my boyfriends sister passed away yesterday. i have never lost anyone close to me and i'm not sure what to say to him or anything. any advice would be appreciated.
2006-10-26 07:45:03 · 6 answers · asked by amanda 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When my sister passed I was so heart broke. Your just so hurt and numb. The more you think to your self OK, every thing is gonna be fine, the more you hurt. You can't find the up side to any thing. Your just BROKE!!! The best thing to do is to just try to be around for him. And remember if he needs space let him breath. If he wants to yell, Let him yell. And if he isn't ready to cry, don't even bring it up. (people always say oh if you cry you will feel better) Just let him flow. And try to be right there for his family as-well. There is always last minute things that need to be done.
2006-10-26 08:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by Just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Words after a death have no meaning but time heals pain and silence bares all... okay so basically anything you say to him right now won't mean to much because only he feels his pain.... and all you can do right now is be patiant with him and be there for every need and when he wants to be alone let him but always be as close as a phone call away... trust me when he is ready to talk the words will come straight out of your heart... it's human instinct.
2006-10-26 08:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by candylbsb45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wifes brother died in June, so I kind of now what you are dealing with, the best thing you can do , is just be there for your husband, withwords of comfort as needed, and always be there to listen so that they can express their feelings, without feeling judged, don't be afraidto say good memories of the sister, she is dead but not gone.
2006-10-26 08:15:16 · answer #3 · answered by Blackdog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to be there for your man in this grieving time, just contiue to show your love for him and his family in this grieving time. It will take time for him to get over his lost. I know what he is going through. My daughter father died 2 months ago and every now and then i cry. I know she will be missed but remember his sista is in a better place and she is happy and she want everyone to be happy because she is with God rejoicing. I am sorry to hear of this lost. Just be there for your man and keep him tight to you.
2006-10-26 07:55:55 · answer #4 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hug him when you can and be there to listen to him dont be alarmed if he needs time alone i lost a son last month and his siblings took it very hard sometimes you just need to let them talk about it as much as they choose to be able to deal with it and sometimes they just want to be held but not talk i am very sorry for your loss i will say a prayer for you and his family
2006-10-26 16:24:24 · answer #5 · answered by angel afraid and sad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for him. To listen to him and offer him support. That is what he really needs. I'm truely sorry for the loss.
2006-10-26 07:48:30 · answer #6 · answered by sea shell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋