Are you someone who does not want to get married? Why / why not?

Question

I don't really want to, for a lot of reasons.

Mostly, I don't want to end up trapped in a marriage with some guy and a few kids. Once you have kids, you're pretty much trapped. Don't get me wrong, there are many, many happy marriages out there, and I think it's a great thing! But for me personally, I wouldn't want to take that kind of leap. Also, I like to do my own thing. I'm not too into long relationships, they're nice sometimes, but single is good, too. The only thing is getting very old would be lonely if I wasn't married. I could get married, but only to the right person, but I doubt I ever would.

What are your reasons? Would you ever, even if you don't want to? Do you think your mind will change down the road?

Answer 1

Have been married for 14 glorious years with the same lovely woman and 5 awesome kids. I know what I wanted. I am mature enough to live a married life and I am able to let go of the world.

I am sure many of you young people would love to sleep with the world before settling down. Or, your flock won't let you enjoy a settled life. I would suggest growing up and understanding what's the most important in life.

I think that being married takes a serious mind and a commitment most people lack in this degenerate world. You people use marriage as a punchline. I would hang my head in shame if you are one of those people. Kids are a joy, not a burden. If you are threatened by kids, you must have the immaturity of a kid.

Answer 2

I'm the relationship type. I mostly dislike all the game playing and fakeness that comes with dating, and I really feel like my time is better spent building something real with someone than having something superficial with a few different people. But I also have the same anxiety about getting married, because I have always wanted a family that I can grow old with and send the kids off to college or whatever they wanna do and have the grandkids come over to visit and all that. I hate the idea of divorce and visitation rights child and Christmas at my house one year and Christmas at the kids mother's house the next, and so on. So while if a female knows how to treat me right, I'd stick around no problem. But I want to do things right when it comes to family, so I'd be really worried about starting one with the wrong person. I do want to get married some day though.

Answer 3

Well my fiance and I have been together two years this novermber, and we have a kid together and another on the way, and while I sometimes think I want us to get married for our kids sake, I don't know, I kind of like the status quo. We have both been married before, me once to my high school sweetheart for all of 5 years and him twice, the first to his hs sweetheart. I sometimes think that if we were to actually go for it and get married that it would mess things up. YOu have to do what feels right to you though, and if the thought of marriage makes you wanna gag, just don't do it. And just because you don't get married doesn't mean you are going to end up lonely when you are older. But then again, you might change your mind sooner or later on how you feel about marriage. Good luck, and just do what your heart tells ya!

Answer 4

Well if u don't want to be married and have kids ..that's fine make sure u find someone who feels the same way. it's respectable. what i cannot stand is people who have kids and neglect them. that is wrong.

I don't really believe in marriage. Cause it's overrated and just a peice of paper anyway.. I do believe in committment with my husband because he is my best friend, lover, the father of my children and we are very compatible and he makes me happy. it may not be the same for others. we have a wonderful partner ship.

you seem like u are neagative about meeting the right man. If u do meet someone who is compatible with u and rescpects u and loves you and you have a great time then you would want to be with that person. but until then, you will feel this way i am sure.

don't worry...he is will come.

The only reason i am married is for legal reasons...insurance, and i am a stay home mom.

Answer 5

I'm here with you,so you are not alone, just at times you feel lonely. I have given 16 years to a man and we have 2 boys 15&5 years old.This year I aquired 9 whole months to be Free!!!!! And single Women with the option to Live their Jouneys at their own pace. How Great is The King? Time is not everthing unless, you still haven't figured out who you really are. All I know, right now is. I miss My Sons. Yet, I found Me,Myself, and let's not forget I. Complete yourself and He or She will be ADDED! Happiness is Breathing and savouring every single JOURNEY! Love Yourself. TL=That's Life> Oh Yhea, 3 rings(I never did marry)

Answer 6

I respect your choise and as long as you're happy that's great. I just think anybody would want a long term relation at some point in life. It gives stability, security and support. Kids are so special I can't describe it. You have to have them yourself to know, but you can see yourself in your kids, it is a wonderful gift from God.

You seem like an intelligent lady, as your reasoning is logic. And you got one point right...it is worse to be trapped in a marriage that is not right then to be single. So, it is important to be patient and wait until you're absolutely sure. However, I think it will happen to you :)

Answer 7

I used to be engaged whilst I used to be 24 and married whilst I used to be 26 Our marriage ceremony colours have been a light peach and chocolate brown We each and every had our brothers as witnesses (two complete), it used to be an overly small marriage ceremony (14 folks have been there adding us and our reverend) Our reception used to be held a month after our marriage ceremony, and we didn't have assigned seating, so much folks did not sit down, it used to be a cocktail occasion We had a small chocolate cake after which a type of muffins for folks to decide on, I consider there have been five unique offerings We went to Maui for 2 weeks We obtained married in Gleneden Beach, OR, a tiny the city at the coast, simply external of Lincoln City

Answer 8

Although I'd never admit it to him, I am currently in a relationship, with children, with a man that I am not going to marry. At first, we both agreed we wanted children, and before the conception of my first child, we got engaged. At that time, I did believe I wanted to marry this man, but as time has passed, (5 years), things have changed between us and he is not the man I thought he would be. I am a pretty grounded person, so I don't think I had a surreal idea of what WE would be, but we aren't the husband and wife pair I had hoped for. I do believe in marriage, and do want to get married, I just suggest to you to be sure that you've given yourself enough time with whoever you date to REALLY get to know them. It has God-honestly taken me these 5 years we have together to know him and realize he isnt what I want.... Good luck to you...

Answer 9

I don't want to get married because marriage is a sacred vow before god and should be taken seriously People get married and divorced 1 and 2 days later like its a joke and it is not Do you hear :...For better or worse, til DEATH do we part. Nobody wants to work anything out no one wants to compromise, but they do want to get to the grass on the other side , they do want to have same sex partners they do not want responsibility they fall apart at the first sign of trouble it makes me wary, then what about those who marry just to kill you for insurance purposes? Hell yeah its scary!

Answer 10

I was married for years -- horrible marriage.

I swore I would never marry again. Although I've had some nice relationships over the years, I've never waivered from my "no marriage" statement. Until...... Yep...... You guessed it. I met my current bf and have falled in love with him. Should the day come where he ever asks me to marry him, my answer will be yes.

Heaven help me :-)