abusive relationships?

Question

i have this boyfreind who i love to death. i would do anything for him. but the thing about us is really weird, when were not arguing were so kool and happy, but as soon as he start fighthing he gets really aggressive. hell start pushing, throwing things at me, pulling my hair, and if im on the floor he drag me around.but dont get me wrong ill start hitting him back, but i dont do as much damage as him. I really dont know what to do. has anyone experienced this, what did you do? what can i do?

Answer 1

I've never experienced anything like this. Its just gonna get worse believe it or not. By the way thats not love. The main things in a relationships are LOVE and RESPECT. You know, relationships always has its ups and downs, but there shouldn't be any violence what so ever. To me it sounds like a really awful game. Like you said, you guys are happy one minute, then next thing you know you guys are fighting? How could you continue to be with someone who hurts you in anyway? Thats not love and if he said he loves you, he doesnt mean it. That just him speaking. Words dont mean anything if its not what you really feel. Open your eyes and leave while you can. Relationships like these never work out and never end up the way you want. He's just gonna keep hurting you emotionally and physically. Its all just gonna get worse and you could end up seriously hurt or dead. As easy as that, its no joke. What you could do is run away while you can....You'll realize how dumb you were for sticking around when theres better men out there just waiting to spoil you and treat you the way you should be treated. Just be careful and I wish you the best.

Answer 2

OK First let me start by saying love should never hurt. Second no one has the right to lay a hand on anyone, including you. O.K. There are always three sides to a story. Your side, his side and the truth. Unfortunately I am not there when this destructive behaviour happens so I can't honestly tell you what to do. I can only express to you that when I was in a similar situation (very similar), I sought help. No one can tell you that were you are in this relationship is wrong. You must truly see it for yourself. In no way is it healthy for anyone to HIT each other. Not only should you get help for your partner but you also need help. You must feel good enough about yourself to realize how destructive this relationship really is. You must never tolerate someone laying his hands on you and then JUSTIFY it by hitting back. NO NO NO. TWO WRONGS WILL NEVER EQUAL ONE RIGHT. This is a time in your life where you should grow up a little take responsibility for what is happening to you and get help. No amount of whining or attention seeking will resolve this, action is your only solution and you are the only one who can say enough is enough.

I DO HOPE YOU FIND THE STRENGTH TO EDUCATE YOURSELF AND ACT ACCORDINGLY.

Answer 3

Just leave it as simple as that I know you love him but he has way to much baggage and is to immature to be in a relationship if you stay things will get worse and yes I have seen this I know first hand that these things will get worse not better with time you need out before things get even worse you could really get hurt here you don't want to live like this you know that I know that.

I hope the best for you good luck

Answer 4

I have dealt with this. I would even sometimes start the hitting it is not worth it and if you to are hitting on one another it is not love. you think you need him and cant live without him and it will be hard to leave but trust me it is worth it I now have a great guy who would never lay a hand on me or call me names and when I look back I cant believe I stayed in that bad relationship for so long. You need to leave he does not respect or care about you and if you stay you will lose respect for yourself.

Answer 5

I use to be in a relationship like this and one day I decided that this was not love...when you love someone you don't want to hurt them and when you love someone you can't bring yourself to hurt them. I realized that it was not love i was in but just something familiar to me. Sometimes two souls are just bad together and no matter what you do it won't change...you have to ask yourself would I want my child to be treated like this because if the two of you eve have a child and this is what the child See's more than likely he/she will think this is OK behavior and will end up with the same way due to your example.

Answer 6

I'm sure you see shows about this all the time. it's never easy but you got to do the right thing and that my friend is 2 choices!
1) you need to leave him and dont tell him anything just get out and away, telling him could cause more problems and will eventually get the police involved.
2) take self defense, and kick his ***, then say "you still wanna go bi-otch!!!"

Answer 7

Get out while you can! Do you have children? I f you do you need to think about what it does to your children.What will your boys grow up be living its alright to hit a women.And your daughters,they will go through the same things you are going through.If this is something that you want to try and work out try counseling.But speaking from exp. it only gets worse.

Answer 8

yes, been there done that. Get away from him, far far way, before he really hurts you. Are you waiting for missing or broken teeth, broken nose, broken jaw bruises all over your body, bald spots where he's pulled your hair out by the roots, hearing him tell you that you are worthless,stupid, a moron, a ***** etc. etc. etc. Doe's any of this sound familiar? STAY WITH HIM AND IT WILL...

Answer 9

Get rid of this loser. Someone who cares about you would never treat you like that. The abuse will only get worse until you are gravely injured or dead.

Also suggest you contact the police and file a report of assault.

Find someone who will love and respect you.

Good Luck!

Answer 10

I have experienced this years ago. I understand that you may love him, but does he love you? He may say that he does, you don't express love with blows or abusive words. I understand that you might fight back, but i'm sure if and when you start to, it just makes him want to fight you harder. Sweetie, believe me, it only gets worst. Get out while you can, it's really unhealthy, that isn't love. I wish you the best!