I have being going out with this guy for the past 4 years and he had being married before this caused alot of problems or us when I found out but ow I have found out that he has being texting women on this dating chat line. Im totally freaked and I kicked him out last night. There is 20 years of an age gap between us Im 26 and he is 47. I have being so faithful towards him and Im afraid that he has destroyed by future as I feel that I will never be able to trust a male figure again. I know that half of ye are going to say that I wont feel this way but hey it's life Even if there is a guy out there somewhere that can explain why people do this. Im not an ugly woman by any means but its like as if my ex was trying to prove a point. Help me please I think im just feeling so lonely ............
2006-10-26 08:10:00 · 13 answers · asked by Jo Blog 1 in Computers & Internet ➔ Internet
Sorry to see you unhappy, but getting anything less than 100% is a waste of your life and you're young enough to do what ever you want and wherever - get a girlfriend to keep you company, have a good cry and a glass of something nice - and make plans for your future. Good Luck
2006-10-26 08:17:40 · answer #1 · answered by JAYFIRE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is to start focusing on yourself and healing. I went through the same type of thing, after a 7 year relationship I found out the guy was cheating on me. It will be hard to trust men as you will always remember what you have just went through, but there will come a time when the right man comes into your life and you will find happiness with him. There is never any guarantee that anyone man or woman will stay faithful in any relationship, just be open and honest from the beginning, keep the lines of communication open, start out trusting not mistrusting, don't be judge-mental and never say what you don't mean. There is no real explanation why people do this, it isn't just men who do this, I know of women who have done this to men, it has nothing to do with how you look, how you behave or anything else, it is basically just a curiosity they have that leads them to explore opportunities of "cheating". You will get things like ..."We only had sex once" "We only talked about having sex" and some may call it something other then cheating but whatever they choose to call it the end results are the same, someone gets hurt.
Not everyone is the same and in time you will start trusting again.
Just remember 1. Do unto others as you would want done to you.
2. Don't let what someone has done to you be your judgment against all others.
Hope this helps in some way.
2006-10-26 08:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by Just Curious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, personally what I think that you shouldn't have been doing in the first place is dating somebody 47 years old unless you really haven't gotten the chance to get to him in a better way. I think you should always get to know somebody and you say yall were married? So, when he was texting this woman, did he ever go out on a date with her? If he didn't maybe yall should sit down and discuss what went wrong between the two of you and if you see that he just lost interest, you should at least try to find out why?Well before you kicked him you should of talked it over calmly and respectively before you got all ghetto and pissed off. And just because he's the only man you really loved you shouldn't give up now on love, maybe he just wasn't the one for you. Maybe it's time to start over before you have no life and end up single and just sad or just keep worrying about that one man.
2006-10-26 08:18:29 · answer #3 · answered by Dotty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all congratulations for making a stand and not just taking it.
You have taken control of the situation so dont stop now.
Your single now so enjoy yourself. I'm not saying go out and throw yourself at the nearest bloke. I'm saying spend time with your friends/relatives. Dont sit at home wondering about the future. Have some fun now, and worry about the future when you get to it. It hurts im sure, but turn this bad experience into an advantage by learning from it.
I'm sure your a very pretty Lady, and dont worry, not all of us guys are untrustworthy and unfaithful.
Good luck Babe! Have fun!
2006-10-26 08:21:17 · answer #4 · answered by sam.trask@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should forget him, and get out and meet men of your own age. Sounds to me like your bloke still thinks he's 20 something, and a leopard NEVER changes its spots. (my uncle was the same, always chasing women, and he was married 3 times!)
Your only 26, live a little. My wife and I both met in our mid 30's and married after 2 years of dating. 13 years on 2 kids and still happy. Do your self a favour, get out there and enjoy single life first, and forget the @r5eh0le..
PS your never to young...& good luck..
2006-10-26 08:29:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He used you. Get on with your life. Meet someone close to your age. I'm a guy, 47 is the beginning of a second macho thing for many guys. They are in the minority.
2006-10-26 08:19:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
generally women are looking for true love and men look for sex, of course there are always exceptions, but because women operate more from the heart they are more likely to suffer devastation when betrayed, nothing is as bitter, and it dosen`t just require time, it requires great healing.
remember the amount that you hurt is equal to the amount that you loved. you cant hide from this kind of pain you must go thru it ,and come out the other side hopefully not twisted and bitter, but more wise and cautious.
2006-10-26 08:23:05 · answer #7 · answered by Sentinel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask Jeremy Kyle.
2006-10-26 08:17:57 · answer #8 · answered by adorehandel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not you, it is him. He very likely has a mental disorder. Do not believe him if he comes back trying to say he still loves you. It is not about love, he has a mental defect and you need to not buy into it.
2006-10-26 08:20:58 · answer #9 · answered by Kathee S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your own decisions and live your life your own way. You have a responsibility to make yourself happy, you can't rely on others to do it for you.
2006-10-26 08:20:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋