Detective work..Should I do this to catch my wife in a lie?

Question

I have strong suspicions that my wife is cheating and I have a pretty good idea who it is. Should I confront him alone and play like she told me everything? This would be a good way to confirm my suspicions.

She already knows that I suspect her. So I am not affraid that she will get mad. She also has probably told him and her friends about our blow up the other night, so I could probably play it good.

Answer 1

if u r wrong u will look like an idiot

Answer 2

If you suspect infidelity, do not confront your partner until you have proof.
And while it is helpful to talk to partners about most relationship problems, this is NOT the case when it comes to infidelity. A cheating spouse will almost never admit to infidelity, unless presented with evidence to the contrary. And even when presented with evidence, some spouses continue to lie.
Along the same line, while there are many tactics that you can use to get a partner to be more truthful, these tactics often fail to work when it comes to infidelity.
Despite these problems, there are several practical methods for catching a cheating spouse.
All of these methods rely on some form of surveillance or careful observation. And while these methods can raise some ethical issues they also tend to be very effective - they allow you to establish PROOF of an affair.
Monitoring a spouse tends to be the most effective and reliable way to find out the truth.
Record everything your wife, does on line. Record every keystroke, e-mail message, instant message, and website visited. Computer Monitoring Software allows you to see everything your spouse does on line. There are also devices that now allow you to recover and read deleted text .
You can track your wife's vehicle every minute – 24 hours a day. Hire private investigator.
Sorry it will not be easy and pleasant task.

Answer 3

I would have to say no that is not a good idea. Simply because if he does confirm it, you'll end up being an upset husband beating the snot out of the guy. I've seen it happen too many times. You should just ask your wife. I know you may not want to make it seem as if you don't trust her, but you deserve to know. I hope she hasn't cheated, so good luck to you.

Answer 4

Yes and no. You have to be subtle. Make up a lie before you say anything to him. You need to be vague about what you are speaking about. Go to him looking all mad and say something like "my wife told me everything! What do you have to say?!" And see what he says. Then if he still acts like he has NO idea what you mean (or maybe he really hasnt been sleeping with your wife) play it off and make up another reason you said like. For example he responds "told you what? I have no idea what you mean" you respond "she told me she banged up my car" or "she told me she through gave someone all my favorite cds," ETC. and then you can just act like you didnt mean he was sleeping with your wife if he doesnt confess. Plan a lie ahead of time to play it off if your plan doesnt work.

Or get a good friend to drive around following your wife for a few days with a camera and take pics of her kissing or holding hands with some other man. Dont follow her yourself. You must have someone else do it so she wont notice and it wont make you look bad in case she really isnt cheating.

Answer 5

You have to catch her in the act, so to speak. Catch them together or something more concrete than suspicion. If you confront anyone without evidence they'll deny it and learn to hide it better and you'll be left wondering. and besides, what if she ISN'T??? you'd look kinda silly. Hire a PI if you can afford it. It may not be as expensive as you think. Or put GPS on her car.

Answer 6

No dear. Just leave it alone. Whatever goes into the wash will come out in the dryer. So in due time it will come forth. Then you can do what you have to do then. If you got being a PI then other bad things may occur and it may fall back onto you. You dont need that. So let things flow and it will come out.

Good luck

Answer 7

If it's so, he's going to be very suspicious of you and can probably "read" what you are b.s.'ing about.

How about you talk to your wife in a rational way and find out what's next. Keep your cool. If you need to leave the house and call her and discuss on the phone first, try that. Just don't go bonkers and do something you'll regret.

Answer 8

I'm not sure if this is the best approach but if you do decide to take it I would try to arrange the meeting so that he isn't expecting you and dosn't have any time to prepare. Show up at his door without him being able to see who is on the other side. When he opens the door the first look on his face should tell you everything.

Whatever you do don't call cheaters

Answer 9

Might work - but your going on a strong suspicion and not fact - so if your suspicion is wrong and it gets back to her that you think she is cheating on you she is going to be extremely angry with you and you just might push her to cheat on her. Make sense?

Answer 10

If they are smart enough to cheat and not be discovered, they will be smart enough to figure out your ploy. Why not simply ask her? This will tell her that you suspect her to begin with. She will either deny it, or admit. But, I think you already know the answer before you ask, don't you? Like someone once said, if you suspect they are, they are. Sorry, good luck.

Answer 11

The best way of doing this is to have proof of the affair first, otherwise, you are at risk of embarrass your wife and yourself with unfounded suspiction.

I suggest for you to take a day off from work and follow your wife around, chack her email adresses, her cellphone bill and her credit card charges.

or hire a P.I. or call Cheaters.

Goood luck