can you explain a little bit please
for example have worked really hard + found no joy
2006-10-26 08:48:22 · 35 answers · asked by jay Lo 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
One thing i have learnt is that you can't rely on others for your happiness. And if you are able to live to that and make yourself happy then it will be all the more special when someone does make the effort.
2006-10-26 08:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
OK, up until the age of 26 (ish) I felt really disappointed with life. My childhood sucked, we were really poor and after I was chucked out of home I really had to fight to survive. Also, I didn't have many good role models around me to inspire me. Plus I was in a series of crappy jobs, or jobs that would have been dream jobs if they (and the people who worked there) didn't suck.
Then, at 25 a LOT of people I knew died (not all at the same time - within the space of a year.) Then I got pregnant. So my life turned upside down, and for the better. I realised that life was too short to waste, that I should grab every opportunity, and that I should just do something completely random that I'd never tried before. As Janis Joplin said, "Freedom's just another word for nothing left to lose." So I did an art course in the evening one day a week. 5 years later and I'm in my final year at uni doing art, something I dreamed about but never thought I was good at (I can't draw for toffee, but I can create many other, more interesting ways.)
Anyway, I've had a weird life and I've done some weird and wonderful things, but I say that you never know stuff unless you try it. So I took as many opportunities as possible because waiting around for stuff to happen means it WON'T happen. You have to put yourself out there and really discover the world, and consequently yourself.
Life is what you make it and if you're disappointed with it, it's up to you to change it. It's ONLY you who can change it.
2006-10-26 08:58:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At times yes; and it does happen when I put all my efforts to achieve something and I end up disappointed. The bright side of it is that at least I have tried and did my best. Have you ever heard the following phrase :
A man (or woman) is a wanting animal.
We are never satisfied with what we have or achieve in our lives, because we always want more and want the best.
Life is made of simple things, joy is not gained through wealth and nor it is an object. I don't want to sound religious but take Mother Theresa as an example, she had nothing, she lived a simple life and she was always cheerful.
Now, think about Hollywood stars for example, many people envy them for their wealth and popularity but we did hear about some Hollywood stars who were arrested for possession of drugs, for causing £ thousand of damages to a hotel room, for being abusive and violent towards third parties......and yet some of them even tried to commit suicide.....
I haven't got a solution for you except for an advice: live your life and do not look at those things in which you have failed but concentrate in areas where you could do better. And do not take your downs as your failure but take them as opportunities. Remember that you are a unique person and to some around you a special person too!! even if you might not know this. If you are not happy with your current lifestyle or achievements, don't just draw a line and game over but look in other directions. Do not be afraid to change, because change is difficuilt but often essential.
Good Luck and wish you all the best and success in your life.
2006-10-26 09:09:01 · answer #3 · answered by ville009 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes I feel that way a lot lately. I feel life dealt me a raw deal. I was diagnosed with MS in 2004. My job I have been working at for the past 8 years,; truly dedicated and volunteered many hours for clients and volunteers, they decided to make my new co-worker who been here for 6 months they made her the boss and she don't know how to do the job. At times I feel like crawling under a rock and staying there, other times I hold my head up high and make the best of my life I possibley can. The only thing I am truly proud of and no one can ever take that away is giving birth to my 2 wonderful sons. That is the best accomplishment I can think of that I have done.
2006-10-26 09:09:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Disappointed with life. Life is what it is **** happens to everyone just get on with it. Were animals an dats all we only have a few years here so dont be thinking about life at all. if your tinkin about it your not living it. go out and plant a few trees of do volinteer in a national park then you know that the difference you made will last long after your gone
2006-10-26 08:59:00 · answer #5 · answered by jcbiggie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all get disappointed with life at times but you can not give in to the dis-pare. I still have very little "joy" in my life so I try to help out other people that are in a tougher place than I am. Helping others that are in need gives a certain fulfillment that really satisfies.
Another way to feel better/happier is to sit and talk with Jesus as if he is sitting right next to you. You can also write down any questions you have about your situation and then write down the answer that you believe Jesus would give you.
Then you can always write to me.
2006-10-26 09:05:37 · answer #6 · answered by walkerwalks 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Feeling disappointed with life is usually due to feeling like there's no meaning. Everyone needs to find some meaning in life, or a purpose for why they believe they've been put in the world. It might be religious or spiritual, but not necessarily. Some people believe they're purpose is to help abused kids because they themselves were abused as children. Life is tough and can leave you in limbo but if you think about what you can do for others or what your purpose is it can really help and make life seem good again.
2006-10-26 08:58:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I never feel disappointed with life. To use a cliche, life is what you make of it. If you think you're disappointed with life you're probably actually disappointed with yourself. Thats not to say that you haven't been trying its just perhaps your energies have been exerted in the wrong places.
You need to make yourself a list of goals that you want to achieve and decide where you would like to be in 12 months to feel fulfilled from life.
I think depression breeds depression. If I ever feel so much as a twinge of it I busy myself by sorting the things that are creating it. That way you don't have the time to feel depressed and you eradicate your sources of depression.
2006-10-26 08:55:07 · answer #8 · answered by Jon C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes. but it's my own fault. intead of going to college i went to hair school. I feel like i wasted most of my youth being married to the wrong man and having children at too young an age. the light at the end of the tunnel is now i'm married to the right man, i love my kids and i can always go to college when my kids are grown. you have to find joy in the things around you. happiness is a choice. maybe you are working too hard.
2006-10-26 08:55:26 · answer #9 · answered by lisaj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not with life, but sometimes with the people I meet...
Maybe my expectations are too high... ;-)
Concerning you, be aware that we often feel low because of chemical imbalances in our bodies. Perhaps you are low on certain vitamins because of the type of food you eat.
Get some good quality multiple vitamins and take them regularly for a couple of months and see whether that doesn't make a difference.
Good luck!
2006-10-26 09:10:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately yes
its hard being spoiled by ur family, then u grow up to deal with the world by urself, at this point u know ur not prepared for that.
specialy when u wanna be independant, u find its so hard to do that, u cant handle the cruelty of people which can lead to real disappointment and in my case, Depression.
2006-10-26 09:01:11 · answer #11 · answered by Yasmine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋