I had a friend who I have known for about 2 yrs. My husband knew him first, but now he is more my friend. He has been coming over our house for about a yr now. He lived with the mother of his child for 12 yrs. She cheated on him about 2 yrs ago. He told me that he doesn't trust her, he's not in love with her, and that they have nothing in common. However, he married her 2 mos. ago, and he didn't tell me, another friend told me. When I asked him, he said that he forgot. He only married her for the children, and that he is not in love with her. He has also never shown us any pictures of his family. Please give me your thoughts about this situation. Thanks
2006-10-26 06:24:36 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be careful with this character. He is not at all trustworthy. You should not entertain him in your house at all, especially when your husband is not around. Please read what you have written carefully, very objectively and make your decision.
2006-10-26 06:28:07 · answer #1 · answered by someone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he didn't want to tell you about it because he felt a bit ashamed. Very strange situation...he could've been not telling the truth when he said he didn't love her. I think he did it mostly for his child but something sounds a bit off with the whole thing. I also get the feeling he may have feelings for you. Be careful about letting him come over to your house - the only man in your home should be your husband.
2006-10-26 13:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that guy is a potential problem to your household.What does your husband say about him being more your friend now more than his?And why would you say that you're more his friend than your husband?Because he confides about his situation to you?Be careful, maybe he's using that story to get your sympathy or more...He doesn't seem to be trustworthy.
Why the interest in him anyway?Don't put yourself in temptations's way.Temptation is already very skilled in always being at the right place at the right time.
2006-10-26 13:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by ivy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would watch out for him. How is he going to forget to tell you that he got married. Sounds fishy to me. And why would he MARRY a woman that cheated on him for the sake of kids????? That is so dumb. It probably is the other way around. I would be very careful around him and he really should not be coming to your house anyway.
2006-10-26 13:34:30 · answer #4 · answered by Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants his cake and eat it too....What are you doing??? You're married - and letting this man come over to your house to "talk". I doubt it!!
Of course he's not in love with her - just like all married men who cheat...and all "other women" believe!
Leave him alone and let him concentrate on his own family. Why don't you ask the whole family over for an evening???
2006-10-26 13:30:42 · answer #5 · answered by brenny_boo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you care if you're married? Sounds like both of you are untrustworthy. You care way too much about what a male "Friend" is up to. You're a married woman, act like it. And he says one thing and does another.
2006-10-26 13:37:05 · answer #6 · answered by Violet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a shifty character. If it was an innocent has he claims, then why not tell you?
I bet he was never really divorced and has some other secrets which might shock you more.
2006-10-26 13:30:25 · answer #7 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems awfully shady. I wouldn't put a lot of trust into him. You don't FORGET to tell a close friend you are married. Seems to me there is a hidden agenda here.
2006-10-26 13:31:38 · answer #8 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some one does not forget that they got married to someone 2 months ago. this guy is not trustworthy, nor truthful, I would be very cautious with him
2006-10-26 13:31:41 · answer #9 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sort of sounds like he may be interested in you........why else would he not want to tell his friend that he got married? Or that he doesnt love her...I'm sure she doesn't know he's telling you that.
2006-10-26 13:31:55 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetteach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋