I need some advise on married and what i could do to save it from ending?

Question

to better sex/being a husband an a better father

Answer 1

You need a personal councillor

Answer 2

Think of at least three things for which you are grateful to you partner. They can be thoughtful or considerate things he or she did, or hurtful things he or she refrained from doing. Own up to what you did or failed to do. Tell your mate that you know it was wrong and make a commitment not to do it again. It's difficult to feel self-righteous and humble at the same moment, I know I know!! If you are afraid that graciously admitting your mistakes will cause your partner to ungraciously jump down your throat, patiently persevere. You have to save your marriage!Do you realize how many divorces are taking place in this world, right at the moment? Your graciousness may take a day to sink in before it softens your partner's anger and you're offered an olive branch in return. Being proactive is almost always preferable to being reactive. So, think ahead of time of what you could do that would pleasantly surprise your partner.
When you presume to know what your partner thinks -- when you really don't -- he or she may feel offended. Instead of getting defensive the next time you're having a problem, try saying, "I don't like where this is heading, but I realize that you may not like where it's heading, either. Is that true?" You will discover that it is impossible to be angry and earnestly curious about your partner's feelings at the same time.
Nasty or irritable behavior around a spouse's family is a common cause of marital problems. Realize that your partner may already have some awkwardness with these people and that you're only making matters worse.Save your family from breaking apart!! Divorce rates are increasing. It's good that you are trying to get help. Some couples in bad relationships don't do anything and get emotionally scarred.

Answer 3

if there is still love then you need to fight for it. Go to counseling or at the very least talk to your wife and ask her what she feels you need to change to be better. Tell her you'll do whatever it takes to keep her happy and in your life. Communication is everything in a marriage. Without it everything is misunderstandings and arguments. When she gives you the criticism just take it and don't get upset by what she has to say. It's not going to be easy to hear but it will put you on the right path.

Answer 4

By the sound of your question, the one who needs to improve his action/behavior is you. I recently got a divorce and talking from experience I would have to say love, respect, honor, appreciate and understand your wife. These are some of the things I hoped for from my husband. Just saying the words meant nothing.
Of course, all this is based on the assumption that your wife is a great lady.
As for being a good father....spend quality time with your kids, listen to what they have to say, keep your promises and constantly remind them you love them.
Good luck to you and I hope things work out.
By the way good sex can't harm :-)

Answer 5

Start focusing on her. Take an interest in what goes on her life. How was her day, etc. and actually seem like you care about the answer. Start paying attention to the things she nags you about, take note and make a change. As for sex....it all depends on what interests her. I know that as my husband starting taking what seems like a genuine interest in me and what is important to me, the sex life improved as if in co-ordination with everything else (and the foreplay got better, or should I say "came back" haha)....good luck!!

Answer 6

many things is worth a shot in the dark . spend more time with your wife , give her a reason to stay other than sex. be honest . be attentive to her . let her know you want only her. don't look at other females. i know it's natural for you guy's . but be happy with who you have . hold her hand in public. buy her roses for no reason . help her around the house . most important Communicate with her. ask her what you both can do to help work this out . you loved her enough to marrie her . now go from there

Answer 7

The only advice I have, since you didn't give any specifics on your relationship, is this: Whatever things you did to get your spouse, do those same things to keep your spouse. Remember birthdays and anniversaries, be kind, gentle and respectful, anticipate your spouse's needs, pay attention to your spouse.

Behavior changes, on both sides, after the marriage begins, because both partners forget what they did before. All you have to do is, remember what you did before you got married, and do that. Good luck.

Answer 8

you all need to go to counseling so that you can figure out what needs improving. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Talk to your wife and see what it is that she expects and tell her what you expect - then work together to achieve it.

Answer 10

Just do the best you can that is all anyone can ask of you.