What are your views on this??? Where do I fit???

Question

I am a straight, young white women, raised in a household that taught me to love others for their differences.
Well, I have come to notice that because of this upbringing, I cannot stand to associate with"openly" racist people, or anyone that discriminates others because of their differences. I find the things that they say sometimes to be offensive and I can't handle it. And I have zero tolerance for HATE CRIMES. I've ended relationships with guys because they were racist.
Racism and Gay Bashing, or any other Prejudice are hate driven. But does it make me prejudice if I choose NOT to associate with those who are Racist or Discriminate against others? Am I a bad person for hating other people because of their Racist or gay hating beliefs? Does this make me no better than them? Or is it ok to hate them becuase I truly believe their hate is not justified, and is unacceptable?

Another thing, I don't ever come right out and push my views on them about their beliefs. I just choose to cut ties with them because I can't tolerate their hatred. Most of them don't know why I don't hang out with them, but I am not mean to them.

Answer 1

It is not OK to hate them, which I'm sure that you don't....but there is no reason to like people like that and definitely no reason to spend time with them!
Would you hang out with someone how stole someones identity and therefore ruined the next several years of that persons life? Someone who molests little children? You're neighborhood drug dealer? NO!
Hang on to your convictions and don't let anyone tell you that you should be accepting of people who act in inappropriate and hateful ways. What they are doing is hurtful and wrong and you shouldn't have to tolerate it.

Answer 2

You are your own person and if you say you hate them that is just
how you feel. You said yourself, you don't say what you really feel to them, you just don't hang around them anymore. I can see if you were to go out there and speak your mind ,Then lots of people that have no problem with them will be against you. You said you were raise to love one another and that is a good thing. I dislike the racist and those whom discriminate others as well. People like them are so naive on their own believes that they can't even stand them selves for what ever reason they may have. If we could have more understanding people in this world it would be a better palce to live. I for one does not like the fact of people hurting people.

Answer 3

You got it. There are many people who have come to say that hate, or, as I prefer to call it, negative judgements (hate to me indicates violence, verbal, physical, emotional or otherwise, against someone, while judgement is simply acknowledging the inherent evil or wrongness of something) is bad no matter what. You can't hate racists- isn't your hate the same as their hate? Well, no, it's not. If you are yelling slurs at racists, maybe so. But if you simply believe that their views are wrong and unacceptable, and their actions inexcusable, then you are not being hateful. At least, that is my stance. That's why people who kindly and simply state that they are against homosexuality, or think that Caucasian is a superior race, get my utmost disgust and anger (at their thinking), but ultimately are fine with me. It is true hate- the "I'm right and the world is this way" attitude and the actions they do that makes hating them- in the full sense of the word- okay in my books.

Live and let live, people.

Answer 4

I know it's sometimes hard to seperate a foul attitude from a otherwise decent person. I've had friends whose personal ethics disgust me in the past, but in the end I found myself drifting away from them.

Hate is not a wholly bad emotion. Depending on the situation, it can be a good thing. Great men like Martin Luther King and pioneers like the Suffergetes hated the injustice they saw in thier world and used the power of that justifiable hatred to change the world to a better place. They had the courage of thier convictions. To tolerate bigotry is to condone it. It is perfectly acceptable to hate the unacceptable.

I find myself thinking of the words of Batman (of all people) In the end, who a person is on the inside doesnt matter. Its what we do that define us.

Oh, and I have to agree with what some others have been saying. The world would be a much better place with more people like you.

Answer 5

There are certain regulations within society which dictate towards what and whom hate may be directed. Considering the fact that there are laws against racism, the laws enforce your beliefs regarding racism. Congratulations, you are socially acceptable. But brought down to the barest sense of the word, "hatred" of any kind is wrong. Would you enslave a racist? Because it's not hatred unless you wish to take negative actions towards them. Until that point, it's simply a measure of your values and beliefs, which are justified by the society in which you live.

Answer 6

Woah! Hating the haters? That is so meta!

Seriously, relationships complicate thinking. It's good to be exposed to other points of view, but you also have to be true to yourself. If all you hear is intolerable intolerance, it will eat at you unless you challenge it sometimes. If your challenges provoke serious thought, then it's a worthwhile relationship. If you find yourself challenging a brick wall, it may be time to move on. Relationships are to help people be better. If it's getting worse for you and not changing the other, you need to look for friends who can think. Otherwise you'll wear yourself out.

If it helps, don't think of racists as evil, but as ignorant. Some you can educate, some you can't. But you have to take care of yourself too.

Answer 7

I think hating and choosing not to accept these people into your life are two different things. I also think that if the world had more people like you, we might have a happier world.

Don't stop living your morals, start teaching them. There are very few people left in the world with an unbiased opinion on race and we need to help more people find their way back there.

Good luck and stay strong!!!!

Answer 8

well, don't hate someone because you hate what they do. Hate is a very strong word. And if you Hate someone because of what they do, then you're no better than them, right? It doesn't make you prejudice. There is nothing wrong with "disliking", but I agree with you there is something wrong with "hating".

Answer 9

I think if you "hate" them, then you're pretty much guilty of the same thing they are guilty of. Try to separate the person from what the person does. Hate their attitude, but not them. Whether you think it's right or wrong, they're entitled to an opinion too... just like you. Theirs just might be the wrong opinion. :)

Answer 10

Don't be silly, of course it's ok! You are nothing like them. You dislike them for personal reasons, not for superficial reasons.