why is guys dont lisen to what women say?

Question

when u ask something and they ignore what u say

Answer 1

I think men and women are so different it always amazes me that we can even get along with them long enough to reproduce!!!

Men listen in a totally different way than women. Men focus on action, plans, and solutions- while women hear more about relationships and feelings. If a woman wants a guy to really hear what she has to say- she needs to be clear and concise. Get to the point quickly, say what you want from him, then make sure he understands.

Like this:
- I felt really upset at work today because the boss didnt like my suggestion.
- Will you listen to my idea?
- Tell me what you think about it?

I think men tend to have shorted attention spans than women too- bc talking endlessly about feelings and relationships (he did that and she said this) just aren't fundamentally as interesting to them as planning action steps would be. When you present them with what they perceive as a problem- they want to fix it- not talk about how it made you feel. Just a difference between the sexes...

In any rate- my suggestion is that if you say something to a guy that you want to know that he has heard and understood- ask him if he knows what you mean, or if he understands what you just said. Call him on his inattention by asking him to repeat what you said. And then correct his misunderstandings.

Good luck.

Answer 2

We don't listen because you talk too much and give too much information. After a while, we don't hear anything at all.

I'll be married for 15 years next month, we love each other more and more everyday. She knows I'm not listening. I tell her, just tell me where and when and let out all the other stuff.

The bottom line is that women give too much information.

Answer 3

Oh, they listen. Listening and doing what she says are two different things. Women always complain that the guys don't listen because women don't get their way. What's happening is that men IGNORE a lot. Sometimes refered to as: bitching.

Answer 4

Men are analitical women are emotional in thought patterns, Men have a shorter attention span therefore a woman must get to the point quickly or she will loose them. If you want to have a meannigful conversation call a girlfriend, never expect a man to be able to commiserate with you or be empathetic, its just not in their genetic makeup.They aren't wired for that, Men are "fixers" women just want to vent and work the issue out, we're on two different avenues. Men see that you have aproblem and they go int o "Mr. fixit mode" and when you are done talking they will give you their response wich is usually some kind of inane thing like for example,"oh yeah honey if Mary was short with you on the phone just dont call her again." and they go back to watching the game on TV. You just poured your heart out to him about your feelings and thats all you get? YEP! thats it becasue they see it as problem solved. The best thing I ever did for myself on this was to get the book "men are from Mars, women are from venus" Its amazing how much that helped my marriage communication and also in the workplace dealing with male coworkers. Just remember guys dont mean to be unattentive, or unconcerned they are just from a different planet than us. Take care

Answer 5

I listen to my gf all the time. You just have a man who thinks that what you say isn't important. Try a different guy.

Answer 6

Men and Women have been separated by a common language for centuries.

Example:

YES means either "I agree", or "I hear what you are saying, but I haven't decided yet"

Answer 7

Listening and responding are 2 different things. Most times they hear you, they just don't respond. Sometimes they don't know what to say, sometimes they really don't care, sometimes they are just scared to say the wrong thing...

Answer 8

guys listen but as is their nature they need just the details .women love to ramble on and on and when he gets bored it shows bcos men are poor pretenders

Answer 9

Because girls go into great details while men just cover the basics and the details are uninteresting to them. Girls will go into 5 different stories before they finish one he he its funnny

Answer 10

Well thats a guy for ya but i'm sure if you were to say hey i'm Naked they would listen i've use that on my hubby many times hehe and it seem to work.