is it normal to set 2 times a week for sex after being married 7 yrs we just had a big fight about me being a lil bigger then i once was which is true i went from 120 to 185 and i have been working out now so i can get back down a lil so is it normal to put sex on the weekly things to do
2006-10-26 09:10:58 · 8 answers · asked by randi p 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whatever works! Please don't buy into the argument that sex always has to be spontaneous. My wife and I sometime back agreed to have sex twice a week, because we just weren't getting around to it really. Well, deciding that at first meant we started to have sex twice a week, which at first seemed a bit strange. Later, I noticed myself definitely starting to look forward to it. It made us feel more intimate so well that we then started having sex spontaneously on other nights in additions.
Marriage is not about constant passion nor about hot romance all the time. Occasionally, you run into dry spells, and whatever you do to get through those times is effort well expended.
2006-10-26 09:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could go backwards in my relationship to set up just this kinda deal -- then maybe the sex wouldn't have gone downhill as it has. If couples were to do this it might be a pattern that sticks when they otherwise unwittingly let stuff go lame ... and then they can't even say 'how many times a week' cause it just doesn't count like that anymore -- sadly, more like 2x a month. You'd wonder if he's getting it somewhere else or on drugs. sigh. Hope you do this for the both of you.
2006-10-26 16:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by Ann 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you "set" time for sex? Does the timer go off or something?
WHAT does your weight gain have to do with a sex schedule?
If you gained that much weight I would say you have more than a sex problem. That "lil" bigger is 65 pounds.
My next thing to do on my list is paint my bedroom wall.
2006-10-26 16:28:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you weight has anything to do with it.
I also think if you are both very busy.. There is nothing wrong with scheduling in some private time.
Heck with my schedule I have to set-up about everything too. Not so much as sex dates but I do like to mark off private time.......And see what happens..........Then again there is always the quickie.........Which is pretty fun from time to time.
2006-10-26 16:21:11 · answer #4 · answered by Littlebit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never considered sex a chore like raking leaves or taking out the trash. I though that being spontaneous made it fun. not as a scheduled event.
2006-10-26 16:14:03 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sometimes life just gets too busy. but taking care of yourself should be on the list all of the time. unfortunately we have to remind ourselves to do it.
so i'm reminding you today, go work out......watch what you eat..... be nice to your spouse.......and have some good sex.
do sexy things that will make that person wanna leave work early and ravish you in the parking lot. take care of yourself!
2006-10-26 16:20:18 · answer #6 · answered by lilac b 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If that is what it takes,sometimes life gets so busy, that you have to plan to fit it in!
2006-10-26 16:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by Blackdog 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normal is whatever you want.
2006-10-26 16:17:34 · answer #8 · answered by honeyluv_2010 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋