me and my boyfriend are arguing more than usual. He gets mad at something I say and then he tells me that I am getting on his nerves and that I am getting annoying and all this things. I understand that i could be annoying at moments because i like to play around alot. but the problem is that he says he's getting tired of me. and i am really not doin anything to make it better. Sometimes i feel that being single is the best for me right now. But me and him share things. We both get along with each others parents and we do nothing else but be together the whole weekend. I want to work things out and I want to fall in Love all over again because really i am loosin love for him. But i want to make it work so bad!!
2006-10-26 07:30:29 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i def know how that feels. im going through the same thing with mine. he just moved in with me so it was a huge reality check. no privacy or personal time etc. i just give him space. even though we share the same room, we decided to make a computer room and he goes there while i stay in the bedroom. i think that work has a lot of stress on us. i love him, w. all my heart, but i think that space is the only way to fix it. try talking to him and ask him what he thinks you should do. then you base the decision on wether or not he is trying to change you. good luck! here is you need anything! :)
2006-10-26 07:34:06 · answer #1 · answered by gracin_angel 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My boyfriend does the same thing. Talk to him about how you feel. Ask him what he wants, and why he feels that way. Is he just going thru a rough time at work, or something and your the scape goat?. Try giving him some space. Space giving is so hard because you'll want so bad to call but try hard not to right off the bat. Give him a day maybe 2 to think about the 2 of you then call. I know how hard that is because when my guy starts being like that he's really wanting time to himself. Sometimes he just needs 1 day sometimes more. I try to keep busy so as not to call him because I'm afraid of annoying him more. But it works and he is back to his normal, cheerful, bratty self. Good Luck
2006-10-26 07:40:15 · answer #2 · answered by robbie347 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Recently me and my boyfriend went through that problem. One weekend, I decided that I was going to go to our high school football game with two of my friends. I decided like the day of the game, so I really didn't give him but 5 minutes notice, literally. He got mad, so the next weekend we both scheduled things with our friends and didn't talk until late Saturday night. After about 3 weeks of not seeing each other all the time, we were better. Now even though that we are back to a pretty normal schedule of seeing each other, we still do something with our friends once a month, if not more. Try it... see how it works for you. Let me know!
2006-10-26 07:35:51 · answer #3 · answered by chelsea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your intentions are honorable, but working it out takes both parties. You, alone, can't do it. Through all the arguing, you really need to hear each other, and try to respond to each other's concerns. If the relationship has deteriorated that much, you might get counseling, but again, both would have to want it to work. If none of this seems workable, you're both experiencing the ending of the relationship, you both know it, and it's painful. It's just another reason a lot of couples argue.
2006-10-26 07:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider taking a mututal break (try a week or so with no contact). Some distance apart my provide clarity. After all absence makes the heart grow fonder (sometimes).
Relationships may take a little work but they can't be forced.
If things aren't working right now it may be a rough patch, or it may be that this is as far as this relationship can go.
2006-10-26 07:31:37 · answer #5 · answered by Kitia_98 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It seems more like you don't want to lose the relationship because that is what you are used to. It is comfortable and it is what you have known for a while. It doesn't seem like it's going to last though. Try not to waste too much time or emotions. Honestly, I know it might be hard but ending it might be something you have to do! GL and have a great day!
2006-10-26 07:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by Monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're so sweet... but if you want this to work, he should be participating too. It takes two to tango, and if you're as good as dancing alone, then maybe it's time to consider finding a new partner... or braving it alone and change the dance.
I know it's hard, girl, but then it's going to be even harder to be in an unloving relationship. Especially for you, a loving person. There's somebody out there who deserves your love more than your current boyfriend. And that somebody out there is your ticket to fall in love all over again.
Good luck to you, and frankly, I am glad to see that there is actually somebody like you who love that much in this world! It's good to know that love still exists. :)
2006-10-26 07:42:26 · answer #7 · answered by girliegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's time to-move-on. It was a growing experience.
You cannot create something that-is-not-there. You'll always have the friendship of his family as long as you're adult about everything. If you make the break now, who knows, maybe your pathes will cross again. If you're both annoyed, before you know it you'll hate each other. Stay friendly..........get on with your life.
2006-10-26 07:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that you should leave this guy if some guy told me those things I would be single and ready to mingle. You will find someone who you will share things with don't worry about that and maybe if you take a break he will realize he does want to be with you and if he doesn't then you know you made the right choice.
2006-10-26 09:10:28 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you and your boyfriend need some time apart.. Did you ask him what it is about you thats annoying him?? If he can't answer you or he says everything it's time for you to move on. A good relationship is hard work, but it shouldn't be a full time job.
2006-10-26 07:37:37 · answer #10 · answered by MKM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋