i am 7 weeks pregnant and really want the baby but i am having thoughts?

Question

about having an abotion as i have no job.i am still with the father thats not the case just i will end up in a hostel until i can be placed in a flat.i hate abortions as i believ we dont have the right to choose who lives and who dies.i believe if things happen they happen for a reason.im 19 and scared pple will judge.i fil sick that i am even having thoughts of an abortion as i woulld never do that.please some advice needed xx

i dont want to give baby up for adoption as i would fall in love with it straight away.

i also believ in everthing happens for a reason.i wouldnt wanna get rid as i know i wud regret it just i dont wanna live in ahostel.just ev thing sounds soooo scary.i woldnt wanna abort as what happens if mary aborted jesus ect or my child could be the man or woman to have found a cure for cancer.just so worried

i have a part time job at the moment but they are only giving me 4 hours a week.and have adked for more but they are a rubbish company.so i am looking for a job and actually have an interiew as a p.a at the weekend.im just so scared of the living situation.and my fella is saying how it wil ruin our lifes but he also said he would be there for me whatever.

Answer 1

Take a deep breath, and try to see things as calmly and rationally as possible. First of all, you need to figure out some things: What are your real options? Of course abortion is an option, but it sounds like it would be something you could not live with. (If you have doubts now, then you will surely regret it later.) Money is not the only thing needed to raise a baby. As long as you are able to have support (either from the baby daddy, your family, what have you) all you need is a place to live, money to buy diapers and enough money to make sure you are eating well. I raised my girl on a very part time wage, no child support. But I made sacrifices - I lived with my sister, had no car and things until I could afford them. The reality is, you can always do things to put $$$$ into place - even if it's working at McDonalds. But you can NEVER undo an abortion.

Adoption may be a route you wish to consider too - I know that it would be difficult. I think as long as you can emotionally raise a baby, give it the love and care it deserves, then money is NOT the greatest concern.

Good luck.

Answer 2

NO! don't do abortion. It's really a matter of perception in things. It's either you look at it as a burden (coz u cant find job etc) or you can treat it as a gift. Life is a gift and perhaps that's the best thing you could ever give to the baby inside your womb. Everything is just a matter of time, basically I mean perhaps now you dont have a job but maybe after a day or two or a month from now you'll get your break. I was just talking to my friend who's got a mum who was once in the same situation as you. But there was a monk (coz this happened in far east) who approached her back then and said that the baby will bring luck in her life and you will not regret having this baby. That baby is now my friend who's a very successful person. Now, Im not saying that you're baby is guaranteed to be one too.. who knows? right? and besides... abortion isn't really a good thing to do. =) good luck.

Answer 3

I think that you've already made your decision. I'm pro-choice but it seems to me that if you had an abortion it would really damage you emotionally. There's always adoption. If you decide to go this route you can even have a say in who gets your child, but please make sure you're certain as the future adoption parents will be crushed if you change your mind at the last minute. If you decide you want to keep the baby, I recommend getting help from family, such as moving back in with your parents while you finish school or look for work. I hate to say this but don't just assume you will always be able to count on the father. You may, but take steps to ensure your child's future either way. This is a major decision that will effect not only your life but your child's so think very carefully about what you are realistically capable of doing. You might also want to get some professional help from a healthcare counselor.

Answer 4

I understand fully. I became pregnant at 16 for the first time and I did have an abortion. Something I'll always regret. I've had 3 since then and I can assure you that no matter whether you're with the father or financially able, there is no such thing as being able to afford it. I've struggled with and without the father of my children who are now 15-24 but I always managed. Somehow, someway things will work theirself out. The Lord blesses women with the ability to conceive children. Not everyone can. Consider it a blessing, pray and do your best and I'm sure you'll find that all will be just fine!

Answer 5

Don't have an abortion. The baby deserves a chance. You'll find a job and things would be okay. That is a permanent solution (and a heart breaking one) to a temporary problem. I am 18 so I can understand what you mean. But that baby is a part of you and it's going to love you. I am sure you are just scared. Try talking to someone who would understand you, like a best friend, or a counselor. And definately adoption before abortion. Good luck and God Bless!!!

Answer 6

I don't care what a person's particular situation is, even if it is ideal, you ae going to feel scared about becoming a mother. I was scared for the first, second and third pregnancy. It's normal to feel this way. It's healthy to feel this way. But, while you can give your child up for adoption later on, you can't reverse an abortion. I have never heard anyone say they regretted having a child, and yet I have heard many many people say they regretted having an abortion.


In as far as finances go, if you are a US Citizen, there is help available financially to make sure your child has everything he or she needs. Go to your DSS office and see if you are eligible. If you aren't, then look into your country's social services.There is no shame in it. There's only shame in it if you aren't willing to do all you can. Good luck. Everything will turn out just fine.

PS My first child will turn 19 tomorrow. He has brought me such joy all through these years. I was never able to give him much in as far as material things, but he has learned what life is truly about; things that no amount of money can buy.

Answer 7

I am 19 years old, and I felt the exact same way. I didn't have these feelings until 3 months though. I wanted to have a home, finish nursing school, and be married before any of this came my way. The baby's father and I sticked together and we made it work. Yeah, sure, it was rough, but we're still healthy and our little daughter is 5 months old now! At 32 weeks pregnant, my fiance and I found out that our daughter had a very serious heart disease where she only has a half of a heart. She had to be delivered at the University of Pennsylvania Hospital and she was taken directly to Children's Hospital of Pennsylvania. Not only we're we only 19/ 20 years old, but we had to deal with all this. She has to have 3 open heart surgeries, and she's already had her first. Our daughter had helped us grow together as a family, and I am very grateful for the both of them. It takes time to adjust to things, but it will work out. Talk to God, and maybe even seek counseling. You can do this. I wish you the best of luck, and if you need to talk about it, email me at [e-mail]. Good luck, and Congrats!! Motherhood is the best. Very challenging at times, but nothing beats it.

Answer 8

Well let me tell you i was in the same situation last year I got pregnant too at 19 and i was very scared i was even thinking of an abortion but some of my friends had got abortions and they told me how much they regreted it because no matter what you cant have that baby back so i had my baby boy and words cant discribe how much I love him:)

Answer 9

If you're already 2nd guessing it, you'll never live it down. I myself am pro-life, even if there is a problem. There's always adoption which gives them a great life. You can always get a job once the baby is here. Have him help out. You have no idea what you're capable of till that little one is here. Once you hold him or her in your arms, You'll do anything for them. Give yourself and the father a chance.

Answer 10

If you feel like that just consider giving the baby up for adoption. You could also try to get support from your family, close friends so that you can keep your baby...can you apply for medicaid? Does your partner have a job? You also keep looking for one, God will not abbandon those who are in need,maybe He will send you a job now. Just have faith and be true to what you believe, don't kill the baby if you feel so bad about it...try to find a better solution. May God guide you. xxx