I know this is more of a moral question but who has morals now days? What if you find out (after you have gone out a few times) that the person you are dating is the parent of one of your friends child. Should you keep dating because that is the past (5 or more years), should you back out before it gets deeper, or last but not lease talk with the friend (who has been a another relationship……….)
Yes I would be mad if it were me but if I have moved on I would want my ex to do the same. As long as it is a nice person I would be happy for them......
2006-10-26 04:31:55 · 29 answers · asked by Lady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Actually it sounds like you have morals. The fact that you are asking the question is enough to tell me you feel it is wrong. Anytime you feel something is wrong it is. If you go ahead you will have regrets and feel badly and it may cost the relationship anyway, not a pretty picture. It is better to end it before it gets more involved. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
2006-10-26 04:36:24 · answer #1 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there are quite some factors. How close are they as a buddy? How quickly did they sleep such as your ex? How became your breakup such as your ex? How did they disclose this to you (if in any respect). It relies upon on the problem. If the guy became a close buddy, yet a real looking era of time had elapsed, say some months, and that i stumbled on out, I cant say i'd be indignant. If it became at present after breaking apart with them, and it were a nasty breakup, then i'd be very indignant. It quite comes right down to the specifics of a difficulty. with a bit of luck it really is positive in providing you with some inquiries to ask your self even if you're uncertain the way you experience about it.
2016-12-05 06:15:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think putting those restrictions on your relationships is silly.
It deprives you of happiness. I think the only problem would be dating someone underage or with a big power difference (like your student or employee). I see no moral problem with dating a friend's ex or the parent of a friend or whatever. Seek happiness.
Where there is a real moral problem (like children involved or people who cannot consent) then back off.
2006-10-26 04:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are still people with morals left...
It seems like it will be a decision of who's more important, this guy, or your friend, chances are, you won't be able to keep both, and what kind of a guy is he if he has a child, and if you didn't know he was the father of your friends child from years ago, obviously, he got her pregnant, and isn't around for his kid. Do you really want to be with someone who will potentially do this to you?
2006-10-26 04:36:08 · answer #4 · answered by sleepless_in_ny2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your friend and let them know that you have met their ex and have been seeing them. Some people have a problem giving up relationships that ended and can still feel hurt that you, their friend would consider it. Best to always ask first. Watch expressions when you do. They can say things words don't say all the time.
2006-10-26 04:38:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your friend ... explain to her that you met this really nice guy and have gone out a few times .... during the conversation you two were having you learned who he was to her ... then ask for her inoput ....would she feel funny if you kept seeing this guy or not...... tell her you value the friend ship and don't want to do anything to damage it.......
See what happens..... If your friend is passed the "event" stage of dating him it will work in your favor ... if not you have a hard decision to make ...... Guys come and go (literally) but a good friend is hard to find....
Think hard, Choose well !
2006-10-26 04:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you think? Is there a future in this relationship? Or will he get you pregnant and move ion like he did with your friend. Find another lover a good and moral man.
2006-10-26 04:35:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. This situation has Bad Mojo written all over it.
But, if you insist, just call Jerry Springer and see if you can get on his show. I'm sure it'll be a snap.
Just because you don't think that people have any morals doesn't mean it's cool to jump on that bed-wagon.
2006-10-26 04:35:17 · answer #8 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on the situation. I dated and then married the ex-husband of one of my best friends. They had been married for a couple years and divorced 15 years ago. When I accidentally bumped into him and we started talking, I talked to my friend and asked her ... do you have any problems with me seeing ____ (ex's name) on a regular, dating basis? She said no, he was a great guy but they just didn't work together. 5 years later, we're going to celebrate our 4th year together and our 2nd wedding anniversary. I'm still friends with my friend, and all of us get along. Talk to your friend, and go from there.
2006-10-26 04:38:44 · answer #9 · answered by kc_warpaint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so here is my view...
I came from a really small town. Everyone dated everyone. Babies mommas and daddies. If you two feel for each other then go for it. Just follow you heart. You can't help who you care about. Five years is plenty of time to get over someone. I don't think you should have to "ask" permission from anyone.
2006-10-26 04:35:40 · answer #10 · answered by Happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋