ok, here is my problem, ive been with a guy for 3 years, we just had a baby almost 5 months ago, i love him, but ive fallen out of love with him if that makes any sense, i dont want to hurt him, so i feel like im trapped with no where to go...i seriously cry when he kisses me, touches me, or tells me he loves me because i know he really means it, and im not so sure about myself, i love him and dont want to hurt him so what should i do
2006-10-26 08:21:42 · 22 answers · asked by your MY dirty little secret 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if you stay with him, you will end up resenting him and even worse, probably your baby in the long run because you will feel as if you sacrificed your own happiness for them and that is a terrible feeling
also, if you truly love him you owe it to him to be honest with him, it will hurt at first but its best finding out now
move on, but try to remain close for the baby's sake you will see with time everything is for the best!
2006-10-26 08:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u love him...why u breaking up with him? ok hun u should try to talk to him about it...he might be hurt about it but it's not ur fault it's ur feelings and hun he needs to know what ur feeling it will hurt him more if he doesn't know and u will hurt more by not telling him how u feel...maybe u guys just need a break...sometimes a person just needs to get a lil fresh air and have a break from one another it's perfectly normal to want and need ur own time and space...it will hurt u both but it's for the better u keep goin and letting him think that u want to be with him and u feel something different is gonna efffect u two sooner or later so honey just take a deep breath and just tell him how u feel and know that u did nothing wrong u have feelings...my husband and i have been together for a year almost two and married for four months trust me i feel like havin my own time and space..it happens...just talk to him u will both be so much happier knowing the truth from one another just if u break up don just not ever talk it's ok to talk and it will hurt a little but everything will be ok i promise if he loves u he will understand i hope u read this and understand..and as for the baby just don ever have him distant from he or she it will hurt the child...it's ok to visit and talk it will be fine...good luck to u hun if u need someone to talk to my e-mail is christielvsmike@yahoo.com i hope everything works out for u i really do....god bless! ~Christie~
2006-10-26 15:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, i say you find out 4 sure if u really dont have feelings 4 him anymore, then ask yourself y? If the reason is reasonable then tell him how you feel and c where it goes. If its just for a nonreasonable reason then maybe u should keep him, you dont know maybe he might be the guy...and besdes you have a child 2gether, ask urself how the baby will feel? Thats all i can give you..Good Luck!
2006-10-26 15:31:03 · answer #3 · answered by LiVE.L0VE.LAUGH :]♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
News flash in committed relationship it is not always about how you feel. Feelings come and go - I have been married to my husband for 25 years and guess what there were times when I look at him and go "who are you and what are you doing in my house" there are other times when my feelings of love are overwhelmed for him and I am so glad we are together.
Here is a question - do you want to spend the rest of your life alone or do you see yourself in a relationship? If the answer is see yourself in a relationship then stay with him. Three years is a long investment - recommit your self to the relationship
2006-10-26 15:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by freemansfox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but if you no longer love him then you have to tell him. He'll probably be hurt but your hurting him more by not telling him. Maybe you could try going to a retreat and see if that helps you fall back in love. But if you have a child together then I'm sure no matter what you guys will be close for the kid.
2006-10-26 15:24:30 · answer #5 · answered by Erin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, when I got married the pastor said that "you will not always feel in love with someone, that is why you have to decide to love someone" . I remember that every time I don't feel like loving my husband anymore. Also, I pray that God will return that feeling to me. I think you should take the time to look at why you feel the way you do and what can be changed to make the situation better. Alot times we should be looking at how we can change instead of how we can change our mates! Good luck and God Bless!
2006-10-26 15:32:01 · answer #6 · answered by Stacy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You recently had a baby, that really, really will affect your emotions. You say you love him, but have fallen out of love with
him? I think with anyone, sometimes you are going to have blah,
complacent feelings about your spouse. Relationships are not
easy, you have to work hard at it sometimes. If you love him,
give it a little time. Let your body chemistry have a chance to
get straightened out, you might be glad you did.
2006-10-26 16:18:08 · answer #7 · answered by RodMaster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you what...this happened to me and I'll tell you what happened. She fell out of love or she says, I believe she would not allow herself to love me but anyway.....we separated...she bounced from guy to guy turning down marriage proposals and **** like that. Calling them relationships even though she knew early on she would not stay and they were not what she was looking for...so I say they were **** buddies but anyway. By the way she hates that word lol....All the while dragging my son everywhere seeing the **** of bad relationships. After about 5 years of that **** she realized something...that was she did not know what she wanted when all this crap started and that was why she fell out of love. Well five years later she decided what she wanted Me lol heh....now she has come back cause she realized I was really the only one that truly loved her and she finally allowed herself to love me back. True we don't know each other anymore because we have changed but I still love her and I really believe she loves me now.
2006-10-26 15:35:07 · answer #8 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn that sucks,well if you dont love him nomore theres no reason why you should be with him, just because you guys have a baby it doesnt mean you have to be tied up to him.I know you dont want to hurt him but its better to end the relationship, its not good cuz its hurting you too.
2006-10-26 15:27:25 · answer #9 · answered by sweetpinkness2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for a year but i have been with my husband for almost 3 yrs now. We decided to get divorced becuase i wasnt happy with him. I didint want to hurt him but i had to do what felt right and know i am happier than ever. Good Luck.
2006-10-26 15:28:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋