping for a friend. Get your life together and live for yourself. And to the person who commented with the name of Landau C, i am offended myself at your comment, how dare you have the audasity to call anyone that you dont even know vulgar names like that. That was rude and immature of you and you should be kicked off of yahoo for that. You probably only said that cause you went through a divorce and tried to get money and was denied so now your pissed off...Grow up and get a life.

Answer 10

There is no way to obtain a divorce without going thru the legal system----you were only married a year----don't count on any spousal support (maintence/alimony)---you weren't married long enough----

You need to seek counsel from a qualified family law attorney---make the appointment and keep it. Retain the attorney so that you won't get taken to the preverbeal cleaners!