it was getting pretty hot...when i went down on him he started to say how good i am and stuff...later when we were doing it he starts saying things like...f...me..(my name)...and on and on...
well...this has never happened like this b4...he used to say things like i am good and stuff but never said "f.." thing...
i felt weird...i kinda got turned off too...
is this ok...?
we are married since 2 yrs and dated like 7 yrs b4 we were married.IT happenned only yest like this...so i am perplexed...
any opinions?
thanks
2006-10-26 05:44:42 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you don't like it then you need to say something. I don't think its an unusual thing though. I think he might be trying to role play a little. Its cool if you talk about it first. its just a bit of a shocker if you all of a sudden feel like you are making love to a stranger.
I say ask him how last night was for him and find out if he was in the dirty mindframe. It could have been really cool for him. And, its a good thing to keep the sex fun and eventfull. Although I can understand if you need to tell him it was not as exciting for you. Your marriage should be a safe place to talk about your feelings. Good luck sugar.
2006-10-26 05:57:24 · answer #1 · answered by lbacig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
those type of girls human beings saying he's dishonest.. sheesh. continually searching ahead to the worst from us men. not saying he's not, yet actuality be suggested, there's no rationalization for a 'typical / healthful' guy now to not want to hump like a rabbit. you seem to be a sensible human being, so i anticipate you've already taken a good puzzling seem contained in the reflect to confirm if there is something about your visual charm it really is a turn off. also, pay interest to three of the different men the following, and picture if you're being verbally unfavourable circuitously it really is frightening him. you're saying he falls asleep in like 2 seconds and is to drained at evening to wish sex. nicely, if he's been with you all day (so that you comprehend he hasn't been everywhere else), and hasn't in basic terms gone for a 5 mile run till now going to mattress, he might want to not be to drained. possibly some well being issues might want to be affecting his capacity? Is he eating correct, and does he do prevalent excerice. i have heard that can be a huge contributing component for men loosing their sex pressure. i'd communicate to him, enable him comprehend you worry and experience you not pleasing, and probably seek for some counseling. good luck,
2016-12-05 06:19:50 · answer #2 · answered by blessing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds like he just wanted to change things up a little. You should tell him that it was a turn off for you. I have been married for 11 years and I can tell you that it takes communication in the bedroom to keep it hot.
2006-10-26 05:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats hot! Why would you get turned off? That means he was way into it, more then usual. Its a good thing when they get into it more then usual. You dont want the same dull boring rutine every time you have sex do you? Try saying stuff like that back to him, I bet he would go crazy to hear you say dirty things to him cause he doesnt expect it.
2006-10-26 05:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you afraid of him being violent? If yes, then you should be seeing a shrink. My opinion is that he is trying to change the way that you both used to do. And this is a very good strategy to keep things fresh. don't worry about it and enjoy these moments. These words that he is using gives him the joy so try to make use of it.
2006-10-26 06:09:28 · answer #5 · answered by DEER 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your hubby was trying to spice things up a little. Talk to him instead of trying to figure him out. After two years of the same ritual usually gets a little old, dont you think so? Kind of like ordering the same dish from your favorite restaurant, you may get bored, so instead of changing retaurants you change your order.
2006-10-26 05:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a private discussion that you and your husband need to have. It sounds like he wanted to mix it up and little and the way it's been explained to me is that if you want to survive a very long marriage, you'll need to open up a little to new things. However, it doesn't sound like you're quite ready so just explain to him that it surprised you and you didn't enjoy it.
PS. If you don't learn to communicate to your husband, you'll be in for some rough years!
2006-10-26 05:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-26 05:48:03 · answer #8 · answered by N0t Known Never Ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to spice things up a little. Don't freak out. Be flattered.
2006-10-26 05:50:43 · answer #9 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are NOT in a sexual environment TALK to him about it. Tell him that it really doesn't do anything for you.
If he cares he will not do it again. But you should tell him what DOES do it for you.
Guys are not mind readers. You have to communicate to have better sex
2006-10-26 06:03:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋