This has nothing to do with me and I'm really curious if this works or not.
Ok lets say you're a woman and you're married. Would allowing your husband to watch porn keep him from cheating on you?
State your reasons and stats that supports your opinion. Thanks!
2006-10-26 06:55:38 · 11 answers · asked by Rachel M 3 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
No, committing one sin to avoid another isn't the answer. If he wants to "do" other women then watching a movie isn;t going to stop him. There is more to it then the desire for sex. you need to find out what the cause of his disire for other women is. It is NOT normal for men to want to have sex with other women or watch porn.
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2006-10-26 07:06:36 · answer #1 · answered by N3WJL 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Okay, I am a woman and I'm married to a wonderful man. The first thing that you need to learn about a good marriage is that neither party has to "allow" anything. If someone (whether it be the wife or the husband) is inclined to do something (like watching porn) they will. Some spouses will care what the other thinks, but some will not. That depends on the person. Watching porn doesn't make a person want to cheat on their spouse. My husband watches porn, as do I on occasion. He doesn't ask that I "dress up" for him, and it doesn't take away from our marriage. Point is, if someone doesn't trust their spouse enough not to cheat on them, maybe they shouldn't have married that person to begin with.
2006-10-26 14:10:37 · answer #2 · answered by Ava 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a natural instinct to be curious. My husband doesn't care one way or the other if he watches it. I don't care either. I don't see anything wrong with it if it's not a problem (like watching it all the time). Every once in a while it could throw a little spice into your sex life, (meaning, if you're in a rut it might just get you thinking about doing things a little differently). That actually could help a marriage, assuming it's every once in a while.
About the cheating thing, if a woman allows her husband to watch porn to keep him from cheating on her that's not good. To me that just screams, "Let him watch that, better than me having to do it!" That is a cop-out for "I don't want to do it, but I don't want him doing it with anyone else either".
To sum it all up, I say a woman needs to keep the sex life spicy and keep her and her husband happy. That way nobody has to worry!
2006-10-26 14:27:58 · answer #3 · answered by BooBoo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's cheating, then he has no respect for his wife. Secondly why not twist the situation around, what would the husband do if the wife came up to him and said, "hubby, to avoid cheating on you I've decided to watch a load of porn, what do you think?"...
I think the husband would kick that wife out of the house and call her a Wh***! so if that's the situation then why should she accept it. It's completely ridiculous that the question is even asked it's not right to be stuck with porn, to replace the wife's place, if the relationship is over then it's OVER!, no mountain of porn can fix that!.
If they both agree to watch porn to take the place of the wife and husband then I guess it's fair (not right) because they're both in the position as the other..
If that's not the case and one of the sides gets to watch porn and the other doesn't then it shouldn't happen. Either way I'd be furious if I were married and my husband chose porn over me!!! I'd dump him so fast that he would be standing on the street with his load of porn before he even got to see the title of his pornographic movie!
2006-10-26 14:09:21 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy R 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ya know...when you open it up with a line like that..."this has nothing to do with me..." It's kinda like saying, "I have this friend..." basically everyone assumes you are talking about yourself...
Regardless, if your husband is going to cheat, he will cheat whether or not you allow him to watch porn...one does not substitute for the other. Now my question is...what's wrong that he needs to cheat and/or watch porn? Is he not getting enough or whatever at home?
2006-10-26 14:14:32 · answer #5 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, if a man is going to cheat he will cheat with or without porn because an affair allows him to act out his fantasies where as porn would just inspire them.
2006-10-26 14:04:31 · answer #6 · answered by Jez 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think even if you allow or not, if they want to watch porn they're gonna do it. If you sense that they're inclined to do so, better watch it with them. But I don't think it's gonna keep them from cheating on you.
2006-10-26 14:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by Earthling 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Every single person on this earth is different. We cannot say how one husband will react. I sure wouldn't be OK with it myself. He married me, I should be want he wants to look at and have. If I ain't good enough, then he needs to divorce me.
2006-10-26 14:04:17 · answer #8 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if it teaches him knew tricks, watch away. why don't you try watching porns w/ him, as long as hes at home watching them then you know where he's at. just remember the old saying, if you don't please your man someone else will. so i suggest you jump on the couch w/ him. nude....
2006-10-26 14:45:09 · answer #9 · answered by sassylilb68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not allow your husband to do that! Porn is not going to keep him from cheating on you. It is going to make him appreciate you even less (hell be expecting you to act and look just like those women). Which in turn will make him want to cheat on you even more because hell always be looking for something better.
2006-10-26 13:59:49 · answer #10 · answered by tearsnomore2005 2 · 1⤊ 5⤋