I did the ultimate wrong in a relationship, I cheated and lied... I truly feel how bad I have hurt her. i am waiting and being a friend as much as possible. I am helping and supporting what she wants to do with her life. Im more than happy she even wants to be friends. I want her to trust guys again, I want her to trust me again. The saying if you love something to let it go means a lot to me. I believe if things are really meant to be they will. I know she cares for me in her heart so Im hoping that tiny bit of love left will be enough to spark something(when the time is right for her) that will last a lifetime of love that will never be questioned again. I will do WHATEVER it takes to prove myself. I promised her I wouldnt lie agian... Im keeping to that even though she doesnt think its the truth. We started out pretty good then I lied about hanging out with a friend to discuss my relationship problems. I will commit to making sure she is happy and Im trustworthy.
2006-10-26 05:33:58 · 14 answers · asked by Angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you are on the right track. Be patient and remember that once the trust is lost, it has to be won back and that is gonna take some time.
Good luck!
2006-10-26 05:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by mimi22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the answer. It's a tough road but time will heal you. You can help time help you by keeping yourself busy. Get involved in your hobbies, if you don't have any - try some new things out. The important thing is to create some new memories which will act as a buffer between the bad stuff you've been through and the present day. Those new memories will soon be more prominent and time will fix you. Spend some time doing things YOU enjoy doing. This will make you happy, and pretty soon you will find that your walls are no longer as high as they were - without even trying. A certain amount of walls are ok, they are a defense mechanism and something that protect us in the long run. You will meet people occasionaly that deserve to be let in, this will just happen out of the blue. Keep busy.
2016-05-21 22:25:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me before and I loved the guy very much so it really messed me up for awhile, it was hard to trust guys for a long time and it took us almost three years to be able to become friends again. That may sound silly but that kinda stuff hurts pretty bad if the relationship is serious. All I can say to you is dont bug her, let her get over it on her own and friendship may take a long time or may not happen at all, but hopefully you learned from this experience
2006-10-26 05:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by Spin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order for her to trust you again she will have to check up on you for a period of time
she is probably trying to determine if you made a mistake, or is this a normal pattern for you in relationships
she doesn't want to think you want her back because it didn't work with the one you cheated with
the relationship may not ever be repaired
there comes a point where it has to be put behind the both of you and a relationship wont work in a police state if you know what I mean
I think let each other go , let the dust settle for a while
Good luck to the both of you
From one who has been cheated on
2006-10-26 05:43:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you're never gonna stop lying to her if you can't be honest with yourself. She will always think that you're lying to her, when you have a history of broken promises with her. You need to give her some time to heal, she's not going to just forget about what happened. "People will forget what you said, forget what you did, but they will NEVER forget how you made them feel." That is so true. Give her time to think things through and accept that she even considered being friends. Utilize this separation time and work on bettering yourself. Then, if and when you two get back together, you can prove that you are ready to be in a serious relationship. Good luck!!!
2006-10-26 05:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Spirit♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that some guys push us girls to the end then and only the do you tell us that your sorry and know you realise that you shouldnt take certain people for granted. I am beginning to think that this is some sort of control issue because if we put up with it you think were suckers and if we dont you love us even more?? Whats a girl suppose to do. Sorry mate I know you dont feel so good but pls explain this to me as I am having the same problem..but over and over again??
2006-10-26 05:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by ♥wattha♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems that u truly love her. Be a good friend now I am sure she will forgive u but sure she will never forget u lied. let her feel how much u care about her. No woman can resist this nice feeling. I wish u luck and wish u will be really an angel...
2006-10-26 06:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by angelina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be something in the relationship that is keeping her with you.Keep doing what you are doing and the best person to talk about your relationship is no-one but the other part of it.She loves you which is why she is still with you so give her time but dont let her take to much time.your thinking well how long,only you will no that.The longer she dwells on things the more she will think about it so keep her occupied and keep making her feel loved and best of all talk to her ALWAYS...........................
2006-10-26 05:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a girl who was lied and cheated on, its going to take a lot more. and its going to be a while before she will trust. my ex really messed me up with his lying to the point it took me over a year with my current bf to actually trust him and believe what he said. you have to look at it like this. she believed you. she believed everything you ever said to her. then she found out it was a lie. now everything you say and do is a potential lie and she has to figure out whats real and whats not. its really hard. its like telling a kid there is no santa. they really really believe it, then all of a sudden its gone and now they doubt everything you have ever told them was real as a child. it hurts.
you need to give her time and space and you need to let her deal with everything in her own way. dont push yourself on her, she will leave.
2006-10-26 05:39:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not that easy to forget... it takes time... forgive first yourself before others forgive you... don't focus much on her.... focus first on yourself... give yourself another chance... everyone dare to have mistakes in life... proving to her that you are sorry always falls back on you... if you are truly sorry to yourself and learned the mistakes you have once created then time will heal the pain for you and her... everything will work out good if you only believe... it takes process... it will heal soon... if she is going to see it then its good but if not... at least you recover from the past... move your feet forward... don't waste time thinking how you can prove her your worth... think on how you enrich yourself again... give her time... she was hurt.... everything that you promised don't just promise but do it... sometimes it is better to speak that to do it... don't promise anything that you are not sure of... better do it in action... show her not tell her....
2006-10-26 05:48:47 · answer #10 · answered by frances @ W Maldives 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋