Should I end it?

Question

My husband and I have been together a lil over 4 years, and have been married for two of them. As of late he hasn't been paying much attention to me....i.e.1) last night I tried to crawl in the shower with him and he spased saying all he wanted to do was finish and go to bed....i.e.2) I bought new tongs the other week and I was modeling them for him asking if he liked them and all he said was "ehh their fine". Should I be taking a hint??? I have no idea what to do to zone him back in to me.... should I leave?

Answer 1

i know exactly how you how you feel. sit down with him and do the 20 questions, ask him if hes in love with you are u doing something wrong ask him everything you want to ask him. dont hesitate. tell him you need to know what is going on that you feel like your losing him. ask him if hes happy. i yet to have a GOOD answer from my boyfriend ive tried everything and when it comes down to it we both understand that we dont want to waste anyones time if he didnt love me he wouldnt be with me,despite the fact we have a child together we agree that is no reason for staying together, i know he loves me is in love with me and would let me know if something was wrong.but i think sometimes men just dont understand that women need to be told they are beautiful or that we need to be consoled, my man simply does not care for clothing he would rather me be naked try that maybe he needs to be reminded of why he fell in love, both men and women need to be spontaneous, however i noticed it seems to be the women put more effort into the relationship. i want you to do as a i say introduce the the idea of no clothes simply walk out of the bathroom after a good shower and if that doesnt turn his head, i have plenty of ideas. dress more sex appealing use make up even to go to the grocery store, show a little cleavage no matter if you walking around the house or out with him or alone for that matter. ask him about a toy in the bedroom but make it clear to him that he is doing evreyhting right that u just want to try new things. try all kinds of postions. let him know that you dont feel he cares as much for you ask him if there is something bothering him, is he attracted to someone else, lets face it men and women tend to let their eyes wander. you never know what it could be. try flavor stuff for going down on him, maybe a sexual masage for both of you, um lets see, most importantly i think you should talk to him there has to be something ask him if there is something else you can do to make him happy , as if we dont do enough. hunny if none of this works he maybe interested in someone else. then again maybe not, sometimes when they work alot they tend to only care about sleep, try making his favorite dinner not pizza, add a little red wine maybe you both need to relax. see if both of you can take a couple days off work find a sybaris, or any hotel with a hot tub. try eveything before you consider a walk out. let me know how it goes dont forget ask him questions like are you still attracted to me, let him know you need some reassurance. dont be afraid of not trying be afraid of what can happen if you dont try. email me @ [e-mail]

Answer 2

1) comunication is the key here. you should explain your feelings and ask for his in response. It could be something very simple and then again it could be something pretty serious.
2) let your true feelings lead you forward. You have a right to be appreciated and loved. You both made the "marriage commitment" that means you "stick" and try everything you can think of to make it work. Taking the "hint" is not an option.. you must have open, honest, communication.
3) There are standard years where we have second thoughts re staying married; they are generally 1,3,5,7,20. Often people break-apart in these years..
4) For a lasting marriage you must establish and maintain open honest communication.. You don't have this at the 4 year mark but you should be moving towards it. In time trust (through trustworthy actions) grows. With trust comes commitment, etc.
good luck.

Answer 3

Talk To Him See if Something is bothering him. Could Be Job Related or Could Be Finacial Problem. If You Are Going To Leave After a Little Bump In The Road You Sholdn't Have Got Married In 1st Place.

Answer 4

If that's all it takes to make you think about leaving, maybe you should be questioning whether you really love HIM. I've been married 4 years, together almost 8. We have had WAY more ups and downs than what you're describing. We always work through the bad stuff because we really love each other, though. I think you should simply tell him how you feel - how he is making you feel - and be specific. Remember, guys can be moody, too. He doesn't have to pay attention to you every minute, want to jump in the sack with you every day, or whatever else, to love you.

Answer 5

You need to tell him exactly how you feel. Men are, for lack of a better word, stupid. I can almost guarantee he's not cheating. He's grown comfortable with you. Your relationship is still in the infancy stage, so to speak. He's won you, now he doesn't have to work so hard to keep you interested. That's the way he sees it. Just be honest with him about your feelings, and I'll put dollars to donuts he'll come around. The same thing happened with my wife and I. I had no idea that my lack of interest in her was bothering her. Once she told me how she felt, I paid closer attention to her needs. He will too. If you try this, and it doesn't do any good, then leave. (and drop me an email. lol)

Answer 6

Rangers ends quiet?! have you ever even been to both ends? And it for sure relies upon on what crew you help! And by some skill i don't think of the Celtic end will be making a music and dancing! not for lengthy besides!

Answer 7

Well find out if he is stressed out about something before ending it.There could be a lot of reasons for his disinterest.Try to find out.It could be something medical he is embarassed about or work or a lot of other things.Communication is key.Talk to him and let him know that no matter what you love him and that unless you know what the problem is you cannot help him.That will give him the chance to open up.Give it time and understanding.If he does not come aropund then try other options like counseling,but dont throw in the towel yet.

Answer 8

Give him some time - and ask him if there is a problem and if you should be taking the hint but I honestly feel there is no hints given here, he is probaly just tired or stressed.... Leave him alone for awhile continue to strut your stuff but do it honestly, not modeling them, prance around in the house before and after bed time wear them anyway, who cares if he's looking or not but sooner or later he will.... and take your bait...

Answer 9

Can’t a man just be tired?

You sound like you are looking for an excuse to leave.

If you don't want to be married any more then own up to YOUR feelings.
Leave him.

But first do this:

Ask him honestly if there is a problem.
Listen to his answer. DO NOT INTERUPT!

Tell him about how you feel.

Listen to what he has to say in reply.

Than make you decision.

How ever I think you have already made it and are just looking for validation on if you are correct!

Answer 10

Have more faith in your marriage. Sometimes things are just on a down level in your relationship it doesnt mean anything. There are a million possibilties but thats not enough information to go by to say he is cheating. Try to rekindle the spark. Surprise him by taking him out on a really romantic date. I think marriage is like a roller coaster sometimes you are both high and loving life and sometimes your at a low point. Dont give up so easily.

Answer 11

That does sound a bit strange...talk to him and see what's going on. Maybe something is bothering him at work. Just be there for him and listen to what he says. There is a slight possibility he may be with another woman - but let that be a last resort thought. Don't leave just yet.