ok i have a bf
im interested in this gal
she and i really clique very well, eg we always seem to agree alot on likes and dislikes, when im thinking of smting in a situation, we end up thinking about the same things
im not known to be bi or les
she is single, appears to be straight but i know she has lesbian friends ie, she dosnt get sick at the mere idea of the word lesbian
so what are my chances we might end up together, or at least some how either of us fess up about likin each other?
cos i do but i cld never dare to fess up to her, unless one day she like looks longingly into my eyes, or some other really obvious sign
and the way we are around each other, i feel sooooo like grabin her and huggin her and givin her a kiss, dont know if she feels the same, hoping and wishing each day she does and 1 day she acts on it..
what are my chances?
2006-10-26 05:25:01 · 9 answers · asked by acnemycin 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
in the past i did actualy act on those feelings, though i dint hav as much chemistry as now, but they were close friends, talked about anything and everything, hanged out, laffed alot. and i was single, but yet i got rejected, one is stil my friend, another well..disappered
what im afraid is that the current one ended up the same, that the gal pal frnly thing i misunderstood for lesbian feelings..how do i deal with this?
2006-10-26 05:35:24 · update #1
mylife:
thanks, i hav been waiting for a chance too where we cld go out together, we have but usually its with a group, i dont think we are at the stage where we wld go out alone with her (she is a co-worker), but if i only could!! and with some drinks it might open her up.. and well i did think about what i'd do if we come clean too..but i simply dont know, i need for it to happen before i can truely decide my next step
what have i to lose? friendship? lose my heart? sigh...
2006-10-26 23:09:52 · update #2
I think you both are doing the dance of romance... Stop trying to make it happen before its time...The intensity will be worth the wait... I think you should get together and have some drinks alone, maybe at one of her friends bar hang outs "lesbian" that can be more comfortable.. The chemistry is clear and that cant be hidden, the only rejection you will receive is the fact you have a boyfriend and that she might not be willing to deal with her feelings... But it looks like its on to me... Keep me posted on this one..Question: would you leave your boyfriend and would you be willing to have a relationship with her?
2006-10-26 06:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it's buggin' u this much, then just be honest and tell her how u feel. You'll never know until u try. Atleast u won't get ur feelings bottled up. Take a risk and take the plunge. If she does acknowledge, then go for it. If not, then u could just be friends. Good luck.
2006-10-26 19:33:05 · answer #2 · answered by mags 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds good.
Best relationships are built on this type of chemistry.
2006-10-26 05:27:49 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Ask her out...you already know that she's at least gay friendly...the worst that she can say is that she's not interested or not a lesbian.
2006-10-26 06:48:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
you have a good chance of hooking up with her if u r honest with her. but then again i have no clue. ask her how would she feel about being with a woman.
2006-10-26 06:52:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Leave her alone and find yourself a good man.
2006-10-26 05:46:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
sounds to me like you are bi curious kiss her and find out!
2006-10-26 05:27:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Just say it..what have you got to lose?
2006-10-26 07:25:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
sounds good, you never know, good luck
2006-10-26 05:26:34 · answer #9 · answered by TRACER 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋