What other factors might be as important or more important?
2006-10-26 07:38:53 · 9 answers · asked by ragged 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband is really smart when it comes to math, science, and computers. These are not my strong points at all (I would be counting fingers and toes if I had to pay the bills!!). I'm better with art and literature.We're both intelligent people, but in different ways. I admire the skills that he has and will try to show an active interest in his work and hobbies even if I don't fully understand them and he does the same for me. We respect our differences and at the same time are able to share in many other aspects of life where we have common beliefs and interests.
My sister in law is very intelligent. She ended a relationship with a guy who had a Phd and married a factory worker because he treated her better. They are very happy together but her education intimidates him at times. He tried going back to school for a while just to say he has a degree but it didn't work out. I feel bad for him for putting that pressure on himself. She has never judged him for his lack of education. I guess it just shows that sometimes its not always the "educated" person who feels that there needs to be some level of intellectual compatibility in a relationship.
2006-10-26 08:04:50 · answer #1 · answered by Ravishing 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Intellectual Compatibility
2016-11-11 05:40:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!! Intellectual compatibility is a must. Remember that 50 years from bow it won't matter what you wore, how handsome he was, how nice your butt and breast looked. What WILL matter is what kind of conversation you can carry. If you are not intellectually compatible, you will be bored and have nothing in common. It's so important to be able to carry a good conversation with your significant other. Maybe you can pick out a book and talk about it. Go to a poetry reading. Or whatever you two have in common. Also, think about yours kids. How would you feel if they had a mother who loved shakespeare and a father who loved nascar?
2006-10-26 08:02:40 · answer #3 · answered by Evelyn R 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
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2015-08-18 19:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just my personal opinion, but intellectual compatibility is a big factor - we need mental stimulation just as much as other types of stimulation. I've dated some truly smart women and had great relationships - dated some as dumb as a Slurpee and it lasted 1 date. (I'm sure I seemed dumb like a Slurpee to some of those Mensa women I dated!!)
But again, this is just one of many compatibility factors that need to sync to be a "good" relationship - but it's an important one.
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2006-10-26 07:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont think intelectual compatibility is all that important, at least not as important as compatable sense of humor and morals....I am definately smarter than my wife in the classic sense, but she is much better at things like organization, better in social settings etc.....we both seem to recognize each others strong and weak points, and each do the things we do best, it makes for a great team
2006-10-26 08:03:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on who's the "superior" one. Intellectually superior females tend to get stomped. Respect for each other is Essential. Patience, forgiveness. tolerance, creativity, openmindedness, and getting along with your family are important. Willingness to work. Thoughtfulness. Sobriety. Health. Truthfulness and Trust. Your family and friends know you pretty well. They can sense a good fit when they see one. Be open to their advice. Pray. And don't let sex turn off your brain until all these other questions are answered!
2006-10-26 07:48:59 · answer #7 · answered by shirleykins 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to best friends first and foremost. That is the only thing that will get you thorugh life. After that, intellectual compatibility, looks, etc. are very secondary.
2006-10-26 07:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by Senor Pig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If communication is essential in a relationship, you would definitely want someone you can converse with intelligently. They don't have to have a PhD or Masters but you want someone who isn't like "da, what do you mean?" - -so I'd say it's pretty important. Also on my list of "must haves" are dependability, loyalty and trustworthiness.
2006-10-26 07:45:07 · answer #9 · answered by Cris 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Very important. My last wife was good looking and great in bed. But, she was as dumb as a box of rocks.
2006-10-26 07:47:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋