2006-10-26 04:23:51 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes. It takes a lot of counseling and a lot of love between the two people but it can and does happen. Building back trust is the biggest issue and without trust there can be no happy marriage.
I went through this issue even through a final divorce then my former wife and I decided we loved each other more than we did anyone else so we got back together. We lived together for a year then were remarried. We have been very happy together.
She spent two years in counseling and I am still in counseling (but for other reasons as well) but we were determined to make it work. She still calls me on the cell phone when she is going to be late or if she is going shopping or something. I can call her on the cell anytime I feel insecure or I call her desk at work. Just because she answers the cell does not mean she is where she says she is but so far it has been 100% right.
It takes more work to make a marriage work after one partner has had an affair than it does to make a marriage work from the beginning but, in some cases, it is worth making the effort.
2006-10-26 08:22:41 · answer #1 · answered by SevenZulu 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is. See what people dont understand is that its both partners that make a partner cheat. Ive been on both sides of the argument but not with the same person. This time i was the cheater. You both have to admit where you both went wrong at that time, maybe one worked too much while the other stayed home with the kids all the time. That could result in major feelings of neglect. See with action there is and equal or opposite reaction thats why I say Its both partners, unless the cheater is just plain selfish and didnt care why they did it or who they hurt in the process. do this... Admit Forget and Move on. Admit where you you guys went wrong and forgive because that is the only thing that will save your heart is to forgive. Then move on start something new withyour relationship like new moves in bed that you two didnt ever do before. Make it exciting and if youre the cheater then make the other comfortable like they are the only one in the world for you and you can change. If they were the cheater, dont hold it to them for the rest of their lives because they may begin to resent the fact that they came back in the first place you know what I mean. Or you just may make them feel so guilty that they cant bare to put you through anymore pain so they end up leaving. Just remember its not the end of the world and this can be overcome. Cheating is the hardest of all to over come so good luck and God Bless.
2006-10-26 11:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by raylenejade 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I believe that it is possible to have a happy marriage after one has cheated. My husband had an affair several years ago. After going to marriage counseling I decided to stay. In order to be happy though, both parties must find out what caused the other to cheat. You must work together to fix it, and always be open and honest with one another.
2006-10-26 11:28:33 · answer #3 · answered by sympatheticmom 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Being cheated on by your partner is something that forever changes the relationship.That person doesn't even look the same to you and the special part of the love is gone,trust.It's like when Adam and Eve ate the fruit and their eyes were opened and they saw what betrayal looked like.I don't think things will ever be the same but things are suppose to change.If you want to trust again then by all means go ahead,but can you ever really ????
2006-10-26 11:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes..the one who has strayed can be given another chance as long as they realise the hurt and shame they brought on their family. If they are willing to be faithful forever it's very much worth another try. Don't be too hard on them for they have self loathing at this point and are ashamed of what they have done. People who know about it will not treat them the same again so tell as few people as possible. God said to forgive and forget....to start each day new.
Love can get you both through this. It will be easier as time goes by. Do not bring it up ever again.
2006-10-26 11:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by debbie2243 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Possible, yes...probable, no... The problem with cheating is it destroys trust and while you may love and forgive someone often you still don't fully trust them. Without trust a marriage can never be as wonderful as possible.
2006-10-26 11:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by rkrell 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
WONDERFUL HAPPY-
I think a good marriage is hard
A happy marriage takes lots of additional work
A WONDERFUL happy marriage is unrealistic which could be why one of you cheated.
2006-10-26 11:34:58 · answer #7 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no way the 3 most important things in a marriage are TRUST, HONESTY, and RESPECT when any one those things are betrayed and in your case all 3 are, there is no marriage. DIVORCE!!! save yourself all the misery awaiting you if you stay
2006-10-26 11:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by A Proud Marine's Daughter 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if you are both committed to make it work, you can do it. It will be very hard. Marriage counseling weekly is a must...you won't get past the issues without it.
2006-10-26 11:27:36 · answer #9 · answered by draws_with_crayons 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
yes it is. i am living proof. a man usualy cheats because something is wrong at home. and another girl makes them believe they can do better. that is what happened to me. fortunately what caused him to stray i could change.now we have reconciled and he has earned my trust back. so yes if you love him enough, then you can get it all back.it will take time.but it is possible.
2006-10-26 11:35:30 · answer #10 · answered by Thumbs down me now 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋