What makes you want to chat with the opposite sex when ur married?? I do sometimes, but people that go to far while chatting. Why??? What is too far???
Not againist chatting, but going to far is another story!!!
***Just another "Chillin @ Work" question from SJ***
2006-10-26 08:07:54 · 33 answers · asked by **What??** 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm married and I no longer chat on-line at all. I simply have no interest in doing so. Going to far is cyber sex, naked on web-cam or exchanging naked pictures of each other. Merely chatting with people of a different sex is not wrong when the conversation is professional. If you and your husband are in a trusting relationship then there should be no worries about one or the other doing something they're not supposed to. Marriage is about commitment and trust. If you can't stay committed and not do things you're not supposed to, then you probably shouldn't have gotten married.
2006-10-26 09:50:23 · answer #1 · answered by danikatspecial 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband doesn't really have female friends, but he has a couple of female colleagues and sometimes they take mealbreaks together, but it's always in a group. He works in a predominantly male environment, so there are always other guys around, however it wouldn't really trouble me if there wasn't. I trust him completely. The one thing that would make me feel threatened or disrespected would be if he was conducting a friendship in secrecy, or if he had a female friend who was openly antagonistic towards me, but that has never happened. I have a few male friends, and my husband is very indulgent about that - they can phone and email me, sometimes we go out for coffee, lunch, or hang out by the sea together; my husband never minds. My friends are very respectful towards my husband though - in fact some think he's a little intimidating, so they'd never risk anything. The only time (since we've been married) that he felt disrespected was when a guy friend gave me lingerie as a gift once - there was no harm meant and I absolutely know that, but it wasn't a wise choice - and my husband made that crystal clear.
2016-05-21 22:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married about 21 years now and yep I chat! It all depends on what YOU call too far? Me, too far is all that cyber sex stuff, nope I just don't need it, Sending unapproiate pics, making actual dates to meet in person, that is all just too far! I chat, it's like innocent flirtation. Kinda fun but nothing serious. It's just that chat! I like to chat with the opposite sex cause it's fun kinda makes me feel good. Yes my husband does that too but like I said it's just a little flirting! Never have I gone too far and don't plan to either!
2006-10-26 08:38:28 · answer #3 · answered by Rocky C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you had friends of the opposite sex before you were married, you certainly shouldn't have to terminate those friendships.
If you are actively and habitually seeking out new friendships of the opposite sex online (or offiline) it is probably an indication that something is wrong with your marriage. I'm a firm believer that your spouse should be your best friend. Not only should she be the person you are most physically intimate with, she should be the person you are most socially intimate with.
2006-10-26 08:18:04 · answer #4 · answered by _LitMatch_ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is ok to chat with anyone (in person on the telephone or online) as long as it stays there. See, but beautiful women like SJ make it hard for us men to stop and we can even contemplate going further.
2006-10-26 08:11:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do chat with members of the opposite sex online, but always in a group setting like this one. I have never had a one on one conversation with any member of the opposite sex online because I feel it crosses a boundary. I would not like my husband to have "friends" of the opposite sex that I was not familiar with so I in return don't have any.
2006-10-26 08:11:26 · answer #6 · answered by ME 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do chat with the opposite sex, but only in situations like this or chat rooms. No one on one IM'z. That is just too personal in my book.
2006-10-26 08:23:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's a line, friendly chatting is one thing but getting emotionally involved online with someone is another. It does happen, unfortunately, usually in a low point in a marriage or just someone lonely looking to talk. Watch to see if you might be crossing that line between friendly chatting and getting emotional about it!!
2006-10-26 08:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by hotmama1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I got married I didn't take a vow of non communication with the opposite sex. Both my husband and I have online friends of the opposite sex but WE TRUST EACH OTHER and that is the difference. It is all about trust.
2006-10-26 08:10:01 · answer #9 · answered by lollipoppett2005 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my husband does and it annoys the heck out of me. he thinks it is ok to chat and talk with girls on the phone, but I don't like it. It's a respect thing. In your marriage vows it does say to forsake all others. Innocent chatting is fine, but phone conversations and meeting in person takes it too far. The internet is a trap.
2006-10-26 08:21:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋