plez help me!! i just need a little uplifter to help! WE R 2 YOUNG 2 DRINK!! Any advice 4 me? i m a christian so plez try 2 follow dose guidlinez! and plez don't tell me something like 'take her shopping!'! i hate it when people give crudy advice like dat! so plez, i greatly appreceate your help!! thank you, and god bless!!
2006-10-26 04:48:55 · 19 answers · asked by ichigo_mixed_with_aelita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Go see a movie and escape from the world for a few hours, and maybe make it a regular thing. She just needs a good mate, and it sounds like you are one !
2006-10-26 04:51:06 · answer #1 · answered by AT 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure why your friend is depressed, but I would certainly like to try and help you. Going to Church is one the best thing you could have done for her. She's very lucky to have such a good and caring friend.
Depression is a illness, it's a real as a common cold. Your friend may have to seek medical treatment if this has been going on for awhile. Or if she's suicidal. Honey, ask her what she would like for you to do. Tell her you are unsure of how to help her. I suffer from depression, and people are very nice, but they just don't ask. I would like someone just to ask me. Some days, I may just need a shoulder to cry on, the next day I may need someone to laugh at my stupid jokes, it's different for people, and different moods.
Taking her shopping isn't just a bad idea. Window shop, go to the mall, tell her you want to dress up and cruise the mall. Go try on clothes, jewerly..get out in the public. Have some fun, Go to Chunky Cheese and act little kids. Help her with a new look, hair cut, and go through the closets and make new outfits. Spending time together, could be just watching a movie, with a big bowl of popcorn in between the two of you. Have a all night movie festival with some other friends..it's Halloween do a scary movie night, everyone bring their favorite scary movie, and snack.
Just being her friend is the most important thing, and letting her know that you care is a blessing. I am a Christian also, and God has bless her with a loving angel to help her through this...you!
God bless us all.........
2006-10-26 12:00:36 · answer #2 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't the both of you join a jazz dance class together or take up playing an instrument. Get a hobby that you 2 can do together or maybe do some volunteer work at your nearest hospital. Maybe once she sees how really sick other people are she will then recognize how blessed she is.
2006-10-26 11:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might help knowing your age before giving advice but as you are too young to drink I'm guessing you both are teenagers.
One important thing is to try to keep your friend busy to take her mind off her crush. Try to be silly and do something fun together. It doesn't have to cost money if you don't have it.
If they are still in contact, maybe you could contact the crush and ask him/her to send her a cheerful email or ring her once in a while.
2006-10-26 12:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by IC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok board girl, what is she depressed about, you need to address the situation, one thing you could do is call your youth pastor, and get a appointment with you and her, It is his job to sit down and talk to you, and from there, just plug into as many church activities, as you can, Wednesday night, Sundays, you know your Church, and what they have going on, if there's nothing going on, make something up, invite some of the girls over for popcorn and a movie, and then go TP one of the boys houses, get you parents permission, heck, my mom used to help us, she was the worst one of the bunch, but you need to address the situation of why she is depressed, if not your putting a band aid over a open wound.
God Bless
2006-10-26 11:58:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have always found that the best way to cheer up a friend is to just be there for them, and it sounds like your on the right track there..... Maby a sleep-over, with her favourite movies, and snacks...(making shmores always cheers me up) Tell her your open to chat about whats bothering her, and that no matter what you always will be!!! With a good friend on her side, theres nothing a gal can't do!!!!!
Sweet and simple, just continue to be the great friend you are to her, friendship is more valuable then anything!!!
hope i could help!!
SMJ
2006-10-26 11:54:42 · answer #6 · answered by Sara mary jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is the problem i face every month so the best output to it is to listen to her n make her calm , make her realise that she is lightening her heart by telling u. don't do or say anything that hurts her. listen to her even if she repeats it for a thousand times, never say u told it, it would stop her telling or sharing it, n remember everytime she tells u the better she'll feel . so keep pursuing her to talk about the topic she is depresssed on, so that it'll lighten her. if she wanna cry let her n say to cry at her full or scream as it would burst the hidden sadness n memories out n she'll feel much better.
best wishes for u n ur frnd. i pray she gets out of her depression.
2006-10-26 12:11:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Last night I bought my brother two books and i'm having them shipped to him. I bought him" you are what you think "and" think about it,1001 things to think about without God". The first is a self help the second is to make him laugh.
Other than that she needs to focus on solutions not dwell on problems and sadness .By indulging in a project or a hobby or doing somethings to help others will be uplifting in this crazy life.
2006-10-26 12:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by I don't get it 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be there for her. Sometimes that's all that someone needs is a shoulder to cry on and a hug. Pray for her every day and call to check on her. Try to do something fun together over the weekend to lift her spirits. I still think the best thing you can do is just be there for her.
2006-10-26 13:11:10 · answer #9 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm afraid to give any advice...in case you get upset.
How about something physical...maybe join an exercise class or go walking together.
Endorphins which help control depression is raised during exercise.
If this isn't want you wanted to hear....don't hate me. LOL
2006-10-26 11:53:22 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋