Ever since I became pregnant I feel like a different species! Even though I am very lucky to h ave a great husband and family and friends. I feel like a complete outcast sometimes. But my friends dont call me as much now, probably because I cant drink anymore. I know I am probably just being silly and I know my emotions are all over the place but when I get a little depressed, I dont even want to talk to anyone anymore, they just say. You are just pregnant. AHH! Just wondering if anyone else has felt this way at times.
2006-10-26 04:24:20 · 9 answers · asked by Heather T 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
yep i feel left out too, its normal I guess even with your spouse , because there really is no point to go to a bar, to watch them drink and so on. but just remember what your doing is way better then going out and drinking,etc.
2006-10-26 05:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by lisamarie7901 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, nothing to worry about, when you are pregnant you always feel that know one cares, except for the husband. It is true though that some friends do not call you that often because now you are responsible for another life, and cannot do the things that you did before, that is for sure. But don't worry you will a fine looking chick (hope you don't mind the word chick) in no time. Usually after you have a baby things will change also, your circle of friend has to change a bit. Now you are a parent and have to include the little one in things that you do, so you will probably find friends with children also. Even though you can still be friends with those that don't have children, it will not be the same. But think about this way, you will have more friends.
As far as you feeling alone, you are not. I am sure you have your family, husband and friends that still call you and visit you. Try going out, you don't have to drink alcohol, get a soda, but still go out, so that you will not go into a depression that will stay with you after your precious baby is born. Get dressed, look pretty as I'm sure you always do. Take care of yourself and may God give you and your baby a grand life. Congratulations my Dear.
2006-10-26 11:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends sound like "fair weather friends" which you should just get rid of if they don't want to hang around during this happy time in your life.
It's totally normal to be depressed right now. Aside from the hormones, you are thinking about how different your life will be.
And your body now belongs to the baby. It is overwhelming at times and it's perfectly all right to have the blues. If your feelings continue to be bad, talk to your doctor about an anti-depressant that would be safe to take during pregnancy. If your doctor says no, be sure to ask about St Johns Wort. It's a natural vitamin that works as a mood lifter.
2006-10-26 11:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by concretebrunette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!!! You're not alone to feel that way! Friends do have a tendency to not call b/c you're not able to do certain things anymore. They just don't want to invite you b/c they probably feel that you'll be uncomfortable and feel like you're missing out on the action b/c you can't party right along w/ them. I turned 21 when I was 3 mos pregnant w/ my daughter and I still went out to the bars (just b/c I could legally!) big belly and all! One positive thing that you can do is be the designated driver for your friends! That way you can hang out w/ them and know that they'll be getting home safely thanks to you!
2006-10-26 11:36:32 · answer #4 · answered by gretchen372002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally felt that way when I was pregnant (just had a baby five weeks ago). Everyone treats you like you're so fragile, and they don't treat you like a person. It will get better! One thing you have to be aware of, though, is if you are easily depressed during pregnancy (I was), you have a greater risk for post partum depression. Just watch for the symptoms and be aware. Good luck and congratulations!
2006-10-26 11:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by momof3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
id say go to a therapist or support group.
you are in danger of post- partum or other depression.
growing up isn't all the fun.
your going though a period of change and have to be more focused an mature.now.
hang with other mommies and daddies to be or new mommies and daddies learn and find more in common!.
move onto the next step.the future.
not everyone will come with you.
2006-10-26 11:38:49 · answer #6 · answered by macdoodle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, believe me, we all felt this way. You will probably feel even more like this after the baby comes. Don't worry, it gets better!
2006-10-26 11:46:27 · answer #7 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that way ALL the time(and I can't say it's because I'm pregnant, 'cuz I'm not)...
2006-10-26 11:36:00 · answer #8 · answered by memphisms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes i feel like somebody's watching me, and i have no privacy!
2006-10-26 11:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by Roger S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋