and why would they make them choose by sitting at a certain table then seeing which table her son will sit at if it's with me or her instead of sitting with me. this lady acts so stupid why is that
2006-10-26 04:57:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This can go both ways.
Either she hasn't noticed her son has grown up and taken a wife and she needs to back off... or in her eyes you are the total moron that she didn't want her son to marry in the first place so she feels the need to interfear.
Either way, she is making him choose. She is wrong to do that.
It's all about how much you let her get to you. Just remember, he goes home to be with you not her anymore. You are female aren't you?
2006-10-26 05:20:39 · answer #1 · answered by woooh! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In my experience, the daughter in law feels as though she is in competition with her mother in law. My fiance's mom does some crazy things. She calls 10 to 20 times a day, makes surprise visits several times a week, and then likes to snoop through my belongings. If you look at one of my last questions you'll see what I mean. It makes me feel as though she's trying to control my fiance's and mine relationship. When we are all together she talks to both of us but as soon as I try to say something to my fiance or ask him a question that is related to the topic of conversation, she talks right over me. I love her dearly, but it makes me uncomfortable. I think she feels that I am taking her only son away from her This is why I can be jealous of my mother in law. Daughter in Laws can sometimes feel as though the mother is trying to win her son over to her. Whether that is the case or not. This is not always the situation but I know it can be in some. While I love my mother in law I do find myself getting jealous that I can't just spend a nice dinner out with him without receiving 2 calls from Mom.
2016-05-21 22:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you would call it jealousy, more like, um protective of their sons. You are in fact kind permanently taking over her position, and on top of that you are sleeping with HER son, and you will be the one to raise HER grandchildren. My mother in law is at times unbearable, but I always try to see things through her eyes and it helps me to understand her, especially now that I have my own son, although he is only 2, I am at times a little jealous when he gives his paternal grandmother kisses.
2006-10-26 05:06:00 · answer #3 · answered by NestleGirl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because they are f***ing CRAZY! Trust me it may never get any better (BTW - have you seen the movie Monster-in-Law? It's a good one) They are reluctant to let their sons go - they got so used to being the ONLY woman in their sons' lives that they cant stand to see someone else step in. Sounds to me like she's just acting completely childish and I think it may be a good idea to have your husband talk to her about it if it continues or gets any worse. (You doing it won't help - she'll just get defensive)
2006-10-26 05:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You answered the question,some people are just stupid.Listen if this is your mom-in-law then ignoree her behavior,laugh at the silly things she does.If you don't live with her ignor her .When you are together pretend to her that you don't even notice her baits and still keep your self cheerful because after all it's she who has the problem and not you and don't make her your problem.
2006-10-26 05:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because you are taking away her little boy. Most mothers are very picky about the girls thier son brings home. She just wants to keep her son close. So you know what, let him sit with her. Cause the rest of the time, he is with you.
2006-10-26 05:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by . . * h o n e y * . . 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
After being married a really long time and having a not-so-good relationship at first I finally realized she thought she would be put on the side and she wasn't going to let that happen.
After my mother "clued" me in...I started including her in things and letting her have the place beside him, asking her opinion about cooking, etc. and presto things changed.
We have a wonderful relationship now...she's accepted her place and mine in his life...and we love each other.
2006-10-26 05:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably a looks thing. She's probably jealous of you. Or, she probably has that, "No one is good enough for my son" thing. She can pretty much go to hell. And if your husband keeps choosing her over you, there's a problem. Good luck.
2006-10-26 05:00:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they feel like you stole there son form them, this problem has been going on for centuries, the only advice I have is to talk to her, maybe not about your situation, but about other things, tv or antiques, or who know, she will lighten up, hopefully
2006-10-26 05:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a sick little game of control that they like to play. Do not play it with her just smile and be nice to her. Also some daughter-in-laws can be just as nasty to the mom-in-law. Just be sweet to her anyway, and your loving husband will appreicate you putting up with his mom and her weirdness. Trust me, he thinks she is wonderful anyway, and this is a no win situation. Do not make the mistake of trying to make him choose between you.
2006-10-26 05:01:35 · answer #10 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋