how do i tell my parents im pregnant?

Question

i am 14 years old and got pregnant at a college party. I have no clue who the father is. How do i tell my parents?

Answer 1

IF ITS NOT TOO LATE AND U CANT DISCUSS WITH UR PARENTS JUST LOOK IN TO THE POSSIBILITY OF ABORTION.

Answer 2

MANY foolish answers, obvioulsly by people who haven't been in this situation. I was 15 when I found out I was pregnant. First of all you need to decide what YOU want. Are you going to keep this baby? Adoption? Abortion? If you do decide to keep the baby, what about the father? You said you don't know who he is. Can you narrow it down? Would you be able to take care of a baby on your own? Do you think your parents would be supportive? If you decide on abortion, I don't think it would be neccissary to tell your parents. Where I'm from you don't need consent. If you do decide to keep your child, do you have a job? If you do decide on keeping your baby you need to tell them ASAP. You need to be getting prenatal care, and I assume you'd be using your parents insurance. It is difficult, but it is not impossible. I ended up having my daughter as a single mother, finished high school (not GED), graduated college, and am what I consider to be pretty successful. I had a great support system which included my parent. It is hard work, but well worth it. I worked part time and went to school full time. Good luck! And there is no easy way to say it, just say it.

Answer 3

Tough one. First off, everyone makes mistakes, so don't be too hard on yourself. Just NEVER do anything like that again. Your parentsa re likely going to freak out a bit, but don't take their initial reaction to heart, as there will be alot of emotion surrounding the reaction. I would tell your mom first. When you have some time alone with her, tell her that you made a huge mistake, and you know that she is going to be very dissapointed, and that you are dissapointed, but whats done is done, and you had sex, and found out that you are pregnant. Tell her you are sorry for letting her down, and that you just made a huge mistake, and that you really need her help, because you are scared. Don't go into a bunch of gory details about the night it happen, just tell her that you don't know who the guy is. It is what it is, and she will be upset, but better for her to tell your dad. I know that you most likely learned your lesson, but please remember, guys will fill your head, tell you what you want to here, and take advantage. Be strong, and realise that you are better than that, and you deserve more than that. Sex at 14 doesn't mean you are s sl*t, I think you just have some self -esteem issues, and you messed up. Try and make better choices in the future, and good luck with this whole situation, I hope it goes ok for you.

Answer 4

well first of all YOU ARE 14?????? what are you thinking !!! I'm not gonna sit here and lecture you but I do believe you should tell someone immediately! I was pregnant at 17 and i graduated while being pregnant my parents were not happy what so ever but they have gotten over it learned to accept it and love my 5 yr old very much!! you need to decide what is in the best interest of u and the child obviously if the father isn't going to be there and you are still in school you need to seriously think about your consequences good luck and tell your parents!!!

Answer 5

Well, if you don't want to tell both of them, have a talk with the one that you feel most comfortable with. They will be angry and disappointed, but you are their child and they will help you get through it.

Trust that your parents will help you. Don't go to friends. There is nothing that they can do. Your parents are legally responsible for you.

They will know that you are disappointed in yourself as well. Just tell them in a very apologetic way.

It's too bad that it happened to you, but you can't change it now. You just have to accept it and move on. I had a cousin that was a straight A student and she got pregnant at 14.

She had the baby, married her boyfriend and finished high school and is finishing up a 4 year degree in college. It can be done. It just takes a little more effort.

Oh, and most importantly, get to a doctor for blood work and verification of the pregnancy. Prenatal care is very important, especially at your tender age. You will probably be considered high risk because of your age.

Answer 6

One of my sisters got pregnant when she was fifteen and let me tell you...it was not easy for her at all. First of all I would like to give you props for not rushing to get an abortion before anyone found out. That alone shows that you have accountability for your actions and that you have a good heart.

When you tell you parents, sit them down and be blunt. "Mom and Dad, I had unprotected sex at a college party with a guy I just met and I am now pregnant. I know what I did was wrong and I am so very sorry for what I did. Please be supportive of me and help me make the best decision for this child." The sooner you do it, the better. Your parents, especially your dad, will be upset and angry. They are angry because they know how hard your life is going to be from here on out and they wish that they could change things for you. Then they will slowly get over it and as it gets closer to the time, they will probably get excited for you and start buying you baby things ;)

Now, you have an important decision to make. You can keep the baby or give it up for adoption. By giving your baby up for adoption, you will be giving him/her the chance to have a 2 parent’s home that can provide for him/her and have the life experience to take care of him/her. I can't imagine giving up my child. It would be one of the most heart breaking things I would ever have to do....but putting my feelings aside, I would need to choose what is best for this child.

Honey, I am so sorry that you are in thing situation and I wish that I could carry the burden for you. Remember that for the next 9 months (or how ever far along you are) it is no longer about you....it's about your child. At 14 you couldn't possibly be able to provide the things your child needs. I pray that with your parents support you are able to make the right choice for your circumstances.

**please do not abort your baby. It's not better to get rid of it because you don't want it. What is done is done. What matters know is what you choose to do about it.

Answer 7

You really have to tell them. Like it or not @ 14 you are their responsibility. And right now you need all the support you can get. Yes, it's going to suck telling them and they may be very angry. But none the less they need to know, so you guys can plan the best course of action. They are your parents they love you, and trust me every parent worries about this moment for their little girls from the time they hit puberty until they become adults and out on their own. So, though this may be their worst fear, it certainly isn't something that hasn't already crossed their minds.

Shoot our little one isn't even here yet, nor do we know yet whether is a boy or a girl, but papa and I have already discussed how we hope to handle a situation like this if it should arise in our future as parents.

And please don't listen to all the a$$holes above passing judgments about your age. They have no right to pass judgment on you. Until they have taken steps in your shoes they have no understanding of the fear & confusion that you are going through. Whats done is done, and you need to make the most responsible decision that is right for you and yours. Reguardless of what you decide to do, you will have to live with that decision for the rest of your life...so choose wisely.

Answer 8

I know you are young but you will be suprised at how understanding your parents will be. I know that this will sound bad as well but if you want to keep the baby then wait until your about four months then they cant really make you have an abortion. As to the father just narrow it down to who you slept within that week that you think that you fell pregnant. You will be fine. Remember everything happens for a reason. If you need anymore more help email me ok. [e-mail]

Answer 9

I know you are going to get a lot of nasty answer for that one
but at 14 what are you doing in a College party
and the worst how are you going to tell your parents
OH by the way I don't know who is the father
Also I want to ask
how come you don't know is it because their were more than one guy
my God I have always advocate sex education in school
your school, your parent have fail you
because it seems to me that no one has tough you no to open your leg so freely
now not only your parents will have to deal with you been preg
they will also have to deal with their grandchild will never know who is his/her father
and that you might get yourself an STD (AIDS, HERPES,SYPHILIS, CHLAMYDIA OR MORE)
Tell your parents as soon as possible
and make sure you have test run for STD

Answer 10

Please just tell them... I am sure they are going to get very very angry with you, but in the long run they are going to be there to help you and you are going to definitely need all the help you can get from your parents. Tell them as soon as possible. You are only 14, How did this happen? what were you doing ata college party? Just tell your parents... Say mom dad I'm pregnant

Answer 11

You need to use protection if you are becoming sexually active. 14 is a very young age, and maybe you need to quit having sex. At any rate, you've gotta tell your parents before they figure it out on their own. You'll need them to take you to the doctors and everything. If you're too afraid to tell them, talk to a planned parenthood counselor or doctor, and they can help you. Otherwise, you've gotta just sit them down, and tell them straight out. They might be mad, but they'll get over it. The baby is coming whether they like it or not.