well i have been with this guy for 5 years and every thing is great and all, but last night he took me out to eat,(keep in mind , that im bearly going to be 18 in a few months) ive been with this guys ever since middle school. last night was great, unill he poped the question, he aske me to marrie him. i thought i loved him, but when he asked me last night i thought about every thing and now im not even suer about how i feel.
2006-10-26 04:53:17 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you can't spell marry and marriage,
you shouldn't get married,.
you should wait and go to college
2006-10-26 04:55:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
This is a really tough decision because although you are young the two of you have shared 5 years together. Your boyfriend probably feels like he is at a cross road with you. He doesn't want to lose you and one or both of you may be going to college so he may feel this is the only way to keep you. If you are not ready for marriage then just tell him that. You are so young, marriage can wait. I'm not saying it can't work but just be sure because marriage is forever! You need to go over your feelings and if you are ready go for it!! If not then wait it out. Love is a fabulous thing. If you are ready for it.
2006-10-26 05:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by Me, again 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've been with him since you were 12? You've had no time with anyone else. Some marriages work like this but it sounds as if you aren't totally in love with him. You may love him, but if you are going to marry him, that should have been the highlight of the evening. Maybe you need a little break. Or perhaps you should go for some counseling in order to figure out what you really want.
2006-10-26 05:01:57 · answer #3 · answered by Lioness 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is too soon for marriage. You have a lot of years to think about marriage. You are questioning it, so you know it's not for you right now. So you have to tell him your not sure you want to get married right now. You have been with him for 5 years, but during those years you were growing up. He has been at your side the whole time, so you are use to having him around. It may be that he is NOT the one for you. My suggestion is for you to continue with your life and get some of life experiences before you even think of marriage. I think your too young, you have more growing up to do, and you deserve your freedom at this age. Marriage is suppose to be a life contract. Are you ready for that? I think not. You said yourself, "im not so sure". That in itself is your answer.
2006-10-26 05:52:12 · answer #4 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you started dating at 13 I am not sure that you two have had time for anything or anyone else. I don't think it is too early..If you two truely love each other and you want to be with him forever than go for it. Just know that marriage is forever and divorce is not an option. Make sure that you know this is what you want. If you are having doubts though dont make a decision until you know for sure.
Good Luck, sounds tough
2006-10-26 04:57:28 · answer #5 · answered by Happy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As you become more of a woman there will be things that you may not like anymore. And marriage can be very confusing if your not really mature..Weight out all of your options before you choose to jump the broom. Stay engaged for 3 years before you get married.
2006-10-26 07:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by Bernie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup. Too Soon.
#1. You're a baby. Believe me, 18 feels like you're moving up, you're an adult now, etc... but you're still a baby!
#2. You've only been with one guy for 5 years? You need to get out and live and date and try new boys and learn and grow!
#3. You have reservations. That's NEVER a good way to start a marriage process.
2006-10-26 04:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you need to wait!!!! you just asking this question shows to me you are not ready!!! if he loves you and it was meant to be he will understand! You change so much in just the few years after high school and college!!! you learn so much. you need to have fun before you get married! marriage is a commitment! you have to be 100% ready if you want to make it work!!! Love is so diffrent when you are a little older. you have so many more years ahead of you! dont rush into being a grownup!! Stay young as long as possible!!!! who knows, it could work if you do it now. but i say wait and it will be much better if you are CERTAIN!!!
Good luck
2006-10-26 05:05:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If this is the right time then there would be no question. Go with your gut feeling. My advise would be to ask for a long engagement, until you know for sure that he is the one and this is the right time. Before you get wrapped up in the wedding planning, plan the rest of you life first.
2006-10-26 05:01:38 · answer #9 · answered by Terry S 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you need to tell him you are not ready you are still young you think you love him but really you havent experianced any other way of a man loving you. I thought i was ready with my guy from shcool when i was 16 but now 12 years later and after 8 years fo marriage we are getting divorced because we love each other but we are not in love with each other and we werent able to be strong enough to carry on a marriage like that.
2006-10-26 04:56:40 · answer #10 · answered by vomissie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are too young for marriage. You need to work on your career before getting married. And when he ask you, you had a doubt by the way your article read, I would not marry him. You have a long life ahead.
2006-10-26 05:00:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋