She doesn't cooperate in house shores and doesn't pick up after her self.We feel that we have a eternal teen ager here.
2006-10-26 05:50:36 · 17 answers · asked by loving 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We love our children unconditionally... the one thing we will not tolerate is "disrespect"...you tell your daughter she will not speak or act that way to you and if she does, to pack her bags and leave!
2006-10-26 06:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by sadie_oyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
20 years old, eh? Why isn't she going about her own life by now? Sounds like she never grew up, and maybe you had indulged in her behavior all her life. But it could be that she is facing a mental disability...I don't know. I am not going to judge this. But if you are asking for advice as to what to do with your 20 year old daughter, it seems that she is normal but very irresponsible. If so, give her 30 days to find a new place to live.
I have 3 children, the oldest 12. She will probably start babysitting soon, and when she's about 14 or 15 I will insist that she get a part time after school job. If she wants cool clothes, she pays for it. If she wants a yearbook, she pays for it. If she wants a new bike, she pays for it. When she gets old enough to drive, she will help in paying the insurance if she has a job. She will also replace the gas she uses in the car. The kids put away their own laundry, clean the yard with me, household duties and they get their homework done on time. They signed a contract with both with Daddy and myself about bedroom being clean, reading time, homework time, chores...etc. If they don't follow the contract there is a list of discliplines: like writing sentences...things of that nature. If the children hit one another out of anger, they have to pay one dollar of their money to the person they inflicted pain on. Why? Because in life if you punch someone because you're mad at them, they can be sued for damages. I am simply preparing my children for life. Yet at the same time they are happy and well loved. There's never too many hugs, kisses, and never too much praise and encouragement. If you give a child everything they want...money, credit cards, no repsonsibilities...they will grow up not knowing how to live. And they will blame the world for their unhappiness. Could this be why she is still at home and not doing the simple chores that is being asked of her? The best thing you can do at this point is that she has a job and find a place to live. Otherwise you'll contine to be unhappy parents with a an adult child that will keep living off of you.
2006-10-26 13:13:54 · answer #2 · answered by sweeta : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bye, bye, baby! She's 20, hon. That's 2 years past the legal age that you have to put up with her. Send her packing so she can learn these lessons the hard way. Start leaving newspapers with the rental section out and circle the ones you think she can afford. It's time for her to leave the nest and for both of you to get on with life!
2006-10-26 12:55:18 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 23 years old and I've went through that stage. What my mom done was set major rules. I wasn't aloud to go out of the house, she took my car, and set a phone time that I couldn't go past. If you set down harsh rules I guarentee she will straighten up.
2006-10-26 12:53:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make her pay rent. Maybe then she'll start respecting or she'll get out. Put some solid rules down even at 20 she must follow them if she expects to continue to live with her folks.
Don't fork over any money to her, for anything, she's not respecting you at all, why should you enable her to contine to disrepect you?
You're still her folks, she lives in your house, you have every right to tell her what to do.
2006-10-26 12:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by Auddi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ill tell you what you do, the next time she comes home, have all her sh*t sitting outside in the yard in a suitcase and plastic bags..
Kick her a** out. Shes an adult now, and if she cant act like one, its time for her to learn what its like to be on her own!
2006-10-26 12:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by Rabbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough love, I live there with one who is 24 now he has drove us crazy since 15 and we put up with it like idiots now he has a 2 yr old, 1 yr old and guess what a set of twins and his girlfriend who lives with us. Its hard to throw your grandbabies out, stop it before it happens to you.
2006-10-26 12:56:48 · answer #7 · answered by magnimpi2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick her a** out of your home it doesnt matter where she goes or what she does she is a grown woman now if she doesnt want to do what you tell her in your home then tell her to hit the road she is a full time moocher and you need to clean house honey they say the best kind of love there is,,,,, is tough love good luck and i will keep you all in my prayers
2006-10-26 12:54:03 · answer #8 · answered by att_i_tude2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's an adult. Kick her out of the house and stop whining about this grown person not acting right.
2006-10-26 12:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do u know u aren't treated her like a imature teenager. I'm 20 and it sure bugs me if Mom trys ot nag me like she did when I was a teenager. Ask her what the matter is too. Don't just asume she's horrible person. Ask her to do chores too don't tell her. She's a aldult now it's time she felt like one from her parents.
2006-10-26 12:54:08 · answer #10 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋