My girlfriend wants to get married next year, but she is having a hard time dealing with the fact that I have a son. She would never ask me to choose between her and my son, but I'm still confused as to how to help her deal with it. I'm deeply in love with her, but I don't think she'll ever be ready for that step. Help!
2006-10-26 07:58:22 · 13 answers · asked by SMART @SS 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well then if she can't accept it then maybe she's not all that right for you after all. This is your son.
Offer to have children with her, then she won't feel so left out. You just have to let her deal with it, it takes time. She'll be ready when she's ready. Try and engagement first ....(its like a trial run). This way you are showing her how much you love her and how committed you are to her. It might work...
good luck
2006-10-26 08:03:27 · answer #1 · answered by CMA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her about your feelings..if she is having a hard time dealing with the fact that you have a son then I dont think she is the right one for you
2006-10-26 15:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by Cassey L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, if she isn't ready to accept your son, she isn't ready to marry you. Your son is a part of you, and someone she will have to accept if she wants a marriage with you. Maybe letting her spend some time alone with your son will help. It's not easy for her to try to accept another woman's child.
2006-10-26 15:06:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has 3 other children in Mexico & 2 other children out of wedlock & 3 children with me. I have grown to love & like the other children, but however it did take me over 10 years to accept it, so you may have a long road ahead dealing with this I think its a natural feeling women have against other children even though its not the kids fault.
2006-10-26 15:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she wants to marry you she has already accepted the fact that you have a son and he is part of the package. give her more time and alone time with your son so they can bond. she should not just have a relationship with you. she should have one with your son as well.
2006-10-26 15:03:54 · answer #5 · answered by miss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if you really love some one u love everything that come with it my b/f has a child and i know him and live that little boy like if he was mi kid because i cant hate some one that has a piece of my b/f in him do u understand what I'm talking about? just talk to her that can help let her spend time with him not like a step mom like a friend that he has to respect that works for me
2006-10-26 15:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to accept you and your son. He is part of who you are. If she has a hard time with it, the both of you need to reconsider getting married.
2006-10-26 15:02:22 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest counselling on this one. She will need to accept your son 100% or there will be problems.
2006-10-26 15:03:17 · answer #8 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she can not accept your son then she would not make a good wife for you either!
2006-10-26 15:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help what? Convince her that it is worth it? You can have a marriage with a child from a previous relationship? What do you need help with? She is the only one who can decide if YOU are worth the trouble!
2006-10-26 15:01:17 · answer #10 · answered by lee911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋