My ex-boyfriend is cool, but ever since we broke up he's been following the wrong crowd. He's using drugs now, cutting class,and it seems that no one can get throuhg to him. I tried to help him, but all he does is push away. I talk to him from time to time, but when I bring up his situation he doen't want to talk about it. Should I just leave him alone and let him figure it out for himself of should I continue and try to help him?
2006-10-26 05:21:13 · 12 answers · asked by Chocolate Chip 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
give it one more try, get him somewhere you can talk and tell him you only want what is best for him, and you cam see that he is headed down the wrong road. if he pushes you away there is nothing more you can do, but if he accepts your help you need to really be there for him, not just in words, but in actions.
2006-10-26 05:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is lots you can do and even if he's your ex I'm glad to see there are people who still care about people. I bet losing you has caused him a great blow. Perhaps he feels he is a failure. Reassure positive things about him. Eventually if you must rat him out to parents and school.Do it before his behavior gets him arrested or ruins his life for too many years. When you talk to him about his actions be sure you don't judge and criticize but focus on the pro's and cons of what he's doing. Ex. marijuana while it might be great for glaucoma has proven to be bad for the brain because it surrounds the brains cell destorting reality perception, oxygen and renewel. Over years the time it takes to leave the body is longer and perception is much worse. These people rarely get along with others and will justify using it which is a problem within its self. Bottom line, educate yourself to educate him if you want to be of help if not get help.
2006-10-26 05:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by I don't get it 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out the deeper reasons why he wants to be with you again. Is it just that he wants the "familiar" again? Is he really committed to you? Compare the two guys. Who has more to offer? Why did you break up? Was it just that it was a long-distance relationship, or was something more serious involved? Explore those reasons for the previous break-up, and ask yourself if those scenerios would be repeated. If you think they will be, don't get back with him. Also consider your current boyfriend. Is he good to you? Have you had any problems in your relationship? Can you live with yourself if you break up, or will he become the "man who got away?" All things to consider - but ultimately do what will make you happy. Just be smart about it. Good luck!
2016-03-28 08:15:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes after a break up people do the opposite of what they previously were - calling themselves breaking ties
appreciate that you are concerned about his overall welfare - that is a sign of the true friend you were also
if he will not talk with you about it- then you have to allow him the space he claims he needs
these things generally run a cycle and then the person figures out where they really want to be
be patient with him but make it clear(if desired) that you are as close as a call or text if needed as a friend
2006-10-26 05:27:06 · answer #4 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have learned that regardless of what you say, the person will make their own decision. If no one can get through to him now, you will just have to be patient. Just be there as a friend to offer advice when he asks or be there to pick up the pieces.
Some people come out of it, some don't, but regardless, it is their life.
2006-10-26 05:33:05 · answer #5 · answered by Kya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you still care. You can only do so much. If you are satisfied with what you have done and he still doesn't respond than it's time to let him find out for himself!!!!
2006-10-26 05:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by tetr totr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all
Just be thankful he's your ex.
It sounds bad.
If he hasn't listened to you by now ,
I don't think he will.
I would just tell him nicely, no fussing.
" I have tried to help you, you will not listen.
I care about your well being ,but I've done all I can.
It's up to you now, I will just butt out."
2006-10-26 05:38:03 · answer #7 · answered by eviechatter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. It's his life and he does not want you in it. You've done what you can, which is more than most would, but he's not receptive and needs to sort it out on his own.
2006-10-26 05:23:35 · answer #8 · answered by Brainiac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go! Hard head makes a soft a*s!
2006-10-26 05:25:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not able to approach him better go to your school counselor. for old times sake.
2006-10-26 05:24:50 · answer #10 · answered by shorams 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋