were they receptive to your same sex partner into there home. are they now?
brothers, sisters, parents, grand parents.
2006-10-26 08:22:35 · 15 answers · asked by shyboy 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I didn't actually 'tell' them I'm gay until I had a serious boyfriend, when I was 17, but it turned out they'd already guessed and kind of got used to the idea, and were just waiting for me to say something. I'd known right through high school, and been out at school, but not at home, because it's just sort of embarrassing to discuss with your mum, and I was hoping they'd ask me so I wouldn't have to bring it up. My parents were both fine, but my mum told me not to tell my nan because it would shock her, but I visited her with my boyfriend and she knew straight away that we weren't just 'friends' and said she'd always thought I was gay, and she was really cross with my mum for thinking she could be so narrow-minded! None of my family have had a problem with my boyfriends, they're more worried and upset when I haven't got one and I go out partying etc. Maybe my family are just cool.
2006-10-26 11:10:38 · answer #1 · answered by JBoy Wonder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not immediately receptive. The night I told them mum said 'well I won't be getting grandkids from you' and dad said it was ok. The next day mum was a bit foul - that happened for around 6 months.
My sisters were fine with it. They can be a bit iffy if I talk to much about certain things but apart from that they are ok. I haven't told the relatives because they are religious freaks and we've always been outcast in that family so why should they know.
They are all very good with my partner now. Sometimes I think they like her more than me hehe. It is great to see how far we have come. They treat her like anyone else in the family. My sister recently got married and I didn't expect for my partner to be in the family photos but they shocked me and put her in there.
2006-10-26 19:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by gretphemelger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was thrown out of my family's home when I was 18. My clothes and belongings were put on the front lawn and I was told to go, when they found out I was gay.
I moved in with my bf at the time, and 2 weeks later, my father called me and said "get your things together and come back home, right now." I told him to go f*** himself and hung up.
As time went on, to make a long story short, they eventually softened up and became accepting. They all like my partner very much and accept him too. I don't regret what happened in the past, because it toughened me up and made me who I am today. I feel like I'm a stronger person, because of it.
2006-10-26 15:32:27 · answer #3 · answered by ByTheSea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As an older male "coming out" was somehow forbidden, though when I reached a crisis in my 40s I absented myself from work and travelled (by every means possible) to the family home (nest) and was partly understood but by no means comforted.
2006-10-26 19:06:56 · answer #4 · answered by yellerbelly2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have a partner at that time. Later when I did meet my first, yes they were receptive.
2006-10-26 15:31:48 · answer #5 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my husband calls my Dad "Dad" just like all my brother-in-laws. We take vacations with the family. Everyone was very accepting. Joe and I have been together 16 years and our family just doesn't even think twice about anything.
2006-10-26 16:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My immediate family has always been wonderful. My grandparents don't know, and won't know...I believe they prefer not to know.
As a teenager, my girlfriends were treated the way any teenager's love interest should be - politely, but with boundaries. No spending the night, etc.
As an adult, my girlfriends are welcome on holidays, birthdays, and whenever else I choose to bring them around. I'm lucky!
2006-10-26 15:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by BoardingJD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took my dad some time to get used to it but the rest of my family (4 sisters) and my mom loved her....today my dad is fine with it because he knew his disapproval of my lifestyle wasn't going to change me and he would rather have me in his life than not.
2006-10-26 17:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother doesnt mind. However she is very critical of all my love interests. I think that is just my mom. I wouldnt imagine bringing a boyfriend to a family dinner on my dads side though. i guess it would be how you think they would respond. If you are that nervous maybe you shouldnt.
2006-10-26 15:49:39 · answer #9 · answered by brandonwitt226 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not gay but when my cousin brought her girlfriend home, we accepted her because we love my cousin, and want her to be happy. Keep in mind that before you are anything, you are a human being. As such, I am sure there are people in your family who love you unconditionally. Good luck.
2006-10-26 15:27:53 · answer #10 · answered by pupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋